I don't want to.

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Venting. Feel free to ignore.
I am pro-choice. That's never been in question.
But I really don't want to have an abortion.
My husband thinks we should seriously consider it, my best friend thinks I should. I'm working on myself in therapy, but I want to make everyone else happy.
I can't do that this time.
A 14-15 month age gap is NOT unheard of, NOT the end of the world. Not what we planned, but we did plan on one more child.
There is such a thing as serendipity.
I'm telling myself, you can do this, you'll manage, you'll be okay. It'll be hard, but you're strong. It'll be worth it. It's what YOU want. You'll have your two and be done. Then he can have the snip, no problem. Your kids will grow up close. Just like you and your brother did, you were like best friends. You didn't feel like you had anything taken away from your childhood because he was there, and neither will Freya.

My husband will be here whatever the decision, I know that. He's told me that. And we do want one more. Now seems as good a time as any.
I think the panic and disbelief is beginning to settle. It's only been a little while since we found out and I'm like 4 weeks at most. It took like, a LONG time to get our heads around Freya there's no reason why this one won't take just as long. But I know we will love him or her just as much. Of course we will.

I want to keep this child.

Well I'm happy for you. I'm sure everything will be amazing <3

You can do it, Mama! It seems like you definitely want to keep the baby, so in that case, you probably should. You will make the right decision for you. *hugs*

hey hun i just wanted to say you do what is right for you. if you dont want to have an abortion then dont. never do anything like that that u dont feel 100% comfortable about because if you did decide to go through with it you would have to live with the guilt and remorse.

I believe you should never do something just to make someone else happy when it contradicts how you feel. With that being said.. it doesn't mean I can always abide by that. I know how hard it is to do something for yourself when it may not be what somebody else wants.
GL.

knowing you are so set on keeping it, i would keep it. like...if you are forced into it or persuaded there are much greater chances of you feeling regret or resent towards your husband.

it is totally do-able to have two kids so close, and hey, better to get it over with   logan is three now and if we had another its just like....reseting that 18 year button. i know its a challenge but a lot of people prefer to have kids close together.

im sure your husband will come around, its probably quite a shock to him now. its good you are sure he will stick with you no matter what.

Then keep the baby! I'm pro-choice as well but I feel having an abortion just because it happened sooner than you would prefer is wrong. I would never consider an abortion unless I was done having children.

Quoting BareFootBabyMaker:" Then keep the baby! I'm pro-choice as well but I feel having an abortion just because it happened sooner than you would prefer is wrong. I would never consider an abortion unless I was done having children."

for being pro choice you are very restricted and judgmental.
I dont think this forum is for comments like that.

<blockquote><b>Quoting cunning cuniculi:</b>" for being pro choice you are very restricted and judgmental. I dont think this forum is for comments like that. "</blockquote>




I don't see anything wrong with what she said. She kind of was agree with OP but worded it different. And she was just saying personally. But maybe there is a rule for as that I'm not aware of? I thought you just couldn't spout hateful nonsense? Or if the OP was stating they wanted to keep it then agree was ok?

I feel if you cant go into an abortion knowing you are 100% doing what is right for YOU, its not worth doing.

Good luck mama!

Quoting cunning cuniculi:" for being pro choice you are very restricted and judgmental. I dont think this forum is for comments like that. "

  no smurf.

Pro choice, the only reason you need is because the women says so

Quoting Jenna+1:" <blockquote><b>Quoting cunning cuniculi:</b>" for being pro choice you are very restricted ... [snip!] ... of? I thought you just couldn't spout hateful nonsense? Or if the OP was stating they wanted to keep it then agree was ok?"

well other people read these things, and judgmental comments are not appreciated here. im not a sensitive person but i took offence to that. my decision was wrong because i might want another kid? that is an insane restriction for someone that is pro choice.

Thanks everyone.

I feel so relieved to make this decision. This feels like the right one.

<blockquote><b>Quoting cunning cuniculi:</b>" well other people read these things, and judgmental comments are not appreciated here. im not a sensitive ... [snip!] ... to that. my decision was wrong because i might want another kid? that is an insane restriction for someone that is pro choice. "</blockquote>



Yeah, I can see that now. I guess I didn't read it the same way. If that's how she meant it, it is an odd restriction for pro choice.

Quoting cunning cuniculi:" well other people read these things, and judgmental comments are not appreciated here. im not a sensitive ... [snip!] ... to that. my decision was wrong because i might want another kid? that is an insane restriction for someone that is pro choice. "

Yeah, I understand where she's coming from, and that's her view, but AS probably isn't the right place.