re: I don't want to.

Quoting BareFootBabyMaker:" "

not the place for that smurf

The only people who's opinions matter in this situation are yours and your husbands.
Don't worry about pleasing everyone else.
Kudos to your man for sticking by you no matter what. I truly applaud him.
Sit down, and have a talk with over how you're feeling. You two will come to a decision together.
Good Luck in whatever you choose to do

Quoting Pirate Hooker {BAMW}:" The only people who's opinions matter in this situation are yours and your husbands. Don't worry about ... [snip!] ... and have a talk with over how you're feeling. You two will come to a decision together. Good Luck in whatever you choose to do"

He is a really good man (not just for this, of course, in general).
I think maybe it's the shock and that this soon wasn't part of the plan. He always says he wants another, we both do. Hopefully the shock will wear off in the weeks to come.

Quoting Lu⁺Freya:" He is a really good man (not just for this, of course, in general). I think maybe it's the shock and ... [snip!] ... wasn't part of the plan. He always says he wants another, we both do. Hopefully the shock will wear off in the weeks to come."

if it helps at all, rick was the same way with logan. we were still in college when i got pregnant, neither of us had real jobs. he was just like-steph, we cant do this...
i could not abort at that time, i just couldnt. i lost a baby years before and was still struggling immensely with that. there is no way at the time i could live with aborting though.
rick stuck with me, and at the first U/S he was just so happy. he fell in love lol. it is probably just the shock factor now, and it is a big thing to face for both of you. I hope your man comes around quickly. Good luck <3

Quoting cunning cuniculi:" if it helps at all, rick was the same way with logan. we were still in college when i got pregnant, ... [snip!] ... just the shock factor now, and it is a big thing to face for both of you. I hope your man comes around quickly. Good luck <3"

Yeah, he was really shocked with Freya- even though she was planned. It took a while to sink in, but when he saw her on the scan he was just amazed. Still scared, but who isn't when they have a baby? Lol.
I know he will be okay. We'll be okay.

Quoting Lu⁺Freya:" Yeah, he was really shocked with Freya- even though she was planned. It took a while to sink in, but ... [snip!] ... on the scan he was just amazed. Still scared, but who isn't when they have a baby? Lol. I know he will be okay. We'll be okay."

thats good  
shout any time you need support, lots of ladies here been in the same spot.

Quoting cunning cuniculi:" thats good   shout any time you need support, lots of ladies here been in the same spot. "

Thank you <3