re: I want to cheat on my SO (bg secrets)

Quoting BG Secrets:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Blythe.:</b>" what is he a whiny little baby about? How old ... [snip!] ... things and he just reminds me of a woman in that way. I also am still really hurt by the way he used to treat me. He is 25"

omg same with my SO...he is always nagging about every damn thing! I feel like the man and he acts like a woman sometimes...it really annoys me. my SO is also 25..weird

<blockquote><b>Quoting BG Secrets:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Crazyhazel89:</b>" I'll admit..i feel like you just typed my ... [snip!] ... and I've known them for my whole life.. Idk I wish I never started having those dreams because then I wouldn't be so confused"</blockquote>


Maybe instead of focusing on how u want him to treat you and wanting something else, focus on your relationship with him and ways you two can work on things so that you two can be happy together. We often want our heart to lead us to live but sometimes we need to lead our heart to love. Not everyone gets that magical star struck relationship. I definitely didn't. But we are both committed to making things work, we've layed out what we want out of each other. We're in counseling. It takes both parties making a conscious effort to make things work if that's what you both want. Sit down and rationally talk to him about it. Tell him what you're craving. Tell him you're afraid If your needs aren't met you may end up going elsewhere for the satisfaction you're looking for. See if he's all in this with you. If he is and you are come up with ways to help each other be happy. Maybe he's not happy either. Maybe that's why it's hard for him to show you he loves you the way you want him to. If people don't feel loved they have a hard time showing love. And also sometimes if we change ourselves and the way we do things it can create change in others. Maybe look into the books the five love languages by gary chapman and the love dare. They may help you two get started. The five love languages helped us because my SO was doing housework to show his love for me. Well I dont see that as a sign of affection so I wasn't acknowledging what he was doing. Maybe your so is trying to show you affection but just in ways you don't recognize.

I can't tell u how to fix ur relationship n neither can these other ladies it is only u who know what u truly want maybe spend a few days apart give u some time for just u to reflect on how u really feel I will tell u that I am in love with a guy I have fought hard to be with n he has also fought to be with me cuz he also hasn't always treated me very well at all I'm happy to be going on almost 4 years of rough on n off with him but now we have a baby on the way n we had to work on our communication skills but this is our 3 rd try at being together n we r better than we ever have been... I do not think anyone can love the way they did their first for the fact that it was ur first it was so new us never had the feeling before n the first time u feel love is so special so just cuz u don't feel what u felt with the first guy is no reason to want to give up on someone u really care about n u have to care otherwise u would not have posted trying to find ways to fix it u really just need to talk maybe go on a date get that special feeling "butterflies" that brought u to want to be with him in the first place  

Quoting BG Secrets:" Now before you start calling me names and jump to conclusions, I would NEVER actually go through with ... [snip!] ... so much thinking about beig with one of those guys. Ugh! Sorry for any type-o's I tried to wright this fast before SO sees it."

I'm in relationship kind of like that now...he is so good to me and my son but my God he gets on my smurfing nerves!! We are technically on a break right now because idk if I want to stay with him. Idk if i can handle it. I mean, everything thing he does bothers me. He makes obnoxious noises because he is bored, he wants to be all over me constantly, he smacks his food and that alone makes me feel like killing him 99% of the time. The only thing keeping me around is the fact that he has his own place, and i still live with his parents, he helps me with my baby when I need a break..and I'm worried I won't ever find anyone else that will be so good to me and LO...so I have no advice...but i feel your pain. :/