My cousin who I was super close to is getting married July 6th. He lives in a different state, the same area as my sister. DH will be off either the week of so I told him I wanted to spend the week there. Well he all but said no.   His parent's annual camping trip is that same week/weekend and he wants us to go to that instead. IMO, this is bullsmurf. My cousin will get married ONCE,.they could literally do yhis trip at any time. Not to mention I'll be on my period and I use cloth pads. Where am I suppose to smurfing wash them out or store them? Last year we went for one night and it was in the high 90s. I don't drive so if he doesn't take me, I don't get to go. I just feel like I'm right. I barely get to see my sister and this is a once in a lifetime event. Ao if you were in my situation, what would you do? Insist on the wedding? Suck it up and go camping?

Btw, the reason they go camping that weekend is to see some sort of race.

Can you ask another family member to take you to the wedding?

Absolutely wedding. Have him drop you off with family on his way to go camping if he really insists on going camping.

Wedding hands down. Can you get a ride there?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Angel [Mariah's Mommy]:</b>" Can you ask another family member to take you to the wedding?"</blockquote>




My Gram if she goes but honestly this is a huge, reoccuring problem. He chooses his family over mine all the time.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama MacGyver*:</b>" Absolutely wedding. Have him drop you off with family on his way to go camping if he really insists on going camping."</blockquote>




I feel like he should be there. I go to his family stuff all the time, usually without him. And we live in Indiana, wedding is 6 hours away in KY, camping is an hour north in Michigan.

I say you answer my trivia and then throw a hissy fit and insist on the wedding. It's completely unacceptable for him to insist on spending time with his family over yours all the time.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jude ♥ JGL:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mama MacGyver*:</b>" Absolutely wedding. Have him drop you off ... [snip!] ... all the time, usually without him. And we live in Indiana, wedding is 6 hours away in KY, camping is an hour north in Michigan."</blockquote>




Ah. This sucks.   I'd try to really have a heart to heart with him and tell him how you feel. I can see this being a big issue. I'm sorry OP.  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Blair Waldorf (SuperKink):</b>" I say you answer my trivia and then throw a hissy fit and insist on the wedding. It's completely unacceptable for him to insist on spending time with his family over yours all the time."</blockquote>




I thought it would be closed by now! I was gone all day yesterday (at my in-laws, of course) and actually slept last night. I will do it now!

The wedding, and I would find a ride or take a train or fly or something. That's really unfair of him. Can you guys go camping for a few nights then head to the wedding? You can always by a box of pads or tampons for a few nights.

Quoting ILOVEWINE:" The wedding, and I would find a ride or take a train or fly or something. That's really unfair of him. ... [snip!] ... Can you guys go camping for a few nights then head to the wedding? You can always by a box of pads or tampons for a few nights."

No because I honestly hate camping and I can't use disposable pads or tampons. I went camping last year for one night and it was the worst thing ever. There is no train, bus or plane that flies down there. He doesn't even care about the camping, he just wants to go to this race which is the same day as the wedding.

The wedding. And I'd force him to come too. I used to get dragged to dh's parents who are horrible to me an our daughter every other weekend when I fist moved in with him. My mom wanted to fly across the country to see us. His mom found out and planned her big family vacation for that same week. I refused to go and told him if he went I wouldn't be home when he came back. We needed to be a unit and not picking sides. It's not me and my family against you and your family kwim? It worked pretty well.

Quoting kate & tilly:" The wedding. And I'd force him to come too. I used to get dragged to dh's parents who are horrible to ... [snip!] ... needed to be a unit and not picking sides. It's not me and my family against you and your family kwim? It worked pretty well."

My MIL is a smurfing saint. Seriously, that woman has done so smurfing much for me, even before DH got his smurf together, that it's not even funny. I'm just going to tell him how much it means to me and if that fails, talk to his mom about it.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jude ♥ JGL:</b>" My MIL is a smurfing saint. Seriously, that woman has done so smurfing much for me, even before DH got ... [snip!] ... that it's not even funny. I'm just going to tell him how much it means to me and if that fails, talk to his mom about it."</blockquote>




If you're on good terms with his mom than I would talk to her about it. Unless you can get him onboard with going to the wedding with you. It is very important to spend an equal amount of time with both our families. Even though I have a rocky relationship with my in laws at best. It's so hard to get men to understand that though! Good luck! I hope you get to go to the wedding.

Just told DH about my period and he said "Okay we'll go to the wedding. I heard periods attract bears." I spit out my wine I was laughing so.hard! Hahaha I have no idea if he's serious or not.