Was I wrong?

Just been to the supermarket and as we were walking home we were just about to cross at a pedestrian crossing. Man in a car was stopped halfway across the crossing, which is illegal for one and we had DS in his pushchair which made it extremely awkward to get past and across the road. He wouldn't move when he saw us either. I gave him a dirty look and said to DH 'what a prick'. As we were walking past, I saw he had a 6/7 year old boy in the front seat of his car without a seatbelt or carseat or even a booster seat. Which again is completely illegal and dangerous. After we crossed over, he wound his window down and shouted after me 'what's our problem?' I shouted back at him 'You've stopped halfway across a pedestrian crossing and your child should be in a carseat. It's illegal otherwise.'
Walked off after this. DH was really pissed at me for it. He told me that if anyone decided to get out of their cars for that, he would be the one they punched, not me. Which since I haven't lived round here very long I wouldn't realise. Fair enough, but now I know it. He is still pissed at me for not thinking of him before shouting at this man who yelled at me first.
I would not be able to forgive myself if I saw that car with that kid in it in an accident and hadn't said anything. I told DH it was wrong of me to shout, I should've just said it, but still, being pissed at me for that doesn't feel good  

Quoting Alice.:" Just been to the supermarket and as we were walking home we were just about to cross at a pedestrian ... [snip!] ... I told DH it was wrong of me to shout, I should've just said it, but still, being pissed at me for that doesn't feel good  "

I agree with him. First.. if he was stopped halfway through the crosswalk... he stopped. Maybe he didn't see you in time?

the carseat.. not your business. If you felt you needed to, call the cops.

not sure what just moving there had to do with anything.. anytime a woman with a man picks a fight with another man... it gets their guy involved. HE guy would not get out of his car and bother YOU, he'd start something with the man.

that all said.... he was an ass.. but you should have just vented to your SO instead of yelling at him.

Quoting snglemama:" I agree with him. First.. if he was stopped halfway through the crosswalk... he stopped. Maybe he ... [snip!] ... with the man. that all said.... he was an ass.. but you should have just vented to your SO instead of yelling at him."

I was just about to say the same thing.

I think it's difficult to correctly guage the age and weight of someone else's child while they are riding in a car and you are walking past.

I think you should mind your own before someone kicks the crap out of you for saying stupid smurf.

Quoting .Colleen.:" I think it's difficult to correctly gauge the age and weight of someone else's child while they are riding ... [snip!] ... and you are walking past. I think you should mind your own before someone kicks the crap out of you for saying stupid smurf."

 

Um yeah you made a big deal out of and potentially endangered yourself and child for something that was none of your damn business (child in front seat) and was likely an accident and minor inconvenience for you (driving into crosswalk). Seriously I would have known to keep my mouth shut and I don't live there at all. Pick your battles hun

<blockquote><b>Quoting nursemaya (13weeks):</b>" Um yeah you made a big deal out of and potentially endangered yourself and child for something that was ... [snip!] ... into crosswalk). Seriously I would have known to keep my mouth shut and I don't live there at all. Pick your battles hun"</blockquote>



 

I'd go ahead and say, yeah, your DH is right on this one. You're lucky this guy didn't want to further make a problem. Then again, I will give you SOME props because he yelled at you first and what you said was in the heat of the moment. You probably ended up going a little overboard on the mama bear thing since your DS was with you, and you saw what you thought was another child who might have been in danger as well.

Your DH has a right to be angry about it. Just tell him you weren't thinking. And just remember next time, sometimes it's better to just hold your tongue. People are smurfs no matter where you go. :/

I agree with DH. If I'd done that, DH would have been completely livid with me, lol. Not worth it to talk crap to a grown man you don't know anything about. Should have kept on walking and be the bigger person. And you could have just taken his license plate number and noted the street he was on and called the police if you were so concerned about the child. Yelling at the Dad in front of his kid was also the wrong way to go about it.
I get it was probably in the heat of the moment. But try to remember that in the future, lol. You never know how stable the man is, he could be a psychopath that will get out and shoot you for all you know. I know that sounds extreme and unlikely, but you don't know what anyone else is capable of.

I figured as much, thanks ladies. Guess I'll have to work on keeping my mouth shut from now on

Honestly , the car seat comment may have been overboard , but he was the one that rolled down his window and instigated it. You WERE just going to walk by and be done with it.

I would have said something myself. He was a prick.

Thankfully my DH is more hotheaded than I am and he would have probably said it for me.