Quoting FroggysMommy:" I can say without a shadow of a doubt in my mind that nothing is going on. My niece has always had problems. ... [snip!] ... don't do this "just because" but that doesnt mean it's the family either. I know it's not the family, she's always been "off.""
I was not implying that they are harming the kids in a physical type of way.
But maybe they are not giving the right type of attention or enough, maybe she needs more attention than other kids?
Maybe they are having problems and fighting a lot in front of the LO, that can make kids act out in ways to get attention. If the LO dose have some Autistic type of issues going on then things that a regular kid might not be bothered by would probably bother her more.
If she is and has always been "off" shouldn't the parents take her to dr's ect? I also understand denial but you have to do the best you can for your kids. Even if that means accepting somthing might be wrong.
I know it can be really hard to think that they are not the perfect parents, maybe that just don't know what to do? I don't known them but I do know that often when kids act out it is because they need more at home.
If this LO dose need some special care, maybe more than other kids need, maybe you can help push the parents towards getting that for her? Do you think that the LO dose need some extra special type of help?