Boyfriends Ex's

So when i first met my boyfriend i had only ever been intimate with one other person before and it wasnt serious at all. My boyfriend right now has been with over 10 different people in only a few years (we are not that old). For some reason this really bothers me and makes me feel like I am never going to be good enough. Should it bother me even though he wants us to get married some day and have kids?

It shouldnt bother you, because he is WITH YOU, not other people.

Not at all.
Past is the past.

It shouldn't bother you. If you really want a life together and you love him you forget about who they were in the past and accept who they will be in the future. Someones past doesn't define who they are.

Good thing you're not dating me. I've slept with.... A LOT of guys.

You need to work on your jealousy and self-esteem issues before getting married.

I would feel better knowing he'd been with a few other people and thought i was good enough for him to spend the rest of his life with...

<blockquote><b>Quoting loser mom:</b>" Good thing you're not dating me. I've slept with.... A LOT of guys. You need to work on your jealousy and self-esteem issues before getting married. "</blockquote>




Haha same dh has slept with double my number tho! Lucky for us we are not jealous ppl lol

It shouldn't bother you. The past is the past. He is with you for a reason. I have only been with a few people and my husband has slept with so many he lost count after 80 and it doesn't bother me at all. I know he's all mine. He wouldn't be so good in bed if he didn't have all that practice;).

Quoting **mummyX2.5**:" <blockquote><b>Quoting loser mom:</b>" Good thing you're not dating me. I've slept ... [snip!] ... married. "</blockquote> Haha same dh has slept with double my number tho! Lucky for us we are not jealous ppl lol"

hehe, me and DH are pretty even. We're sluts.  

only 10? hahahahhaa ok
the real issue is the confidence thing. he picked YOU. many people have slept with dozens of people. can't judge. just be glad he was safe, is not HIV+, and accept that he wants you from here on out. i learned a long time ago that comparing myself to my hubby's exes was a very emotionally sad and damaging activity. and all it will do is drive a wedge between you. so whether it was 10 or 348, it's in the past ... let it go & enjoy each other NOW  

Of course you're good enough, obviously you're good enough because he's choosing to be with you.
I'm of the insecure jealous variety so I get why it would bother you but just try not to let it, because I'm willing to bet those other girls don't even cross his mind, I never think about any of the other guys I've slept with, I really couldn't care about their existence either way, if anything I'd say having been with a few people before helps me know that my current boyfriend is definitely the one I want to be with, I'm 100% happier with him than I've ever been with anyone else, I'm sure it's the same for your boyfriend.

I've only been with my wife and she was with one person before me. I can relate. There are extenuating circumstances with my situation, though. She cheated on me and used her first's name when we had sex. So, you can understand why I'm off put. In the beginning, I stayed with her even though she had been with someone else because I fell for her. What ended up driving a wedge between us was her finding out about my inexperience and being jealous of nothing. I had never been with anyone other than her and she constantly accused me of cheating. Eventually she cheated on me. I think she was afraid that I would stray because I hadn't gotten to "taste" anyone else. I wish that she had done the same, but I tried to deal with it.

I couldn't deal with it after a while because she kept reminding me of my "past" that never existed. It didn't help when she called me "his" name in the middle of sex. Then the cheating. In your situation, it sounds like he is true to you. If that is the case, do what I endeavored to do early in my relationship. Try to put his and your pasts behind you. Like I said before, as long as he (or you) doesn't bring it up it will be less difficult to get past. What ended up being our death knell was her constant accusations of cheating and then doing it herself. If you can avoid a similar situation, I think that you'll be able to get past your pasts.