having my first panic about the new baby

I've felt secure and ready this whole pregnancy. We wanted this baby and tried for awhile for him. But this morning after not sleeping worth a flip, waking up to a house that looks like there was a frat party last night because my husband never learned that mysterious art of picking up his own smurf, dealing with the dog, the cat, and my very demanding child...I started to panic. How will I do this with a newborn?! My husband works 3rd shift so from monday morning to friday afternoon he is pretty much nonexistant in the house. So I will be doing this all by myself 24 hours a day almost 5 days a week. I do all the cleaning...all the cooking, pet care, child care, home maintenence, shopping and bill paying...I think reality just smurf punched me because adding a newborn to that is goint to about kill me. I know we can do it but I just never sat down and thought about how alone I was going to be in this. K, I'm gonna go have a cry now so I can calm down...

I felt that way while pregnant.

When your baby gets here you will kick into mommy mode. My advice would be to get your house really organized before LO gets here. Makes life easier.

and tell your DH to pick up his smurf! lol

Yep, I've been feeling this way, too. I wanted this baby more than anything, but I feel like I can barely handle my life right now. How am I going to make it work with another child?! I'm the one who works third shift in this relationship, and I honestly don't know how I'll do it with a toddler and a newborn. I can't even sleep as it is! My DH is the SAME way; he leaves his smurf everywhere. I'm tired of picking up after him and I'm tired of doing everything! Ugh, sorry for venting on your thread, but you're not alone in the way you feel.

For me, I'm not worried about throwing in a newborn and all their responsibilities. I'm just getting ready for the tense resentment feel my house is going to have because I know DH won't help with him. I do 100% of the housework as well.
I want him out because I'm uncomfortable but don't at the same time because I'm sad that DD won't be an only child anymore. I know that's stupid because we planned this and I wanted her to have siblings, but it's been so nice just having my princess  

This is my situation!

A two year old, a house that can not stay clean for an hour, three dogs, a duck, dh works day and night shifts, and a daughter due this m

This is my situation!

A two year old, a house that can not stay clean for an hour, three dogs, a duck, dh works day and night shifts, and a daughter due this month..

You're not alone, and I'm glad to now know I'm not either!
Lol

I think most moms can relate to this feeling at some point or another. I do understand, especially about the shift work. My husband is a firefighter and gone for 24 hour shifts at the time. He works 72 most weeks, plus he has a side job. So throughout the majority of the time it's me and the kids(we have 6-expecting our 7th May 30th)& it's challenging at times. My main goal is to take things a day at the time when I get overwhelmed. I'm a planner and thrive on organization so that can be hard, but really it's the only way to make it through sometimes. My best encouragement would be to do now what will make the biggest positive difference later--so if you like things organized, get that way now, just take 30 minutes a day in a room you want organized until its done--you'll be shocked at what a difference that makes in one weeks time! If you need meals, then maybe start buying your extra pans/casserole dishes each time you go to the store and then make a double batch of your favorites when you cook them and then freeze them--it's easy and helps when you are tired and out if ideas after baby arrives. I hope these things help you, everybody has hard days! Just try your best and remember life isn't an emergency--just do what you can, the rest can wait.