pink on boy D&D

(sorry in advance for any misspellings and typo, I m on my phone)


I took my three years old shopping today he needed a bunch of things since he has outgrown most of his clothes within the last month.

what he enjoys the most is getting a new pair of shoes/trainers. and I always let him pick whatever he wants as long as I m not paying a fortune for it.
anyway at first he pick out a bleu pair of trainers and I told him he could have them, but then he saw a pink pair of converse with some sparkle on them and picked those instead. I asked him if he was sure he told me yes.
I have no issue with buying girl stuff for my son, and if he thinks he can rock some pink sparkeled shoes then be it.

Now just before paying for it, Dh and SIL saw them and said I was crazy for letting get his way. I felt pushed/guilt trip ed about the all thing. my son saw us arguing about it and said he wanted the other one instead but I told him he could get them if liked them and because he does I paid for it.

now what would you have done?
do you think I shouldnt have let my son get some girls trainer only because he is a boy ?
have I done the right thing by him?

btw he loves them so much he hasnt taken them off since I bought them

If my son loved them that much, I would let him have them.

I think it's fine but DH doesn't so my LO only wears "boy" stuff.

ehhh, I wouldn't let my son get them...thats just me tho, But I know damn well DH would flip out if I got them for DS also

so no pink sparkly shoes for my boy

If he loved them then he should have them. I would have told them to keep their mouth shut I don't get why people look down on a boy wearing anything pink or wanting a girl toy.

Ultimately you are his mother and so you do whatever you feel is right by him. For me personally, I would have not got the pink ones for him. I like to dress my kids gender specific, but that's just me though. I don't knock anyone for dressing your kid whatever way you want to.

If he likes them, screw everyone else. You did the right thing IMO.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Forrest Bondurant &hearts:</b>" I think it's fine but DH doesn't so my LO only wears "boy" stuff."</blockquote>




yeah, dh always flips out if he see him playing with dolls and stuff like that. I just dont care, he can do whatever he wants if that makes him happy

<blockquote><b>Quoting nothing to see:</b>" (sorry in advance for any misspellings and typo, I m on my phone) I took my three years old shopping ... [snip!] ... he is a boy ? have I done the right thing by him? btw he loves them so much he hasnt taken them off since I bought them"</blockquote>




I would of got him the pink shoes and ignored dh and sil right off the bat. Wouldn't of even argued.

My husband and I both let our boys pick what they want. Most of our kids cups are princess or pink since our 3 year old picks them. He has lots of purple shirts and if wanted anything pink that's fine.


Your son being a happy 3 year old with pink converse isn't negatively impacting him. It's shoes, not the end of the world.

Haha DH and I are the opposite. He picks out pink shirts and shoes for DS all thine and is like "he can rock it!" Lol and I say no to the shoes (I do but some pink dress shirts for him though).

I would have bought them the shoes too. It doesn't make sense to me that only girls can have pink and it sparkly things. Especially since I can put dd in something blue and no one would say a thing. If he loves them that's awesome and I'm happy for him that he has a momma that will let him express himself

<blockquote><b>Quoting nothing to see:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Forrest Bondurant &hearts:</b>" I think it's fine but DH doesn't ... [snip!] ... out if he see him playing with dolls and stuff like that. I just dont care, he can do whatever he wants if that makes him happy"</blockquote>




He's allowed to play with "girl" toys (except Barbies). He has only ever wanted one pair of girls shoes but we got him other ones instead. He didn't really care

<blockquote><b>Quoting Glo♥:</b>" If he loved them then he should have them. I would have told them to keep their mouth shut I don't get why people look down on a boy wearing anything pink or wanting a girl toy."</blockquote>




I guess I dont see where the problem is either. yeah I know it s for girl, I also know we ll get weird looks from others, but I just dgaf. he s happy, and that makes me happy

I personally would not ever buy my son pink kicks. Or any pink clothing. No matter how bad he wanted them.
But do I care that you bought your son pink shoes? Nope. It's hardly going to screw up his development and there's more important things to worry about other than what shoes someone else's kid is wearing.
I have 2 daughters. They have pink shoes. Not my son. This is just me though of course.

DH and i already agreed that if DD likes certain things she can have them. whether they're girly or a boy thing. this stuff makes me mad, because if it were reversed and it had been your daughter wanting a boy thing, he probably would have been proud.