Quoting Red Bottom:" I've seen you post about this before, and wasn't the mental health part of this a HUGE issue in your ... [snip!] ... upholding your relationship, if you can avoid the same hardships that yall suffered through before, honestly, I would do it. "
Ive got to agree!
I didnt BF this time around because it was too much stress/pressure on me last time and i'd end up crying each time baby wanted to feed & loathed it (similar issues to yours, tongue tie that went missed, lactose intolerance etc)
I went straight to the bottle this time - DH actually wanted me to try BFing again, mentally i couldn't handle it.. im still shaken up about it and the thought of BFing any more kids freaks me out..
Luckily i did FF because i've ended up with PPD and its been really nice to have a break & DH take LO when i wasn't coping.