CIO

Can someone link my friend an article that says the negatives of CIO?

She keeps saying I'll never get anything if I don't let DD (6 months tomorrow) CIO. I told her it's nto good for them, they cry because they need something. She thinks she's spoiled, just like half my family thinks.

TIA

ETA she asked for the articles. She said she's attempting to "see my side"

I don't have any articles to give you. And to be honest I wouldn't bother showing them to her. Just tell her she's your baby you're going to parent her as you see fit and her opinion is obsolete.

Is she a parent? Cause if she isn't I'd tell her to shove it.


Actually I'd probably tell her either way to shove it lol

Showing her articles might not change her mind.
Can you wear your baby?? Sometimes that is the only way I could get things done.

Quoting kate & tilly:" I don't have any articles to give you. And to be honest I wouldn't bother showing them to her. Just tell her she's your baby you're going to parent her as you see fit and her opinion is obsolete."

sorry I edited the OP, she wants to read up on CIO. She says she's trying to see where I'm coming from.

Quoting ♥ Mrs. S ♥:" Showing her articles might not change her mind. Can you wear your baby?? Sometimes that is the only way I could get things done. "

I need to use some taxes when I get them to get a sling or something. The carrier I had only went to 20lb I believe. DD is over 21lb already. So I'm hoping to find a good one for her since she's a big baby.

Quoting saageex3:" Is she a parent? Cause if she isn't I'd tell her to shove it. Actually I'd probably tell her either way to shove it lol"

Lol no but she is trying to understand why I'm adamant to not let her CIO, at least not yet. But probably not ever haha.

Everyone told me I needed to let DS "cry it out" when he was still a NB   Idiots. However, I eventually did do the cry it out method when he was older, and it worked, but it was so hard while it was going on. DS is fine now, and has never had seperation anxiety, or been insecure, or anything like that. Now all that being said, I regret doing it, and will be looking into other methods for this baby. I just feel wrong about it. I cant really explain it. It definately isnt for everyone though. I would tell them to shove it sideways, and that it is up to you to decide how you want to parent your child. Also no infant is "spoiled".

Your baby is spoiled because you lay her on sheets of satin, not because you don't let her CIO.  

But seriously. You can't spoil a baby.

I'd just tell her and everyone else that you'll parent your daughter the way you see fit.

Here's 10 reasons not to cry it out:

http://www.phdinparenting.com/blog/2008/7/5/cry-it-out-cio-10-reasons-why-it-is-not-for-us.html

The man, Dr. Sears:

http://www.askdrsears.com/topics/fussy-baby/science-says-excessive-crying-could-be-harmful

You can really just Google and find a lot too.

Quoting Blair Waldorf (SuperKink):" Your baby is spoiled because you lay her on sheets of satin, not because you don't let her CIO.   But ... [snip!] ... You can really just Google and find a lot too."

Lol I told everyone you can't spoil a baby. My grandma practically spat "bullsmurf!!" at me haha. She made DD cry while she was holding her, and told her you can't have your mommy, that's all you want, you spoiled girl. I was almost in tears and finally just pulled her out of my grandma's arms. She was like oh you got mommy fooled but not me, I know what you were doing.

And thank you, I'm excited to send those to my friend. Lol she said she's fine so that's proof enough apparently for CIO haha. I love the "we're fine, she will be too" band wagon hahah.

Quoting Jamie & Baby Aria:" Lol I told everyone you can't spoil a baby. My grandma practically spat "bullsmurf!!" at me haha. She ... [snip!] ... she said she's fine so that's proof enough apparently for CIO haha. I love the "we're fine, she will be too" band wagon hahah."

Ummm   I nver thought I would say this, but I'm pretty sure I would slap my Granny if she ever said/did some smurf like that...

Quoting Soon 2B Mom of 2:" Ummm   I nver thought I would say this, but I'm pretty sure I would slap my Granny if she ever said/did some smurf like that..."

Lol. If my grandmothers were alive to pull some smurf like that, you bet your ass I'd slap them. Respect your elders, my ass. MY child MY parenting rules. You don't keep my kid away from me.

Quoting Soon 2B Mom of 2:" Ummm   I nver thought I would say this, but I'm pretty sure I would slap my Granny if she ever said/did some smurf like that..."

Yeah it was horrific. I knew DD was tired and I just wanted to hold her and let her nurse to get down for her nap. And my grandma was not having it. Like I said, she thinks non CIO is complete BS and isn't afraid to say it. She always says wait till I let her babysit, but what she doesn't know is she is never babysitting her, honestly I can't trust her. Sad but true.

Quoting Blair Waldorf (SuperKink):" Lol. If my grandmothers were alive to pull some smurf like that, you bet your ass I'd slap them. Respect your elders, my ass. MY child MY parenting rules. You don't keep my kid away from me."

I know, reasons 1-10 why I won't let her babysit. All of them being, she scares me haha. She's too old fashion for me, she also said I should start solids at 3 months or I'd starve DD, and that I should get my milk evaluated because DD is so big I might need formula. Otherwise she'll just get fat. Cause that's what her dr told her when she was BFing my dad.

Quoting Soon 2B Mom of 2:" Everyone told me I needed to let DS "cry it out" when he was still a NB   Idiots. However, I eventually ... [snip!] ... them to shove it sideways, and that it is up to you to decide how you want to parent your child. Also no infant is "spoiled"."

I got told that too when she was a few weeks old. I never even considered. I don't now either. And aww, yeah I don't think it's for me. She fusses at night for a few seconds. If it gets more cry-ish than just whimpers I go in immediately. I can't stand to make her cry if she needs me.