How to help DD accept that she's having a brother

Ok so DD is 4 almost 5 and she's been wanting a sibling for a long time. When we told her that we were expecting she was really excited and knew that she would have either a brother or a sister. The last 2 months she's been saying that she knows that the baby is a girl because she saw her in her dreams, we did explain to her the possibility of it being a boy but she's a very stubborn child.

Well, we found out on Saturday that we're having a boy. She was so upset that she left the ultrasound room and waited for us in the waiting room. Daddy went to get her and try to get her excited but nothing helped. We then when out to dinner and talked to her for a bit then she even started singing "I'm having a baby brother". But yesterday she started crying that she doesn't want the baby to be a boy and that she wants a sister.

We took her shopping and had her pick a boy toy to help her accept her brother and it worked a bit. Then we told her how she's going to be our only princess for a while and how she won't have to share her dolls to try to make her laugh but it doesn't seem to help. She looks sad and down   It makes me sad. She also has a cold so that doesn't help lol.

What are good ideas to help her accept that she's having a baby brother and make her excited about it. We're all thrilled about having a boy except her  

My little girl is the exact opposite. She told me she won't let me bring"that" baby home if it is a girl lol

Quoting jazzzzz*:" My little girl is the exact opposite. She told me she won't let me bring"that" baby home if it is a girl lol"

LOL! DD said she's not going to love him which I know that she will but I want to help her get used to the idea and I want to get her excited again about having a sibling.

get her a baby brother doll (toys r us has one) and let her show you how she can help you take care of him... tell her some boys play dress up with their sister and she can still take baths with him. the only thing that changes is the color of his clothes

I wouldn't stress about it too much just yet, she has plenty of time left to get used to the idea. My stepson said he didn't want a baby sister at first, but now he seems more excited about it. It may be harder for her to go from being the only child. That's been the hardest part for us 

DS wanted a brother and I brought him home a sister.   But during my pregnancy he was excited for either at first. And then after we found out it was a girl, he decided he wanted a brother instead.

So we explained the not having to share your toys (He didn't care. He wanted to share). So we explained that he's going to have to help take care of his sister and she's going to need her big brother to teach her how to walk and talk and eat like a big kid and how to play with toys and all sort of stuff.

He liked the idea of being in the guiding role, no matter the sex of the baby.

So maybe get her in a helping mood?

I was the little girl upset by having a little brother. I threw a fit about it! After my brother came home I was still sad he wasn't a girl. My mom asked me why I was upset and why I wanted him to be a girl. I told her it was so he could wear all of my old baby clothes and play with girl toys. My mom then dug out all our baby dresses and she put him in everything we wanted him to wear and let us call him Claire for the day. She pretended to make him play dolls with us. Them that night she said ok Claire is going to go away now and be warren again tomorrow. I then accepted him. There may be a little something you can do to help her cope like that. I know what my mom did is not something many others would do. But my sister still look back on our afternoon with "Claire" fondly. She will eventually get over it and learn to accept and love her brother. I'd ask why she wanted him to be a girl I guess.

I remember I was that same age when my brother was born. I clearly remember the ride home from the hospital and seeing 2 little girls walking down the street and then wishing the baby was a girl. lol.
Sorry I'm not help.
My parents did let me pick my brother's name...with their help of course. That helped me get used to the idea of a baby.

Quoting PuckettsOFfun:" get her a baby brother doll (toys r us has one) and let her show you how she can help you take care of ... [snip!] ... play dress up with their sister and she can still take baths with him. the only thing that changes is the color of his clothes"

Good ideas. Thanks!

Quoting mmjohnson13:" I wouldn't stress about it too much just yet, she has plenty of time left to get used to the idea. My ... [snip!] ... he seems more excited about it. It may be harder for her to go from being the only child. That's been the hardest part for us "

DD wanted a sibling, she hates being the only child. Even when we told her she was like why did you guys wait so long lol. But I'm sure she'll get used to the idea I just hate to see her sad it's not like her.

Quoting Blair Waldorf (SuperKink):" DS wanted a brother and I brought him home a sister.   But during my pregnancy he was excited for ... [snip!] ... of stuff. He liked the idea of being in the guiding role, no matter the sex of the baby. So maybe get her in a helping mood?"

I hope so, I will try this too. And she was ok with either or at first.

Quoting kate & tilly:" I was the little girl upset by having a little brother. I threw a fit about it! After my brother came ... [snip!] ... She will eventually get over it and learn to accept and love her brother. I'd ask why she wanted him to be a girl I guess."

LOL! DH would kill me but I don't see anything wrong with him playing with her girl toys. Toys are just toys to me so I can do that.

Quoting ♥ Mrs. S ♥:" I remember I was that same age when my brother was born. I clearly remember the ride home from the hospital ... [snip!] ... My parents did let me pick my brother's name...with their help of course. That helped me get used to the idea of a baby. "

Yeah she's the same way. She saw her friend yesterday playing with her baby sister and she started crying "it's not fair". But we're "letting" her pick the name too.

<blockquote><b>Quoting GlamChic:</b>" DD wanted a sibling, she hates being the only child. Even when we told her she was like why did you guys ... [snip!] ... like why did you guys wait so long lol. But I'm sure she'll get used to the idea I just hate to see her sad it's not like her."</blockquote>




That's good  

Quoting GlamChic:" Yeah she's the same way. She saw her friend yesterday playing with her baby sister and she started crying "it's not fair". But we're "letting" her pick the name too."

she should watch my daughter and son play! they are best friends now!