Quoting A is Me:" <blockquote><b>Quoting The Pretender:</b>" I get that this is a "public forum" and ... [snip!] ... and let her child cry. All in order to force upon the infant a sleeping arrangement that it very well may NOT be ready for."
For some of us, the instinct to want to trip over my own feet to console a crying baby just isn't there.
At least for me, it wasn't.
I, admittedly, have poor maternal instincts with kids younger than 3. I did my best to trump my nature when my 4 year old was a baby/little one-- and I was only able to do that because I KNEW what was appropriate and what wasn't partly due to my training in healthcare and partly due to common sense. Honest to goodness- my instinct when I hear a crying child is to run far far away/avoid the child. I didn't give into that because I desperately wanted to be a good mom and knew that being a good mom meant making every effort to soothe your baby even if it makes you uncomfortable. For someone who doesn't have the motivation that I had, however, the thought that "the baby is crying because it's a brat" or "because it wants to" could cloud the good sense one needs to actually go and comfort the baby.
Also, I don't automatically assume that everyone become instantly emotionally bonded with their newborn/infant from birth. Having that bond makes the "connection" that much easier that crying baby = baby in distress = I need to nuggle nuggle that baby! I can say that I LOVED my daughter from birth but I also have to say, sadly, that I didn't bond with her until much much later. There were many reasons for that that I simply won't get into here...
.... that was all just a really long way to say that the OP may have chosen the CIO method for the wrong reasons... and instead of being like, "don't you love your baby enough to cuddle it when it cries?!!?" I'd try a different angle to show her that it probably isn't the right choice for her.
Again, I have NO idea if these apply to OP or not, just saying... I try to avoid making people feel like bad mommas when I can in cases where people are just tying to get help