excpectations....

So my husband had a Sunday off FINALLY! And I was so excited to know that he would have today off I cried. I've missed him so much with him working 60 to 70 hours a week a Sunday off with no plans sounded heavenly! Well this morning LO woke up to her ear bleeding (ruptured ear drum) so we had to go to the hospital. Then we get home he says he not feeling well and just wants to play video games today... my feeling are hurt. I just wanted to have a day to remind us that we loved eachother. We never have time for eachother and apperantly if we do have time other stupid smurf is more important. :\

End Vent.

Play with him? Ask if he wants to watch a movie instead?

Initiate it! Rub his back, start a movie. Or make him something to eat since he's always gone..

I am sure he will gladly watch a movie with you, if you show him some lovin' too! lol

Working that much is tough. I would just want to vege out for a while too. Could you play with him or if not play just sit there and be with him.

Some of Dh & mines best times together are spent on the couch just talking/laughing etc.

I understand you're frustrations. I can imagine working 60-70 hours a week is exhausting. I'd want to sit and relax on my one day off, too.

Maybe go in and initiate some alone time...

Mine works 60 weeks also and all he wants to do is play video games on his days off:/ He takes me out to lunch and then thinks he can game it up for the rest of the day. It hurts my feelings too. I wonder if guys don't get they put them self in a room and basically shut themselves off. I know if were to be gone all day on one of his days he'd be sure to bring it up..... To me him playing all day is just like him being gone. We don't play peddy games in our relationship, but sometimes I just want to leave for the whole day and let him know how it feels.... And if he brings it up is be like well I figured you'd just play video games all days cause its what you've been lately. I wanna say I didn't want to sit here all day again while you and your PS3 got a work out. Lol.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. God of Thunder:</b>" I understand you're frustrations. I can imagine working 60-70 hours a week is exhausting. I'd want to sit and relax on my one day off, too. Maybe go in and initiate some alone time..."</blockquote>




That's where his "I don't feel good" fits in.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jennifer Bolen:</b>" Mine works 60 weeks also and all he wants to do is play video games on his days off:/ He takes me out ... [snip!] ... its what you've been lately. I wanna say I didn't want to sit here all day again while you and your PS3 got a work out. Lol."</blockquote>




Yeah. I totally understand. He deserves some alone time. But he doesn't see LO almost all week and he is missing so much...LO actually will be shy with him. It hurts his feeling when she does that but he does really take advantage of the time he could have with LO....and me.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jennifer Bolen:</b>" Mine works 60 weeks also and all he wants to do is play video games on his days off:/ He takes me out ... [snip!] ... its what you've been lately. I wanna say I didn't want to sit here all day again while you and your PS3 got a work out. Lol."</blockquote>

I have left for all day. My DH was happy no one interrupted his game time since we only have one TV. But I don't mind his XBox. He works and takes care of our family, I am not his mother and don't tell him how to spend his free time. But I do know that some women get really upset over video games.

I don't say anything to him playing, but sometimes I just feel like he takes advantage of the fact that I don't say anything. I have two daughters, and I'm a full-time student. I help support us too so I don't feel like its a reason to be playing that much. I'd love to have a hobby that I could just ignore everything and do all day, but I can't cause I'm a Mother and I have homework, and errands to run. Idk? Personally I thinly after so many hours of playing its kinda selfish??

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama Rice:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jennifer Bolen:</b>" Mine works 60 weeks also and all he wants ... [snip!] ... not his mother and don't tell him how to spend his free time. But I do know that some women get really upset over video games."</blockquote>




For me its more over...when your husband works 60 to 70 hours in a week you get so alone and you miss your spouse. I assumed he would've miss me too. But today after he'd been playing a game for about an hour and a half I got tired of watching him play so I decided to take a nap 15 mins later he come into our room we have sex for like 10 mins he rolls off of me stand up and walks away and plays his games again. Like WTF!?

Could you sit next to him while he plays if you don't want to play too? Or play with him.
We only have one controller, so when SO plays video games I sit next to him and watch. It's still spending time together. We talk and I tease him when he does bad, lol.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" Could you sit next to him while he plays if you don't want to play too? Or play with him. We only have ... [snip!] ... video games I sit next to him and watch. It's still spending time together. We talk and I tease him when he does bad, lol."</blockquote>



For 2 hours!?

He CAN'T talk and play video games...he just nods his head and goes "yeah?" "Huh." Its like talking to a wall.