Quoting LayLu:" Yeah, I read that he was just pretending after I posted that.. but still, that's probably where his ... [snip!] ... just talk with him and tell him you see his brother as nothing more than family, or maybe tell him to talk to his brother.."
He just has been insecure from day one. It is just who he is. And I hate it! I found out after we had been together for about 3 years why though. He has been put down his whole life. His parents suck. They never thought he would get married, get a job, move out of their house, anything. They told my SIL ( The wife of DH's brother) when she first got into the family, that they were afraid he would live with them his whole life. Now he has a job, not a career, but a decent job, where he excell's and makes more money than his mom, he owns a house, has a wife and son, and he is somewhat happy. He was recently diagnosed with depression, and he told me that his main problem is that he has never been told he is good at something until we started dating. He just has poor self esteem. I don't know how to help him. I know maybe hugging his brother won't help that, but I didn't think a hug would be that big of a deal.