re: CRY IT OUT METHOD HELP, please

Quoting ~Mommyof3girls~:" Can I ask why your pediatrician gave you the okay to CIO? Three kids, youngest being 6 months on the ... [snip!] ... co-slept with all three of mine and getting them to transition when THEY'RE ready was much easier than trying to force them. "

I wanted to keep my LO in our bed for as long as possible but the older he gets I just find it to be unsafe. He's 6 months now and I don't feel as comfortable leaving him alone on the bed now that he is mobile... (btw our bed is huge, a very high drop for a baby) so we have started the crib transition. Sometimes it's just the safer option and they can and will adjust if you work on it slowly. We're still in the nap phase... he will nap 20 minutes in his crib as opposed to 2 hours in his swing... so small steps...

It is nobody's business as to why you're choosing to put your 6 month old in her crib and use the CIO method. Coming from someone who has been co-sleeping for 8 months and is severely sleep deprived and having marital problems, I urge you to make the transition now instead of later before he gets more reliant on it.

HOWEVER - you need to make this transition slower. Like, a lot slower. Like someone else said, get him used to the crib. Then introduce it at night and let him get used to it at night BEFORE you leave the room. Ever notice how different everything looks in the dark? Yeah, imagine how scary it is for a baby. That's why he cries so long - he doesn't feel safe. Once he feels safe in his crib at any time, that's when you can start leaving the room and let him cry for a COUPLE minutes. If it doesn't work after 1 hour, go back to your old sleeping methods. It takes time. A lot of time.

Sorry if all of the last paragraph was mentioned. I didn't read every single post in the thread.

Quoting Rydicule91:" Poor baby, I don't think that's old enough but your pedi gave you the ok... Idk I don't think crying it out is the best method."

Agreed! I won't let lo cry for longer than 5 mins. I'd feel bad

Quoting Mama❍:" I wanted to keep my LO in our bed for as long as possible but the older he gets I just find it to be ... [snip!] ... We're still in the nap phase... he will nap 20 minutes in his crib as opposed to 2 hours in his swing... so small steps... "

We have a king and it's two foot off the ground because of the frame we have. I don't let the baby sleep by herself, I'll lay with her until she wakes up, as I did with both of my older two. If I don't sit in there, I wake her up. I'm just not opposed to letting a baby CIO that long because a parent wants "peace" It's not right! Working on it slowly is one thing but to honestly MAKE an INFANT CIO without checking on them is neglect in my opinion. And I know what you mean, our middle would nap shorter in her bed than in our bed. She's 4 now and sleeps all night in her bed. Sometimes we wind up with three in the bed with us (5, 4 and 6 months)

The pretender- thanks for your kind words! I am by no means perfect as a parent.. I know this. However, I know I can make smart choices for my child and shouldn't be judged for them. We didn't abandon her for hours, she was regularly checked on. She actually slept in the crib perfectly for a week or so before she got sick, so it had been done. I appreciate the advice some of you gave, truly. The many negative comments by a couple individuals were NOT appreciated. It's ok to voice your opinion but when you try to force it on others you're only hurting your cause.

The pretender- thanks for your kind words! I am by no means perfect as a parent.. I know this. However, I know I can make smart choices for my child and shouldn't be judged for them. We didn't abandon her for hours, she was regularly checked on. She actually slept in the crib perfectly for a week or so before she got sick, so it had been done. I appreciate the advice some of you gave, truly. The many negative comments by a couple individuals were NOT appreciated. It's ok to voice your opinion but when you try to force it on others you're only hurting your cause.