Quoting Blah:" You sound like me before we decided to TTC our second. I was constantly going back and fourth with the ... [snip!] ... anymore it was done, no changing my mind anymore lol and now of course i'm so happy we went for it because we have our second. "
That's awesome. I'm glad you got your relief so to speak.
Maybe that's what we should do, write up a pros and cons list? I'm a really big "what if" person and DH isn't normally. Actually considering a second child is the only time I hear him say "what if".
It's kind of crappy because our con list would be high, or at least I can think of a few cons off the bat. For example our biggest legit con is no support system. We don't have family or friends near us, like at all. We don't get breaks, I don't have anyone to call to come watch DS for a few hours, we never have dates alone. I'm not saying we need someone to pawn our kids off on for a lack of better wording, but it helps to have family near by for times of need.
But, that's something that will never change. We live where we live and we're not moving far even when we purchase, and I don't see my family moving 1,400 miles away anytime soon.
Plus DH's job leaves little time for him to be at home so it's usually just DS and I and if we add another child into the mix it'll mainly be on me. That's something else that isn't going to change.
Then the whole house thing, but that isn't really bad. It's just our ideal. We live in a nice area with great schools as it is. Like I said before we are financially stable.
And that's about it...as far as I can see. It's just a lot of responsibility on my end. Of course DH as well, but when it comes to every day care it would mostly fall on me.
Decisions, decisions. lol