Yeah so...nursed my baby until he was 3 1/2. I forced him to quit cold-turkey. lol. It was time. 3 1/2?! Oh yeah. I know I was done.
Conveniently we were taking a trip to Colorado (distraction!) and I told him that in the mountains the milk wouldn't come out. He accepted that while we were on vacation. There were train rides, amusement parks, new things to see and do. But now. Oh, but now...
Everything changed about my relationship with my son. The child is so angry with me. He is so mean. I'm sure he feels betrayed or like he lost something, but wtf? I try to be understanding and firm about what he cannot say to me, but he tends to fly off the handle (only at me--papa is gold right now) or just tell me to leave the room. He began having fits in public (only with me; he would never do that with his dad). However, if questioned about why he is angry, he will either say he is not angry, or come up with some bizarre made-up reason. He is little, and has no idea that he's mad because I stopped nursing.
Please, someone else tell me you had something similar happen with weaning and that the anger is only a phase. I'm going on 2 months of this and it's so difficult to handle. Generally, my son even refuses to do a night time routine with me--only his dad can snuggle with him. Very sad for me (though I accept that it's good for his dad to have preferred parent status sometimes too--just not like this).
I don't think it's just weaning. My friend didn't breast feed her kid that long but he is just over 3 and going through a faze like that. He is very good to dad, loves dad but pretty mean to her at times. I think it's a phase that a lot of kids may go through. Mine are still young so I can't speak from experience. But it sounds similar. The no-boobs could have triggered the stage though.
^ Its true, I think its a phase. Weaning may have a teeny bit to do with it but I doubt it.. Id try to just be as affectionate as possible when he will let you. My 2yr old has cut down nursing since Im now nursing my 3.5mo old. She also has taken favor towards dad. Id say thats normal. My 4yr old did the same thing when I had my now-2yro. (Yes, I have lots of babies close in age lol) But my 4yr old is now back to being a mommas girl. She actually went thru a phase of tantrums so out of control I thought there was something seriously wrong with her, our dr did an MRI because she would stress & scream and throw up randomly (she had concerns our daughter had a brain injury or tumor!) . She grew out of it in like 6 months. No lasting behavioral issues.