Quoting Kiki~2boys:" No, not a child anyway ;) so I'm actually really curious?"
I'll make a short list.
*When I went to the mall with my Mom and niece, my niece was oh, maybe 7/8 at the time (she's 11 now). She said "Grandma a man came into the bathroom and watched me pee." We were outside the bathroom around the corner, she was certainly old enough to go in alone. Well we freak. My Mom is absolutely FRANTIC trying to get security to get this man. Well, my niece starts crying after about 15 minutes when a lockdown started and they couldn't find this man. She made it up. There was no man.... no one watched her.
*She asks random boys on the internet to be her boyfriend. I tell her all the time "K, be a kid, you are too young to date!" She will message her friends on facebook and say "Your brother is hot tell him I like him" or "That guy in the picture is hot, tell him to go out with me." She will message random boys asking them out and they respond with "Who are you?" She is so desperate for a boyfriend she asks ANYONE she can see.
*She lies ALL the time. Recently she tried to tell me that she takes an advanced form of the TCAP (state standardized test) and says "I'm so smart that they test me alone and I take a different grades test because I'm too smart for that test." I didn't really respond to this because in reality she gets help with the test because of special ed. I'm a teacher... I don't know how she thinks that I'm this stupid and don't know how the test runs. But I feel bad for her and don't correct her.
*She terrorizes Lily. Says the things she plays with are "baby things" and makes fun of her for EVERYTHING. She always says "Lily you are so skinny you are so little it's funny" and I'm like WTH... leave my child alone! I have tried to nicely tell her that Lily can't help how she looks so leave her alone. One day Lily was crying because K made fun of a medical problem she has regarding going to the bathroom. I snapped... I said "K you talk funny, your glasses are so thick!" She cried and said "Aunt Weazie I can't help it!" I sat her down and said "And Lily can't help that either, I wear glasses and so I am not making fun of you I just needed to say something to get your attention. Just as you can't help your vision problems, Lily can't help how small she is or her tummy problems! She's your cousin, be nice!"
*She is MEAN to her friends. She loses friends all the time because she is so cruel to them and puts them down. A lot of people don't want to be associated with her because she will not stop putting others down and keep her opinions to herself.
*She is downright cruel to my Mom. One day we were going to go visit them and have dinner that night. My niece sent my Mom a message and said "Mom said she doesn't want to go out tonight so you can stay home." We were all, hmmm.... Jessica wouldn't have K pass that message along. We called my sister and my sister said that she never said that, and K said "Well I don't want to see Grandma at all so I wanted her to stay home." For no reason.
Other things to my Mom... One day she texted my Mom asking for some kind of expensive item... I don't remember what it was. When my Mom said "K that's too expensive for us to get for you, maybe for a Christmas present." She then said "Grandma you are so selfish, I don't love you now." My Mom cried over that... if my Mom gets Lily a gift (who rarely EVER asks for anything, and says "thank you" and "please," my niece never does) my niece will call my Mom asking about her gift and if she doesn't get one she says "Fine, don't call me for a month!" and hang up on her.
*One time K found out she had to come to our house because no one would be home to watch her. She said to me on texts "If you come to my house I will call the cops and say you are trying to kidnap me. Don't come over I can't stand your family." Again, my Mom cried over that because my own smurf niece can NEVER say anything nice.
*When my niece is in the rare mood that she will come over without a fuss, she will then say "Will you buy me something since I came over?" And now she won't come over unless she is bought something (we no longer do that).
*She calls Lily babyish. If she comes over and sees Lily's toys or a certain movie, she will say "Only BABIES play with that stuff." And her brother will say "K you were playing with those toys last week, stop it."
*She is manipulative. She once texted my Mom and said "Can I come over this weekend and you buy me that Justin Bieber shirt we saw?" My Mom said she was sick and wasn't going to buy her something because of how she acted the last time she was here. She quickly called my sister and said "I asked to come over and grandma said she didn't want anything to do with me and won't ever buy me a present again." If she has to come over here to stay the night because of my sisters work schedule she will call my sister crying after I tell her "No K, I'm not giving you my shoes because I wear them myself (she loves our stuff.... and she has stolen stuff from us)" and say "Aunt Weazie said I can't come over because she doesn't want me around her and is making fun of me." If she is texting someone she will delete the message so her Mom can't see what was REALLY said.
*I fear she will have a negative influence on Lily or show her things she shouldn't. K was looking up stuff like "sex with your brother" and "how do you have sex" on her phone. THAT is disturbing, and she said she was just curious. I understand sex in general, but sex with your brother? I told her that my nephew can get in trouble for that.
She once texted my Mom out of the blue "You are so selfish, I don't love you and don't want you to ever come around me on Christmas. Don't ever talk to me, you are so selfish selfish selfish." My Mom once again cried over it.
While she does these things and makes us not want to be around her, we hurt because our relationship shouldn't be like that with her. My niece shouldn't have that power over my Mom but she really is MEAN.
Oh, one day we asked her why she never wanted to come over but would go to her friends houses. She said "I don't trust you, I trust them." WTH?
The list goes on, she's just mean and defies authority. She absolutely does what she wants when she wants and that's that. She is SO into boys that I fear she will be pregnant so soon.... it's sad. I get that little girls like boys, but she said that it's not fair that she doesn't have a boyfriend. She told me that tonight... I said "K you have your whole life ahead of you, don't grow up too fast like I did. Have fun, be with friends, worry about boys later. You should want the fun college experience without a kid." She said "But its still not fair I deserve to have a boyfriend." What 6th grader "deserves" a boyfriend? She also has a lot of educational disabilities and I really fear that her cognitive ability and this need for boy attention will put her in a situation she is going to get hurt in. My sister was brutally raped as a young teen and I really fear my niece may be raped because she wants a boy so bad.... she will find random teenage boys online, lie about her age and say "You are hot lets go out" and has NO clue who they are. I mean what's going to happen if she is alone in the house and invites a stranger in because hes her "boyfriend?" It hurts me to think about!
She causes so much anger in the house because she doesn't listen at all. She squints at you and gives you this look like "I hate you" no matter what you do. She makes us so full of bad emotions that we fight. Because it's like "she's family, we have to be around her and she's just a kid" but at the same time, I don't want my kid around bad influences, and I don't like seeing my Mom cry because my niece says whatever she can to be mean!
This is just a short list, she really is insanely mean and will do whatever she can to get ahead and get attention. But one of these days the attention is going to be bad... and it won't be a good situation
I feel horrible for feeling this way, but she makes my mom cry, makes my daughter cry, she makes me angry... it drives me insane how a kid can make me feel so negative!