dh pissed about a hug

Tonight we went out for sil's birthday. My bil asked for a hug for some reason. I gave him the hug that was that. Dh got pissed because of it. He asked if I was cheating on him with his brother and all this smurf. I have had some issues in the past with his brother pretending to touch my boobs, and butt but he hasn't for a long time because I told him it bothered me.I don't know why it was a big deal to give him a hug, when dh gives my sister hugs all the time. So annoying! Would your dh or so be pissed?

We hug friends of the opposite sex all the time, and family. DH wouldnt care at all. I dont either.

No I always hug my bil. Unless there is a reason for him to be mad about it I'd tell him to grow up.

My DH wouldn't. Only because he knows I don't like either of his brothers that way. I went to school with his youngest brother. I love him to death but not in a way that DH would ask something like that. I use to hate him LOL his other brother we don't see very much because he got married to a girl who hates us... Meh I would ask him if there was something going on that would make him feel that way.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sarah Bare-ah♡:</b>" We hug friends of the opposite sex all the time, and family. DH wouldnt care at all. I dont either."</blockquote>




This. And everybody gets a cheek kiss. No big deal here. Considered rude-ish if you don't.

If the girl had been known for groping my husband, I'd be posses about them hugging too.

Whenever I've been accused of cheating it was because the s/o at the time was cheating on me.. not to say that's the case but obviously your husband thinks he has a reason to be insecure.

DH would probably get more upset over me not hugging his brother than hugging him. I understand that there have been issues, but if it hasn't happened in a long time, your DH should try to move past it.

<blockquote><b>Quoting GuessWhosBack:</b>" Whenever I've been accused of cheating it was because the s/o at the time was cheating on me.. not to say that's the case but obviously your husband thinks he has a reason to be insecure."</blockquote>




This is a good point. Cheaters become hyper aware of the behaviors they force to cover up their own infidelity, that they often convince themselves that anyone doing what they do as in affection or manerisms, is also cheating.

That, or they create this wad of attention about YOU cheating, so you assume he would never do it.

No my husband wouldn't care he watched me hug my babies dad today when he bought my son to a family party, then he shook his hand and did like that *man hug* where they slap eachothers back...

And my husband *knows* me and him have had sex lol

Quoting GuessWhosBack:" Whenever I've been accused of cheating it was because the s/o at the time was cheating on me.. not to say that's the case but obviously your husband thinks he has a reason to be insecure."

I've had that happen to me, too.  

I think the reason he asked about the cheating is because I always got pissed when he would pretend to grab my boobs, but had no problem hugging him. Dh is just insecurel. Always has been. He has a smurffy self esteem and thinks that oneday I will decide I don't want to be with him. Drives me nuts

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~Hugh Jazz~:</b>" I think the reason he asked about the cheating is because I always got pissed when he would pretend to ... [snip!] ... Always has been. He has a smurffy self esteem and thinks that oneday I will decide I don't want to be with him. Drives me nuts"</blockquote>




It probably doesn't help when you go around hugging people who grope you

Quoting Red Bottom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ~Hugh Jazz~:</b>" I think the reason he asked about the cheating ... [snip!] ... to be with him. Drives me nuts"</blockquote> It probably doesn't help when you go around hugging people who grope you"

You make me sound like a slut. I never said he did touch me, he pretended, like it was a joke. His family has an odd sense of humor. He thought it was funny I did not. I honestly didn't think it was a big deal giving him a small hug.

Uhm he's got a pretty legitimate reason to be bothered imo. I'd be pissed if a female, friend, family, or acquaintance grouped my husband... if there were no previous issues, I wouldn't mind a hug.