Do you know a child that you really don't like to be around/

I feel like such a smurfball. But I can't stand my niece most of the time. It's just like... she grinds my nerves so much it absolutely drives me bonkers. She really has a lot of issues and makes me, my daughter, my Mom, and stepdad insane when we have to be around her. My Mom has cried over it, and I feel bad too because she causes so much strife inside us but it is just sooooo hard to be around her. I can explain why she bugs us so much if you want, I realize this makes me sound like a smurf.

But honestly, it's like "K is coming over!" and the entire house suddenly gets a dark raincloud over it and we all fight with each other because she upsets the family dynamic that much.

Does anyone else here know a child that they really can't stand? Do you have a child family member like that? How do you deal? It sucks, it really does suck to be like that toward a child, but she really, really, really does upset the house because of the things she does.

No, not a child anyway ;) so I'm actually really curious?

Yes!!! Omg my little sister in law is a terror lol. She is crazy bonkers!

Quoting FroggysMommy:" I feel like such a smurfball. But I can't stand my niece most of the time. It's just like... she grinds ... [snip!] ... does suck to be like that toward a child, but she really, really, really does upset the house because of the things she does. "

My own sisters (half-sisters), I can't stand to be around them. They are downright mean and disrespectful to everyone and don't care if they upset you. They are 14 and 12 and drive me absolutely crazy. I told my dad that it's really sad when my 19 month old behaves better than they do. He doesn't like to follow through with punishments and such so it gets quite annoying.

I'm kind of curious as to why, not to be nosy or anything.

I have a friend with a 2 1/2 yr old. I love her to death, and I loved him to death before he started having his tantrums and doing "terrible 2" stuff. It didn't bother me before I was pregnant or when DS (he's now 14 months) was little but now when we go over there I have to worry about if he will pick up something new from my friends kid. I have been avoiding going over there because he really pushes my nerves, and then I have to worry about what DS will come home with that he picked up from him.
One of the last times my friends kid kept screaming and crying over the littlest things, when we got home DS started screaming. He would throw himself down in the floor and cry over the littlest things. I felt like I was done going over there after that.
Luckily if he does pick up something he is usually back to normal within a few days of not being around the influence.

Our one neighbors two girls..they are just horrid. They never listen, no matter how many times you tell them something. You ask them a question and they just stare at you blankly or like you have two heads. They are so..odd. I'm kinda glad that they only come over a few times a month. I know they're just kids but..ugh.

Quoting Kiki~2boys:" No, not a child anyway ;) so I'm actually really curious?"

I'll make a short list.

*When I went to the mall with my Mom and niece, my niece was oh, maybe 7/8 at the time (she's 11 now). She said "Grandma a man came into the bathroom and watched me pee." We were outside the bathroom around the corner, she was certainly old enough to go in alone. Well we freak. My Mom is absolutely FRANTIC trying to get security to get this man. Well, my niece starts crying after about 15 minutes when a lockdown started and they couldn't find this man. She made it up. There was no man.... no one watched her.

*She asks random boys on the internet to be her boyfriend. I tell her all the time "K, be a kid, you are too young to date!" She will message her friends on facebook and say "Your brother is hot tell him I like him" or "That guy in the picture is hot, tell him to go out with me." She will message random boys asking them out and they respond with "Who are you?" She is so desperate for a boyfriend she asks ANYONE she can see.

*She lies ALL the time. Recently she tried to tell me that she takes an advanced form of the TCAP (state standardized test) and says "I'm so smart that they test me alone and I take a different grades test because I'm too smart for that test." I didn't really respond to this because in reality she gets help with the test because of special ed. I'm a teacher... I don't know how she thinks that I'm this stupid and don't know how the test runs. But I feel bad for her and don't correct her.

*She terrorizes Lily. Says the things she plays with are "baby things" and makes fun of her for EVERYTHING. She always says "Lily you are so skinny you are so little it's funny" and I'm like WTH... leave my child alone! I have tried to nicely tell her that Lily can't help how she looks so leave her alone. One day Lily was crying because K made fun of a medical problem she has regarding going to the bathroom. I snapped... I said "K you talk funny, your glasses are so thick!" She cried and said "Aunt Weazie I can't help it!" I sat her down and said "And Lily can't help that either, I wear glasses and so I am not making fun of you I just needed to say something to get your attention. Just as you can't help your vision problems, Lily can't help how small she is or her tummy problems! She's your cousin, be nice!"

*She is MEAN to her friends. She loses friends all the time because she is so cruel to them and puts them down. A lot of people don't want to be associated with her because she will not stop putting others down and keep her opinions to herself.

*She is downright cruel to my Mom. One day we were going to go visit them and have dinner that night. My niece sent my Mom a message and said "Mom said she doesn't want to go out tonight so you can stay home." We were all, hmmm.... Jessica wouldn't have K pass that message along. We called my sister and my sister said that she never said that, and K said "Well I don't want to see Grandma at all so I wanted her to stay home." For no reason.

