Quoting ~Ice Princess~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sarah Bare-ah♡:</b>" People with downs syndrome can have ... [snip!] ... Exactly. The only way I'd abort again is if it had medical issues or I'd die. DS is a reason I would..."
I have a cousin with severe DS, and he is an absolute treasure but omg it is SO hard on his parents. He's in his early 20's now and he can't be in school anymore, so they have to figure out what to do with him...there's so much that goes into raising a child with DS. You need so much strength and patience, and so many resources. It's so expensive.
Dh and I aren't equipped to raise a child with a severe disability like that, and I'm over 35, so with this pregnancy I took every genetic test available to me because I would seriously consider termination. I don't feel good saying that, or thinking it, but continuing with that pregnancy would cripple our dd's quality of life and take resources away from her, and it doesn't seem fair when the alternative would be terminating at 14-20 weeks. Fortunately, all but the dna test have come back and everything looks great, but until I got the NT scan and everything, I was fully braced to have to consider how to handle news like that. Something could still come up or go wrong. Having a child, even when you really want one, is a gamble. So idk what I'd do for sure if this baby had DS or something like that, which is why I can't say for sure that anybody else in a similar situation would be right or wrong, no matter what they chose. It wouldn't be so much a matter of not valuing the baby's life as it would be a matter of how much I value my 4-year-old's future and stability.