parents who give timeouts

I have been a lot more strict with my 4 year old lately. If I make a request or ask him to do something and he does not do it then I give a warning and an immediate time out if he does not do it. What do I do if he starts to say things like "I want to go to timeouit" instead of doing what is asked of him or kicks/hits/says mean things to me in the process. Should I give a bigger punishment like take away privileges or do I remain consistent with the timouts?

Then I say "Oh, you want timeout? Okay. You can go there after you do what you were supposed to be doing anyway"

That's what I do with DS.

Quoting Conservative MAMA:" I have been a lot more strict with my 4 year old lately. If I make a request or ask him to do something ... [snip!] ... to me in the process. Should I give a bigger punishment like take away privileges or do I remain consistent with the timouts? "

remain consistent and calm about it initially... and if he escalates you can take something away that he's anticipating, usually likes.

e.g. "if you hit me again, there'll be no movie tonight / bed time story / snack you like and you'll have to stay in time out. do you want that?"

Here's our process:
1. Warning
2. Timeout
3. They apologize for (whatever they did wrong)
4. If you asked them to do something they go do it.
5. Refusal means warning of another timeout and a toy our privilege will be removed
6. Timeout/confiscation
7. Repeat until child does the task.

If a child keeps refusing, we usually add anpther chore or early bed time

When my son does that- I tell him okay, when you are done in a time out, you <enter task here> And then I put him back in time out for not listening the first time.

Quoting ♫ boobook ♫:" When my son does that- I tell him okay, when you are done in a time out, you <enter task here> And then I put him back in time out for not listening the first time."

hell yeah.

What do you mommas typically give timeouts for? Just curious...

Quoting Conservative MAMA:" What do you mommas typically give timeouts for? Just curious..."

Usually when I can just tell that he needs it. For both of our sanity.
If he's overstimulated, overwhelmed, etc, he gets a time out. He gets his own space to calm down and relax, and then we talk about what happened afterward. Though I tell him at the time that he's going into timeout, what he's in there for.

With DD she gets time-outs for throwing her food repeatedly, or hitting. But she's much younger.

Quoting Conservative MAMA:" What do you mommas typically give timeouts for? Just curious..."

bad behavior that he knows is bad - mostly these days, it's more about him wanting something, not getting it and then starting the opening scene of a fit, which we quash w/ the time out threat fairly effectively.

(he's going to be five on sunday).

he still gets a warning and usually that's enough, b/c we follow through when it comes down to it. if he's tired though... that's when he turns into some demonic bratacular version of himself.

Talking back/disrespectful tone of voice
Hitting/biting
Refusing to do an age appropriate chore

My big one is just back talking.... They get a warning, so now I usually only have to remind them one time. Always follow through or it won't work.

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Tis his hasnt hiappen yet for me OP but when it does i like this idea LOL i just put my 2 year old in time out and she gave me attitude and i added another minute to it.

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Blatant defiance. If I ask them to do something, assuming it's a required task and not just a favor, and they refuse after already receivig a warning, time out.
Hitting/fighting thing like that get no warning, it's straight to time out. Zero tolerance for violence and they know that.

Oh yeah I totally forgot to add to my response.
He obviously gets time-outs for smurffy behavior, as well  
But we usually try to talk through it, the time outs are more for when he can not calm himself down from a tantrum.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Conservative MAMA:</b>" What do you mommas typically give timeouts for? Just curious..."</blockquote>

It really depends. Usually because of saying no, I don't want to, or just sitting there when I ask one of them to accomplish a task. If I ask them to pick up say Legos, one will always jump right in and then the other one will whine and drag their feet :/ my SN son bites and hits when he gets frustrated, but that's not okay, so that's reason for a time out. That's about it. I'm sure other things come up, but nothing I can think of at the moment,