Quoting Mrs. Sherwood:" Honestly, and I'm saying this truthfully, I don't think you do know what's wrong with you. Either that, ... [snip!] ... that she did your flowers, but you asked her to. You really need a new therapist. Or just stay in denial about it. Whichever."
I never said I was angry.
Being angry and upset is something completely different.
I also stated that I understood both angles of her not wanting a play date.(which I haven't asked for since August so obviously this is old news), I'm also upset that she won't give him a chance to prove himself since he's made so much progress. I do get angry when she pulls my MIL in and attempts to punish my MIL because of my child. Both DH and I agree that grandma's should be neutral territory.
I was never angry about the flowers. I was upset because she used the flowers to turn my wedding into a circus event about her. I think that would naturally upset any bride, but I loved the flowers, in fact the bouquets and bouts still hang on my wall. I love them a lot, I just hated how she approached it and made us naturally upset when she turned our event, our party into something about her.
I'm also not upset that she INVITED us to her party, because she never did. I'm upset that she planned a party and EXPECTED that everyone would come without consulting the entire family and just EXPECTED that we all wanted to come to her house.
Being angry is like actually being really really really really mad. I'm not really mad. I'm upset, upset enough that it was the straw the broke the camel's back. That so much of the emotional drama that she causes this family caused me to break down.
Yeah I'll admit that's what happened. And she makes me very upset that she thinks this is ok to just do this with everyone.
But matter of fact she didn't invite ANYONE to Easter. Apparently my BIL walked up to my MIL and said, "We're having Easter at our house on March 31st" implying that she was coming.
And that's what my SIL said to me. They don't ask, they EXPECT you to be there. That's different than inviting you.
I think that if these things were happening you, you might have a little discontent over it too.
Oh and I'm diagnosed with severe anxiety disorder, and a mild case of OCD. I see my doctor regularly about it, I am medicated. I know what my problems are.
Thanks for your recommendations though..