Other things to my Mom... One day she texted my Mom asking for some kind of expensive item... I don't remember what it was. When my Mom said "K that's too expensive for us to get for you, maybe for a Christmas present." She then said "Grandma you are so selfish, I don't love you now." My Mom cried over that... if my Mom gets Lily a gift (who rarely EVER asks for anything, and says "thank you" and "please," my niece never does) my niece will call my Mom asking about her gift and if she doesn't get one she says "Fine, don't call me for a month!" and hang up on her.

*One time K found out she had to come to our house because no one would be home to watch her. She said to me on texts "If you come to my house I will call the cops and say you are trying to kidnap me. Don't come over I can't stand your family." Again, my Mom cried over that because my own smurf niece can NEVER say anything nice.

*When my niece is in the rare mood that she will come over without a fuss, she will then say "Will you buy me something since I came over?" And now she won't come over unless she is bought something (we no longer do that).

*She calls Lily babyish. If she comes over and sees Lily's toys or a certain movie, she will say "Only BABIES play with that stuff." And her brother will say "K you were playing with those toys last week, stop it."

*She is manipulative. She once texted my Mom and said "Can I come over this weekend and you buy me that Justin Bieber shirt we saw?" My Mom said she was sick and wasn't going to buy her something because of how she acted the last time she was here. She quickly called my sister and said "I asked to come over and grandma said she didn't want anything to do with me and won't ever buy me a present again." If she has to come over here to stay the night because of my sisters work schedule she will call my sister crying after I tell her "No K, I'm not giving you my shoes because I wear them myself (she loves our stuff.... and she has stolen stuff from us)" and say "Aunt Weazie said I can't come over because she doesn't want me around her and is making fun of me." If she is texting someone she will delete the message so her Mom can't see what was REALLY said.

*I fear she will have a negative influence on Lily or show her things she shouldn't. K was looking up stuff like "sex with your brother" and "how do you have sex" on her phone. THAT is disturbing, and she said she was just curious. I understand sex in general, but sex with your brother? I told her that my nephew can get in trouble for that.

She once texted my Mom out of the blue "You are so selfish, I don't love you and don't want you to ever come around me on Christmas. Don't ever talk to me, you are so selfish selfish selfish." My Mom once again cried over it.

While she does these things and makes us not want to be around her, we hurt because our relationship shouldn't be like that with her. My niece shouldn't have that power over my Mom but she really is MEAN.

Oh, one day we asked her why she never wanted to come over but would go to her friends houses. She said "I don't trust you, I trust them." WTH?

The list goes on, she's just mean and defies authority. She absolutely does what she wants when she wants and that's that. She is SO into boys that I fear she will be pregnant so soon.... it's sad. I get that little girls like boys, but she said that it's not fair that she doesn't have a boyfriend. She told me that tonight... I said "K you have your whole life ahead of you, don't grow up too fast like I did. Have fun, be with friends, worry about boys later. You should want the fun college experience without a kid." She said "But its still not fair I deserve to have a boyfriend." What 6th grader "deserves" a boyfriend? She also has a lot of educational disabilities and I really fear that her cognitive ability and this need for boy attention will put her in a situation she is going to get hurt in. My sister was brutally raped as a young teen and I really fear my niece may be raped because she wants a boy so bad.... she will find random teenage boys online, lie about her age and say "You are hot lets go out" and has NO clue who they are. I mean what's going to happen if she is alone in the house and invites a stranger in because hes her "boyfriend?" It hurts me to think about!

She causes so much anger in the house because she doesn't listen at all. She squints at you and gives you this look like "I hate you" no matter what you do. She makes us so full of bad emotions that we fight. Because it's like "she's family, we have to be around her and she's just a kid" but at the same time, I don't want my kid around bad influences, and I don't like seeing my Mom cry because my niece says whatever she can to be mean!

This is just a short list, she really is insanely mean and will do whatever she can to get ahead and get attention. But one of these days the attention is going to be bad... and it won't be a good situation  


I feel horrible for feeling this way, but she makes my mom cry, makes my daughter cry, she makes me angry... it drives me insane how a kid can make me feel so negative!

Quoting FroggysMommy:" I'll make a short list. *When I went to the mall with my Mom and niece, my niece was oh, maybe 7/8 ... [snip!] ... she makes my mom cry, makes my daughter cry, she makes me angry... it drives me insane how a kid can make me feel so negative!"

Lol at the short list


This sounds like my niece. So much that I would say this is the same girl.
I don't understand why she acts like that.

<blockquote><b>Quoting FroggysMommy:</b>" I'll make a short list. *When I went to the mall with my Mom and niece, my niece was oh, maybe 7/8 ... [snip!] ... she makes my mom cry, makes my daughter cry, she makes me angry... it drives me insane how a kid can make me feel so negative!"</blockquote>




I mean, what is her parents like? That probably has alot to do with it. I would urge your sister to put parental controls on her computers(meaning, NO FACEBOOK FOR AN 11 YEAR OLD) And no internet connection on her phone.

Quoting That one chick.:" Lol at the short list This sounds like my niece. So much that I would say this is the same girl. I don't understand why she acts like that."

