Hurt..

DH went out with some friends and drank too much. I'm trying to keep that fact in my mind, but my feelings are so hurt. DH is being such an angry drunk, which isn't normal for him. He is 2 1/2 hours away from home, drunk...wayy drunk, and in an area he isnt too familiar with. I talked to him around 11 and he was so far gone and just angry. I texted him the number for a local cab company and the address to his hotel so he would get back safe. Closing time rolls around and I didn't hear from him. I waited a bit, and tried calling his phone. It was off. Then the worrier I am, started to worry his phone died and wasn't able to call a cab. I didn't want him driving or getting in the car with another drunk driver. So for peace of mind, I called his hotel. Thankfully he was there and safe, but he went off on me. Calling me a maniac for caling the hotel looking for him. Im so smurfing stupid and telling me he wants a divorce. Saying I didn't call bc I was worried, but bc Im a maniac. Wtf, dude?

He said so many out of left field, hurtful things. I'm trying not to take it personal since he's so drunk, but it hurts.

I would just ignore him when he tries to call you tomorrow ... and then subtley bring up the fact that he wants a divorce

<blockquote><b>Quoting Destiel:</b>" I would just ignore him when he tries to call you tomorrow ... and then subtley bring up the fact that he wants a divorce"</blockquote>

That's kind of what I was thinking. The stuff he said hurt, and although he may not remember it in the morning, I will.

Quoting Always♥Faithful:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Destiel:</b>" I would just ignore him when he tries to call ... [snip!] ... That's kind of what I was thinking. The stuff he said hurt, and although he may not remember it in the morning, I will."

Just be calm and say "Why are you calling? Are you calling to say you will be coming to come get your stuff? When should we go to a divorce lawyer? I can help you find a reasonable hotel or maybe you can stay with a friend." Just say it calmly. So he is all "WTF? Leave?" and say "Yeah, you want to get a divorce, so lets do it. You need to leave in the meantime." See how quickly his pissy attitude changes when you decide not to give into his whim and beg for him back when he was a crazed drunk... when HE was the maniac.

Your husband sounds like a possessive smurf. It also sounds like, while you were worried, you had some other fears driving you as well. Does he disrespect you often? Does he go out and drink and stay at hotels often? Does he threaten divorce often?

Don't allow him to treat you like that, drunk or not. Act like you're taking him serious and going through with the divorce he requested.

Quoting FroggysMommy:" Just be calm and say "Why are you calling? Are you calling to say you will be coming to come get your ... [snip!] ... changes when you decide not to give into his whim and beg for him back when he was a crazed drunk... when HE was the maniac."

This!!!!! I would also be like I expect to keep the house, I want x amount of childsupport since that is what the state figures it should be until ya know we get this whole thing settled. The kids just can't do without ya know.

i wouldn't trust my man if he was doing that...seems like he's trying to hide something if he got that upset from you checking on him in a hotel room. wow.

Quoting #3dueOct*9weeks*:" i wouldn't trust my man if he was doing that...seems like he's trying to hide something if he got that upset from you checking on him in a hotel room. wow."

yeah it wouldn't fly with me ... him going out and getting drunk with friends, then booking into a hotel, turning his phone off, and then getting mad at me for calling the hotel. Yeah I would be listening for another voice in the background with that one.

Quoting Destiel:" yeah it wouldn't fly with me ... him going out and getting drunk with friends, then booking into a hotel, ... [snip!] ... and then getting mad at me for calling the hotel. Yeah I would be listening for another voice in the background with that one."

exactly.  and that's not insecurities its just a women's instinct.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" Your husband sounds like a possessive smurf. It also sounds like, while you were worried, you had some ... [snip!] ... him to treat you like that, drunk or not. Act like you're taking him serious and going through with the divorce he requested."</blockquote>



This is totally out of his character. This was like a totally different person. He doesn't drink often at all, but I'm also not going to make excuses for him bc the way he talked to me was wrong, and I won't tolerate being talked to that way, drunk or not. It was all a total shock bc like I said, he isn't like the way he was last night.A lot of the stuff he was saying made no sense bc of his drunken stuper.

I don't want a divorce from him over this one incident. Weve been married almost 4 years and this is the only time he has disrespected me and talked to me that way,, but this will only be a fool me once situation. Obviously him drinking that excessive is what he needs to avoid so he can make his choice and we will go from there.

<blockquote><b>Quoting #3dueOct*9weeks*:</b>" i wouldn't trust my man if he was doing that...seems like he's trying to hide something if he got that upset from you checking on him in a hotel room. wow."</blockquote>




He was at a hotel bc he was at drill. He had a roommate that called me after to see if I was alright and said he will make sure he gets up in time for drill. There wasn't another girl, just a drunken idiot.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Destiel:</b>" yeah it wouldn't fly with me ... him going out and getting drunk with friends, then booking into a hotel, ... [snip!] ... and then getting mad at me for calling the hotel. Yeah I would be listening for another voice in the background with that one."</blockquote>

That's not how it was played out. He got there Friday to a hotel already booked for him for drill. They went out bc it was a buddy's last drill weekend. He stayed out late, he got way too drunk with his friends, and his phone died. Luckily his roommate was being a DD and made sure he got back ok.

His whole military career would be smurfed if he cheated, especially blatantly infront of his fellow Marines. Like I said, it was totally out of his character, and I guess we will approach what is going to come from it when he gets home.

I hope everything works out for you dear. I have said some really hurtful things to DH while I was super drunk and I feel awful about it now. I'm sure he will feel really bad about it when you tell him all the things he said to you.

Quoting tonys_mama(army wife):" I hope everything works out for you dear. I have said some really hurtful things to DH while I was super ... [snip!] ... drunk and I feel awful about it now. I'm sure he will feel really bad about it when you tell him all the things he said to you."

Thanks, hun.

He is out for chow, and got ahold of me. He is tore up, and seems very sorry. I won't let this be the end of our marriage because he is otherwise the most supportive, caring, and loving person. Alcohol didn't work in favor of his character last night, and he acknowledged that on his own; so we will work on this. I'm hurt, and it will take awhile to fully forgive, but as long as he is willing to try to make it better, I am equally willing to try to get past this.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Always♥Faithful:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting #3dueOct*9weeks*:</b>" i wouldn't trust my man if he was doing ... [snip!] ... see if I was alright and said he will make sure he gets up in time for drill. There wasn't another girl, just a drunken idiot."</blockquote>




He was out past 2 for drill and had to get up at 6?

Which base is he at?