re: Is this abuse o.O

i'd leave, thats not right.

RUN! Yes all of that is abuse.

And if you do separate, you can still go to couples counseling. Men who are like that are like that for a reason. They suffered abuse, or are very insecure (<---- ive found that one to be #1 reason for controlling behaviour) and whatever other problem they need to get help for.

smurf no. That is extremely wrong. This is just screaming abuse. Leave fast!!!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Brookie99:</b>" If my SO ever put his hands on my stomach in a threatening way while I was pregnant I would be gone sooo ... [snip!] ... actually hurting my unborn baby if I made him really mad... It worries me a lot that your belly is the first place he went for."</blockquote>



That is extremely worrying that the first place he put his hands was her belly, knowing that she is with child.

I thought it was abused before I even read that he put his hands on you!

holy smurf... hard or not thats smurfed. there are somethings you dont do. he is being abusive by pressing on your belly and by not letting you leave the house. you need to leave.

Quoting ((-31 Weeks-)):" I'm not sure how you're even wondering if that's abuse or not.... you just need to leave...like, now."

This!

I'm not sure how him pressing hard on your pregnant belly isn't obvious abuse to you. I would leave his ass.

Usually, if you have to ask if something's abuse, it is. To put his hands on you is one thing. One very horrible thing that he shouldn't EVER be doing. But he attacked your baby too... He already sounds controlling by not letting you leave the house, but to do that... that's psychotic, and physically abusive. You and your baby don't need to be around that.

Abusive and controlling.

That's uncalled for under any normal circumstances. But considering your pregnant meaning he was trying to hurt your unborn baby is even more scary

I'd leave his ass

What's he going to the baby once it's born

<blockquote><b>Quoting CokiMonsta:</b>" My boyfriend & I were arguing yesterday because he basically refused, as always, to let me leave the ... [snip!] ... are you doing?! And he replied with being an smurf. I have no idea what to think at this point, let alone know what to do."</blockquote>




Let's go with a "if you need to ask, the answer is yes" approach to this. I have never, ever been in a position where I thought "Is this abuse?" With my hubby and that's because he's extremely supportive, loving and if he is ever concerned about my being out of the house without him, it is because he fears for my safety and for no other reason.

pregnant or not. No man should his hands on any woman. I was abusive relationship. The sperm donor of my first child. Drag me across carpet because i didnt want to sleep next to him. i sleep that night scared to death lucky my dad got there and took me back to my hometown. I found out preg after i got back home. Little one is 5 now. So glad i didnt go back.Best decision of my life. Now i have a wonderful man. We might argue but his never laid a hand on me.Have beautiful little girl on the way. There is good man out there.

I told him I was leaving Wednesday, his response was if you don't tell me who&where you are going I wont let you back in when you return.....
I'm meeting with my mom and I'm going to tell her what happened, and she'll probably allow me to move back with her, if not make me. . .

if you could i would leave today. but if u have to wait till wed do it. Dont let him bully thats whats his doing