Lol really, that is the short list. It causes so much strife that my Mom can mess with me and say "Jessica has to work so Kaitlyn is coming over" and I whip out my phone to go make plans to go out and she laughs and says "KIDDING!" We seriously can't be around her! We are going on vacation and my sister said we should bring my niece, and I said "OH HELL NO! If she has to go then I am not going to go on vacation, I am not about to be put in that position!" She makes me snap, she makes Lily cry, just from being AROUND us! It really is the short list... I could write a damn book about the things she's done. In the end, me, my Mom, my ex, and stepdad basically joke around taking bets on when she will have a kid. It's horrible, but true because she is the epitome of the girl that seeks attention from boys and will do anything for them. But at the same time she will do anything to benefit herself. She will do anything to fit in. If she makes an ass of herself she doesnt care. I just signed onto her facebook account and I smurf you not she has at LEAST 15 messages to 15 different boys telling them that they are hot and asking them out. Half of them she doesnt know. A few people from her school started a group chat calling her ugly and one girl is pissed that she is asking out her friends boyfriends. She has one message to a girl and said "Aw you broke up with Chris?" and the girl says yes, and so Kaitlyn says "Oh well can I have him now?" Just wow.... it mindsmurfs me how into boys she really is.... it really concerns me and my sister just says that she is "different" and yes, she is. She has problems, but she is going to have more problems if she doesnt deal with them!

Quoting May ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting FroggysMommy:</b>" I'll make a short list. *When I went to ... [snip!] ... to put parental controls on her computers(meaning, NO FACEBOOK FOR AN 11 YEAR OLD) And no internet connection on her phone."

I dont like my brother in law. He is an ass, and is the typical jock smurf. My sister works her ass off and I think doesnt want to admit that Kaitlyn really does have a lot of problems. But the last time we mentioned Kaitlyn I said "I hate to say it Jess but she is going to end up like you... you couldn't help your rape but she is practically going to be inviting it because of the way she talks and invites boys into her life. She doesnt know boundaries and it's going to hurt her." Its like she shapes up for a bit and then it goes away. I swear my sister just wants to "get away" from it all and not want to deal with anything, because no one helps her. But it's hard to help her watch the kids because they are so disrespectful. A lot of my nieces problems ARE disabilities but my sister refuses to really do all she can to diagnose them all. I can understand partly that it can hurt to admit your kid has something wrong with them... but it is going to hurt her.

My sister does really try, but she works so much (shes a nurse) she barely has enough time to get her own damn life in order. And my brother in law doesnt do smurf. My nephew tries to keep her in order but he's only 14, he doesnt need to dictate what Kaitlyn needs to do. We don't want to get involved because she causes so much drama. I love her, but I don't love her like I do my own child or nephew. I also feel bad that I don't love her the same, but then she looks at me and says "I dont have to listen to you." And all respect is lost.

Yeah I wouldn't handle that, she sounds like a very troubled girl.

Quoting Kiki~2boys:" Yeah I wouldn't handle that, she sounds like a very troubled girl."

My nephew and I butt heads but he's just a little craphead teenager. We get along well when he's not wanting to pick fights with the world. He also does respect me even though he has his moments of talking back. He does pick on Lily at times, but I will say that he would rip the throat out of anyone that even breathed on Lily wrong. Lily doesn't have a father or brother to be the guy cleaning the gun when she goes on her first date... I imagine my nephew would be that guy and would give the 100 questions before they are allowed to leave ;) My niece just terrorizes Lily though. Says she smells bad too... again because of her tummy problem. Or may yell out "EWWWW LILY YOU HAVE PULLUPS!" And it makes Lily insanely sad. It's pathetic that when they come over she runs to her room to hide her suppositories, pullups, will put pants on if she is having tummy problems and will cry saying "Please don't tell cousins about my stomach!" When Lily has a serious tummy problem. I don't care if she's 9... she has a tummy problem which requires us to sometimes need pullups and other methods to help her go to the bathroom and its like her greatest fear for my niece to make fun of her. My nephew understands the problem and doesnt say anything and even encourages her.

It breaks my heart that Kaitlyn doesn't have friends and such, but then again she brings it upon herself. I don't know what to do. I've tried talking to her, we barely see her as it is, we don't get her gifts so she sees that she won't be rewarded but then when we do reward her or get her something for her birthday or other event she's an ass about it. It's like, no matter what we do she's a creep. It makes me sad to feel this way about a kid. My Mom cries at times saying "Thats my granddaughter and I just cant bring myself to love her like I should, she makes it so hard." We try, we really do, but damn... what can you do when someone disrupts your life THAT much!?!?!

Don't feel bad. I felt that way about my nephew for a long time. He was such a whiny little brat when he was little. I miss him now. He lives in Michigan and I live in Arizona. As he has gotten older ( he is 12) we have some things in common. We both share a love of reading and I send him books whenever I can. It is his Mother and Father ( my brother) that I cannot stand, lol.

Well with you're sister working and her dad being an ass it sounds like she is starved for any attention she can get! On Yup of that you see disabilities...yeah that girl is not going to change without professional help and out would be hard for anyone to be around her.