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Grow some balls and tell him to his face.

Have u talked to a lawyer or anything? I wouldn't piss him off cause idk if you were still going to try to move out of state, but remember I told you about the lady my SO worked with in WA who was stuck there because of her ex who was being bitter and fighting her so she couldn't leave.

I would just keep her until there's some kind of written agreement and just let him see her while you supervise. He can take her and not have to give her back to you until court says to. That's just what I would do though.

That's just going to add fuel to the fire. You should talk to him face to face and work on being co-parents...

I think mainly since there is a child involved he deserves to here it in person. You are taking his baby so a Dear John letter would be even worse. It could cause a lot of problems.

Be a grown up and talk to Him about your plans. As far as custody, until its legally in place, just discuss what you both want to do and see if you can't some to an agreement.
Seriously, sneaking away is just a bad way to go about things.

tell him what is happening. If you just up and leave he may not be able to trust you in the future.
as for the parenting thing, just keep her until there is a written agreement, and let him see her with you being there.

Honestly how would you feel if he took your kid and left you a note saying it was over?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Blythe.:</b>" Honestly how would you feel if he took your kid and left you a note saying it was over?"</blockquote>


 

My mom has been through this. So speaking from experience, yes leave a note if you feel that is what's best. Some men don't take it so easy when you tell them you are leaving. My mom tried that and got choked out in front of me. Also do not let him keep your child until something is arranged because other wise he has the right to keep your lo until something is arranged in court. My mom had to literally kid nap my little brother and sister from their dad because of this. He had them for 3 months before she did this because he wouldn't give them up willingly and there was no custody arrangement at that time. But you should speak with and attorney before you d anything just to be on the safe side and make sure you don't do anything that could jeopardize loosing your lo.

I left in the middle of the night and my ex didn't find out till them morning. I feared for our safety, and did what I had to do.

The courts decided custody ultimately, though he is nonexistent in her life basically. He calls every 2 or 3 weeks and hasn't seen her in 2 1/2 years. Just try to keep the conversations about your child only and try not to get ugly, it's what's best for everyone involved.

Since I don't know your situation, I assume there is a good reason why you don't want to tell him in person. If that's the case, then obviously a letter or phone call would have to do. Just leave your contact number and try to sound friendly? But if it's possible to do so in person, it would probably be better to do so, it's more of an adult decision I guess. Good luck OP.

My answer is assuming he's not abusive or a danger or threat to you an LO. If he is then yes leave a note and gtfo. But i assume you don't feel that way itgerwise you wouldn't be talking about arranging visitation while u wait for court.

If there is no court order he dnt have to give her back I had that happenbwith me he was being an ass and I wanted her back called the cops and they said there is no court order so they cant do nothing so I guess his mom convinced him to give her back sucks so just go threw court to establish child support and visits but he is an ass for making u walk with his kid in the cold!!!