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Gone.

Quoting Miss Brittany:" My son's father and I have a notarized parenting plan outlining child support and custody. According ... [snip!] ... son stay with him for a week. He wants to take me to court. What are the chances a judge would order a change in our agreement?"

It's possible. But you two need something to change. You need something organized, scheduled, and enforced by law. This whole power struggle is not going to work. If he wants to be a father, let him be a father. You can't complain that she hasn't been, and then tell him he can't when he wants to be.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" It's possible. But you two need something to change. You need something organized, scheduled, and enforced ... [snip!] ... to be a father, let him be a father. You can't complain that she hasn't been, and then tell him he can't when he wants to be. "</blockquote>




   

unless hes a proven drug dealer or criminal he'll more than likely get the weekly visitations a few times a year of he requests it

Quoting Red Bottom:" It's possible. But you two need something to change. You need something organized, scheduled, and enforced ... [snip!] ... to be a father, let him be a father. You can't complain that she hasn't been, and then tell him he can't when he wants to be. "

I agree with this 100%. Best way to go is to do it legally so you both know what each person is entitled to when it comes to spending time with your child.

Quoting Red Bottom:" It's possible. But you two need something to change. You need something organized, scheduled, and enforced ... [snip!] ... to be a father, let him be a father. You can't complain that she hasn't been, and then tell him he can't when he wants to be. "

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Quoting Miss Brittany:" That is the problem. He whines and moans that I never let him see our son. He is welcome to see him anytime ... [snip!] ... to contact his son and be a part of his life, then I would consider this. He has not called in almost 2 months to talk to him. "

Document everything and try consulting with a lawyer. I know even when guys are absent, judges try to give them more time with the child because they believe parenting is a job for both mom and dad.

Quoting Miss Brittany:" That is the problem. He whines and moans that I never let him see our son. He is welcome to see him anytime ... [snip!] ... to contact his son and be a part of his life, then I would consider this. He has not called in almost 2 months to talk to him. "

You're a parent every day, things like that comes naturally to you. For someone who doesn't get to see their child as much as they want, they're not going to have all of these great parenting ideas., and frankly, judging by how unwilling you seem to be to help him see his son, I doubt he feels like calling you to talk to him would end well. On top of the fact that phone conversations with 4 yr olds aren't exactly easy. You assume that he is not struggling as much as you are and that it's easy for him to travel all the way to you.

You two both need to be making a 50% effort and stop playing the blame game. It's not about either of you, it's about your son.