Getting lonely (rant)

Okay, so I know my SO has to work for us to pay the bills...and because he works part time minimum wage, he has two jobs. Yesterday he worked 11 hours and today he's working 16, and tomorrow he's working from 8-3. I know he has to work, and I know we need the money...it would just be nice if he didn't leave for work 1/2 hour early, and when he was home if he actually spent time with me and DS instead of texting people and calling other people. I feel completely alone all the time, I'm exhausted from our son teething, and I feel like I'm last on a long list of things that he thinks are important. It sucks.   And I don't want to bring it up with him because his gramma just passed away.

But I made sure to have a nice warm meal on the table for when he got home tonight and made his favorite cookies (not from scratch, they were the premade ones, but it's better that way   I can't bake... ) and he didn't even say thank you when he came home an hour early. He just said he was going back to work at McDonald's and that the cookies weren't as good as the ones from Subway.

He's probably stressed out and tired. He does work a lot..just cut him a little slack. Hopefully it'll get better.

Find some friends in your area with kids so you can interact with adults too.

Quoting i made a vagina.:" He's probably stressed out and tired. He does work a lot..just cut him a little slack. Hopefully it'll get better. Find some friends in your area with kids so you can interact with adults too."

I don't really know where to go to make any friends...he's making me go to dinner with one of his coworkers tomorrow and they have a little girl about 5months old. Plus I really suck at making friends
He is...but still, it's not like I'm not stressed out too. I cut him a ton of slack...I don't have him take care of Bug at all, I don't expect him to help around the house, don't have him do anything but work and shower. But he can't even sit down and give me the time of day. He avoids spending time with his family every chance he gets and it sucks

Quoting justplainme93:" Okay, so I know my SO has to work for us to pay the bills...and because he works part time minimum wage, ... [snip!] ... hour early. He just said he was going back to work at McDonald's and that the cookies weren't as good as the ones from Subway."

Sounds like he might be a little on the stressed side   SO was that way at one point, which right now he is currently out of a job (until after LO is here just so that way he doesn't start a new job and not be able to take any kind of leave to be with me). But maybe he is just hurting from having her passing away too, it's always really hard losing someone and a lot of times I have noticed people act much differently then they normally would towards people they care about when they lose someone they love. I would say though he should still at least be thankful enough because I am sure that may have hurt your feelings I would have cried about it at the moment (due to lovely hormones lol) if SO had said that about me. I would say maybe give it a few days to sort of I don't want to word it as subside but maybe in a few days his emotions will sort of pep up and change a little from being as sad. If things don't change soon though after he has been grieving for a while I would say just try to explain how you feel, tell him you want to do something as a family and maybe he won't take it harshly! I know when I was having this issue with SO he would get upset when I mentioned spending time together other then what we were seeing eachother, he'd get a little upset, and then finally after he fell from that stage then we spend all day around eachother now, and I never have time away from him lol. So it'll be nice when he does start working again so we will have split time. Is there anything that you know of that he really likes to do that you both can do together, maybe something uplifting possibly?

Quoting Due w/ a little boy!:" Sounds like he might be a little on the stressed side   SO was that way at one point, which right now ... [snip!] ... there anything that you know of that he really likes to do that you both can do together, maybe something uplifting possibly?"

That's the thing...he isn't the only one who lost somebody. My great gramma died the week before his gramma. Plus our grammas (not great gramma, just gramma) died of the same thing...lung cancer. Mine died in September. He thinks that he has to be strong and can't talk to me about it...so he doesn't talk to me at all. When he does it's purposely pissing me off. And he's frustrated with me because not only do i not want sex, when I give in it usually hurts and I tell him to just get it over with ( ) because it hurts/burns and I don't know how to explain it to him.
We both like going for walks and just hanging out places that aren't home...but he's always at work so he can't do that. And he sold his xbox360 before LO was born, so we can't do what we used to do and either play like Fable II or Black Ops together or him teach me how to play a new game.We've watched every movie we own, and my mom can't baby sit for us because I can't pump anything.
It's frustrating :/

