Alone this entire pregnancy now my childs father has gf

ok so i am 28 weeks now...this whole pregnancy i have been alone i brokeup with my kids father because he was mistreating me and cheating on me. now he has a new girlfriend and she keeps telling me she wants to buy things for my daughter and help me out and stuff...im really hurt rite now i dont know what to do? i dont want to be with him so i dont get it why am i so hurt about this has this ever happened to you?

You are probably hurt because you thought you'd be going through this together.

yeah...he wants to be with me but i just cant trust him and hes such a jerk to me it just really sucks....not sure what to do

Quoting mommy loves gracey:" ok so i am 28 weeks now...this whole pregnancy i have been alone i brokeup with my kids father because ... [snip!] ... i dont know what to do? i dont want to be with him so i dont get it why am i so hurt about this has this ever happened to you?"

I get along with my first exhusband's wife and she has gotten me little things for both my younger daughter and has told me she will be getting something for this one. I don't get along with him at all but she's cool. If she ever has a child I know I will get her something.

Quoting mommy loves gracey:" yeah...he wants to be with me but i just cant trust him and hes such a jerk to me it just really sucks....not sure what to do"

if he wanted to be with you he would be faithful and loyal to you regardless if you two are in a relationship right now or not.. me and my BD are not together, my doing cause he isnt ready for a family so i left him but i love him so i am staying loyal in hopes things will change after baby is here..

Seems she wants a relationship with you. I would try and be friends because she will be looking after your children when they are at their house.

Kudos for her being so good about it.

My ex's girlfriend got my daughter to do a big painting on canvas for me for Mother's Day. It was very appreciated and even though I haven't met her yet it definitely made me like her a lot more. My daughter loves her.

Quoting Baby peaches mama:" if he wanted to be with you he would be faithful and loyal to you regardless if you two are in a relationship ... [snip!] ... he isnt ready for a family so i left him but i love him so i am staying loyal in hopes things will change after baby is here.."

Yeah your right....it just really hurts that he felt like he needs a new girlfriend he did try to make it workout with me but in my eyes it wasnt good enough he still continued to talk to girls i even found out he was on a dating site. i hope they dont workout...

Quoting Onalee's Mummy:" Seems she wants a relationship with you. I would try and be friends because she will be looking after ... [snip!] ... It was very appreciated and even though I haven't met her yet it definitely made me like her a lot more. My daughter loves her."

Im not even sure if i want him near the baby hes violent and disrespectful...but that sounds great...did it ever make you upset that hes with someone else and your kid is around her?

<blockquote><b>Quoting mommy loves gracey:</b>" Yeah your right....it just really hurts that he felt like he needs a new girlfriend he did try to make ... [snip!] ... it wasnt good enough he still continued to talk to girls i even found out he was on a dating site. i hope they dont workout..."</blockquote>




Why?

Even though it hurts your it would be a positive for your children to have a women their to help him out.

I know my ex only knew how to make toasted sandwiches. His gf cooks healthy for her. That was a big plus for me

<blockquote><b>Quoting mommy loves gracey:</b>" Im not even sure if i want him near the baby hes violent and disrespectful...but that sounds great...did it ever make you upset that hes with someone else and your kid is around her?"</blockquote>



It did. It was really hard for me. But I had to take a step back and realise together we were both unhappy and angry people. Apart our daughter was in a better environment.

Quoting Onalee's Mummy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting mommy loves gracey:</b>" Yeah your right....it just really hurts ... [snip!] ... help him out. I know my ex only knew how to make toasted sandwiches. His gf cooks healthy for her. That was a big plus for me"

Agree ^^^^^^^

Quoting mommy loves gracey:" Yeah your right....it just really hurts that he felt like he needs a new girlfriend he did try to make ... [snip!] ... it wasnt good enough he still continued to talk to girls i even found out he was on a dating site. i hope they dont workout..."

yah its hard.. i dont trust my BD either so i had to shut some feelings out im hoping he grows up but i know he is talking to and seeing girls im notg dumb and i know everyone in our town so no chance in him hiding ish.. anyways idk i think you should be friends with her and be strong for you and baby and show him how mature you can be he will kick himself in the ass to see what he messed up.. but maybe u do deserve better as i think i do with my BD..

Quoting Onalee's Mummy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting mommy loves gracey:</b>" Yeah your right....it just really hurts ... [snip!] ... help him out. I know my ex only knew how to make toasted sandwiches. His gf cooks healthy for her. That was a big plus for me"

lol this is about the only nice thing I can say about my ex's new wife, before he married her my kids only ate fast food or pizza at his house... and my daughter's hair was never combed.. at least she tries to cook and does Malli's hair, otherwise she's a psychotic bitch..

First a little background info to my situation; I am a stepmother myself to two beautiful children. We are now expecting a child together I am 34 wks and she has attempted to make our lives a living hell the entire pregnancy. Him and I are married and they had been divorced for two years before we got together and the youngest child of theirs was 3 at the time. However, I have tried so hard to not only be as good to the babies as I can but to her as well. I, myself, not my husband, buy all of their school clothes every year, every winter coat, anything that they need on top of the child support that he pays. Not only do I do these things but she has came to expect it; when ever they need anything she calls me. But she has been completely rude and unappreciative in every thing that I do and I am not in anyway trying to take her place or try to "outdo" her so to speak, but I am trying to make sure that just because they couldn't work things out the children and her both know that they are not alone, they shouldn't have to be. I know that I would want the same if the shoe was on the other foot. So my opinion is don't push her away or take offense to these actions. Whatever happened between you and him isn't her fault and you should be happy that he atleast has someone that wants him to be involved with his child. Hope this helps.