Quoting kelsey054:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ♫ boobook ♫:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... and his parents."</blockquote> Considering I watch him for 40 hrs a week I feel like I have the right to question."
I think your efforts would be best spent just trying to teach him what you can and dont get stressed if he does not catch on right away. If he is unable to feed himself with a spoon, maybe start there and work with him on it. Like hand over hand (where he holds the spoon and you hold his hand). Try not to worry about what he can and cant do and focus on what you can teach him with time and patience. Since you are with the child 40hr/week do you know if he has anyone coming to work with him from the public school system? I would think he would be eligible for infants and toddler services and you could have a special educator come to the home and work with him on skills.