Quoting ♥ Mrs. S ♥:" I wasn't trying to be mean when I said you'd only known him for a month. DH and I were only together ... [snip!] ... helps. You just both need to want to go. And I think he needs to give up some of the things that he is doing. Good luck momma. "
Oh not hun, I never took anyones words as mean. I needed to hear other ppl's views besides what I was thinking and what my family and friends are telling me. Cause of course they are all trying to support me and tell me I deserve better and that I should give up... I keep going back and forth to the point where I feel overwhelmed and im spinning out of control. I have been going through crazy emotions: one min im smurf him im strong, independent and I can do this by myself I have been doing a majority of it anyway, then I start to think about my vows, I made a promise for better for worse and I truly meant every word of them and I get so upset. Then I get pissed off like who the smurf does he think he is and if he cared about his family he would put his big boy pants on and stop running to his moms and dads everytimes something doesnt go his way.. Its a cycle I go through all day long. And its even harder cause Im back to work now full time (he hasnt shown up for work the past 2 days now) and Ive had to get up at 5 am to get my girls ready to go to their babysitter so I can go work a 8-10 hr day. Go pick them up and do all my mommy duties. While he doesnt have a responsibilty in the world (how it feels). The only part that makes me want to say smurf it, is when I think back to my childhood and hearing my mom late at night or really early in the morning crying for my dad to come home and that broke me. My dad was heavy into drinking, doing blow, and abusing me physially and me and my mom, mentally and emotionally. I have a sister and a brother to but they never got any And I swore to myself that I would never ever let my kids go through any of that. I have never did any of the experimenting with drugs (besides pot and mushrooms a couple times) and I swore no man was ever going to treat me like my dad did to my mom. My girls deserve to see a positive man in their life not one whose gunna smurf off when things get tough or he's overwhelmed with them. You cant just walk away from your family and you responsibilties.. I didnt knock myself up, You dont see me walking away. But thank all you girls for your opinion!!!
Update: He never went into work yesturday or today now. I talked with his brother (who is honestly a wicked guy) and he said that my SO wants to work on things he just stressed and needs time... My BIL said he completely understand where Im coming from and that my SO needs to grow up and take care of his responsibilites.