Quoting BastiansMommy:" That's the thing...he isn't the only one who lost somebody. My great gramma died the week before his ... [snip!] ... new game.We've watched every movie we own, and my mom can't baby sit for us because I can't pump anything. It's frustrating :/"

How old is your LO? I am very sorry to hear about both of your losses! I know its definitely not something easy to deal with, (I lost my dad to suicide, which will be 3 years Dec 20th, and it still sometimes feels like it was just yesterday when I heard the news) I know that doesn't mean I understand the situation you are in, just that I do know it's very hard for you both right now. I definitely agree it HAS to be frustrating especially since not only did he lose his family member but you lost your's just recently as well. I wish that I could find a solution for you, and give you better advice then what I have. Is there any time at all that he is off and maybe you could get your LO in a stroller and pack a cute picnic or something and maybe go for a walk on a warmer day after he is off? I know that wouldn't be much but maybe a walk around the park or something that way you can spend time with each other? I also can see where that would upset anyone to talk about a loss! It still upsets me to this day at times to talk about it, even though I often try not to show it. I know it's hard and it doesn't feel like it will get ANY easier at all right now  . I wasn't with my SO when his dad passed 5 years ago, but I know his mother said to me that after his dad passed that he was 16 and he went on a ranting rave and acted out in school and got sent to jail for fighting and all kinds of other things she couldn't understand why, until she found a letter he wrote to I think his dad or someone like that (he wasn't going to give it to anyone) but it was talking about how angry and things like that he was, and she saw that getting in trouble was how he was dealing with it. Maybe he is just distant right now because he doesn't know how to cope? I was very distant and I was a zombie once my dad passed, I got into some drugs, and I got into trouble stuff I'd never done before and it was my way of coping. I can't say for sure if this is why or anything like that, but maybe it could be. I know this is a lot to read, if you want you can feel free to PM me anytime, if you just need someone to talk to and what not, I'll be here  

Quoting Little Richard's mommie!:" How old is your LO? I am very sorry to hear about both of your losses! I know its definitely not something ... [snip!] ... lot to read, if you want you can feel free to PM me anytime, if you just need someone to talk to and what not, I'll be here  "

Sorry it's taken so long to reply! I've had a busy week lol
LO is 3 months old. And thanks...they were all really sick so at least we know they don't feel like they did when we last saw them. I'm so sorry about your dad :/ It sucks when that happens to say the least. The only time he has off is from 3pm to like 4-6pm...and usually we have to run over to the store while he's here and get something for the house. He has almost no time off at all, and it's ridiculous. Thankfully he's only working at one of his jobs the next couple of days, so we can actually hang out and watch the movies that we bought. Plus it's not warm enough to take LO to a park, and the closest one is like 10 miles away and we have no car lol He doesn't like me seeing him as "weak" so he tries not to rely on me for anything...he thinks it means he's not a good dad and boyfriend or something, and it's irritating more than anything else.
But it was nice, my sister and her husband came over 2 days ago and we all hung out and had dinner while her daughter and puppy were running around playing. And then yesterday we went over to my parents' house and played with 2 of my nephews and both of my nieces and saw my sister and BIL again. Hopefully things will be less stressful for a couple days, but we'll see.
Thanks for helping me deal with my crazy hormonal crap. I thought it would be over by now...apparently not haha

Quoting BastiansMommy:" Sorry it's taken so long to reply! I've had a busy week lol LO is 3 months old. And thanks...they were ... [snip!] ... but we'll see. Thanks for helping me deal with my crazy hormonal crap. I thought it would be over by now...apparently not haha"

Awesome!!! And it's ok lol, my little guy was born on Tuesday so I haven't been on here hardly at all either just maybe 3 times so far. And no problem! I don't mind helping out as best as I can. And I am glad to hear that he will be able to spend some time with you for a few days! He definitely shouldn't try to hide if he is stressed, I know men don't like to show that they are weak though. That is a definite! Maybe if he is able to have a few days like you said he won't feel as stressed!! I know that is always hard to feel like that!! And aww   I can't imagine when my LO gets to that many months   I don't want him to grow up lol!

Quoting Little Richard's mommie!:" Awesome!!! And it's ok lol, my little guy was born on Tuesday so I haven't been on here hardly at all ... [snip!] ... to feel like that!! And aww   I can't imagine when my LO gets to that many months   I don't want him to grow up lol! "

Congrats on your little guy!   I miss my LO being newborn   haha
Yeah, he's happy he gets to be home for more than like 10 hours a day...it's been getting ridiculous. He's home enough to sleep, take a shower and then go back to work. He seems to be a little less stressed after hanging out with my BIL the last couple of days...he's our age and they get along really well.
Like my sister told me the other day...enjoy it when they're little babies...they grow up too fast!   My little guy is already giggling, smiling, and rolling over...and I remember the first time I saw him and it took all his energy just to open his eyes and grab daddy's finger. Makes me miss him being little like crazy

Quoting BastiansMommy:" Congrats on your little guy!   I miss my LO being newborn   haha Yeah, he's happy he gets to be home ... [snip!] ... I saw him and it took all his energy just to open his eyes and grab daddy's finger. Makes me miss him being little like crazy"

:'( that made me want to cry because that is how it was, except he didn't grab his daddys finger. He came out and I started tearing up and he was the most beautiful little boy in the whole world!! The sound of his cry   and just everything about him is perfect! I don't ever want him to grow up I will miss him it too much! I mean he is already smiling some, and trying to hold his head up  ((
But I see how it would help out some, when SO and I go hang out with his friends and stuff it helps stress him a lot less because he gets to be around other people! Hopefully things will not get too much more stressed  

Quoting Little Richard's mommie!:" :'( that made me want to cry because that is how it was, except he didn't grab his daddys finger. He ... [snip!] ... helps stress him a lot less because he gets to be around other people! Hopefully things will not get too much more stressed  "

I didn't get to see my LO until he was about 20 minutes old...and didn't get to hold him until about 45 minutes (had to be knocked out for a c-section, then had issues breathing when I was brought back to my room)...but it was precious seeing him and his daddy together. My son refused to cry from the moment he was born apparently lol the nurses had to force him to cry and I didn't hear him cry until he was almost 12 hours old. It was insane...it kind of freaked me out haha Omgosh! Your little man is gonna get so big in no time   It's so exciting but sad at the same time
Yeah...my SO is a total people person, which sucks for me because I'm the opposite completely. But it's good for him to get to see friends and hang out with people besides us. It makes things less stressful for sure. haha

Quoting BastiansMommy:" I didn't get to see my LO until he was about 20 minutes old...and didn't get to hold him until about ... [snip!] ... But it's good for him to get to see friends and hang out with people besides us. It makes things less stressful for sure. haha"

Aw   that is sad! I am sorry   that would have broken my heart!!! And does he cry much now? I know right my little guy has already grown a whole inch and a 1/4 and he is only a week old!!!!! It truly is sad!!   but it is exciting too  !!
It is always great to be able to get out and hang out with people when possible  , hopefully the more that you guys can hang out with people or even spend time together maybe things will be able to change as far as more uplifting wise!

Quoting Little Richard's mommie!:" Aw   that is sad! I am sorry   that would have broken my heart!!! And does he cry much now? I know ... [snip!] ... guys can hang out with people or even spend time together maybe things will be able to change as far as more uplifting wise!"

Yeah...but I have 9 weeks or so that have made up for that   OMGosh your LO is growing like crazy! Sebastian has only grown like 3 inches since he was born...but he's gained like 6 1/2lbs haha
Yeah, we haven't really spent anytime with each other in awhile...it's mostly been my family has come over or he passes out as soon as he gets home. But there's been less fighting too...which is always a good thing.