Affectionate families.

Do you come from one?

I can't remember the last time I kissed my mum, or hugged her, or even told her I loved her and vice versa... That applies to anyone in my family, really. We're just not affectionate. It's kind of sad.

To the point where, sometimes I feel weird verbalising an "I love you" to my SO or letting him hug me. I mean I do love him with everything I have but it's like I have to make an effort to be affectionate, it just doesn't come naturally the way I wish it did. It blows because sometimes he's overly affectionate and I hate that it makes me feel uncomfortable at times.  

I always kiss & hug my kids and tell them I love them a billion times a day... They are like the only people I don't feel weird verbally and physically sharing affections with. I sincerely hope that we can always be like this and that they don't have the kind of issues I deal with.

My family is VERY affectionate. Hugging, kissing, lots of I love uous.

My relationship with my family is the same. I honestly dont think my dad has ever hugged me or said he loves me. My mom occasionally says I love you, but this started in recent history and its still weird to me.

My husbands family is SUPER affectionate and it makes me really uncomfortable. Like you, my kids are the only people I dont feel weird showing affection to.

I'm the exact same way, except my grandmother is a very affectionate lady. I didn't grow up with my oldest siblings and they do show affection despite all the troubles, and it makes me think "da fuq?!" Because I was almost raised by my grandma! They were in hell more than us. Haha

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ryloonjimama:</b>" Do you come from one? I can't remember the last time I kissed my mum, or hugged her, or even told her ... [snip!] ... affections with. I sincerely hope that we can always be like this and that they don't have the kind of issues I deal with."</blockquote>

My family was not really very affectionate when I was growing up. I grew up in South Africa and I think it was a cultural thing much of the time. We didn't say stuff like "I love you" or hug a lot and that type of mushy stuff. Then we moved to the US, And it's funny to see how my family has changed over the years. It became even more different when my daughter was born.
My parents are much more affectionate and my siblings are as well. It's been sooo weird to hear my mother say "I love you" everyday to me. I never say anything back. It's one of those things that I never grew up saying and haven't been able to get into it. I'm also not a very affectionate person. It took having my daughter to really open up a bit more. I think some of it is the way I was raised and some of it is really just my personality. My brother is so lovey dovey with his fiancé and it makes me laugh sometimes. My sister isn't as much in front of family, but way more than me. DH is very loving and affectionate with the "love you" stuff, and bless his heart for being so patient with me. My sister calls me the ice queen. Others call me a cool cucumber. But I have my mushy moments, lol 

We weren't an affectionate family at all. Barely any hugging, kissing or I love yous, with the exception of my granpas. They were both very affectionate with my brothers and I.

When my older brother got married, his MIL and BIL(14) moved in with them and like every time we went into their house those two would be cuddled up on the couch and sharing a blanket and smurf. Just totally weird IMO. And they thought WE were weird for NOT doing that stuff.

I last told my mom I loved her, hugged her and kissed her, actually the day before she died (just last month, the wounds are still fresh) she couldn't say it back but I could feel it. My dad says he loves me every once in a while now.

With my kiddos, the affection comes more naturally. I hug, kiss, cuddle and love them as much as I can. They're my babies and it seems normal.

DH and I both grew up in that kind of family. When I hit a certain age, I wasn't comfortable with it anymore. I am just not a very outwardly affectionate person to most people. I am with my DH and children, but it just feels so weird to me with my parents, ILs, siblings, and closest friends...anyone other than my husband ands kids really.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Piecey.:</b>" DH and I both grew up in that kind of family. When I hit a certain age, I wasn't comfortable with it ... [snip!] ... just feels so weird to me with my parents, ILs, siblings, and closest friends...anyone other than my husband ands kids really."</blockquote>

Well I was gonna say something about your response ( something along the lines of agreeing/relating), but got distracted by your amazing avi. I love me some grumpy cat LOL!!

My family is is affectionate. Probably more so now that my brother, sister and I are all out of home and have our own families. But we're not big on the "I love yous" just more a kiss on the cheek and a hug when we see each other (which isn't very often).
TBH I can't even recall the last time iv told my mum or dad I love them or vice versa. I don't think iv ever told my sister (we don't get along that well). My brother and I have always been close, but we never said it. Although when he moved to another state I was so upset. When we were at the airport saying goodbye, he left me til last, coz he said I was the hardest person to say bye to. Then when he hugged me he was crying and told me he loved me (first time iv ever heard him say it) it honestly broke my heart.....I even get all warm and fuzzy, and even a lil teary when I think back to that moment. That's one thing I will remember for the rest of my life  

We were/still are. I don't cuddle with my 14 and 16 year old kids any more. But for different reasons. I do tell them I love them and they still get lots of hugs. Now my 11 year old dd is very huggy still and of course my baby well, she's still bf do she still cuddles.
As for my parents, I only see them once or twice a month and I always get hugs and love ya's from them.

No, I do not. My husband did though, and his influence has rubbed off on me.  

My immediate family isn't really into the whole mushy gushy stuff. My mom and I say we love each other after we talk on the phone, but it's strange coming from my dad. It pretty much means something's going wrong when he says it... Hugs feel weird too since they hardly ever happen unless someone's sick, depressed, or dying.

Because of it, when I met my ex's family, I felt SOOOOO uncomfortable! They were OVERLY affectionate, kissing and hugging one another as soon as someone new would come through the door, or when someone would say something funny or something... I was just standing there like; "Personal bubble.... personal bubble... do not invade..."

It's totally different with my current SO. Thank God. Being affectionate is ok, but I promise, if you were there, you would agree with me... they bordered on creepy.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ryloonjimama:</b>" Do you come from one? I can't remember the last time I kissed my mum, or hugged her, or even told her ... [snip!] ... affections with. I sincerely hope that we can always be like this and that they don't have the kind of issues I deal with."</blockquote>




I came from an affectionate family. Lots of hugs and kisses.
My husband did not and he is not typically affectionate. His is sometimes but it's unusual. Because of him, I have become less affectionate with him and have to make a little more effort as I have lost the habit.
I'm very affectionate with my daughter and I hope it sticks!

I come from a very affectionate family. We were always hugging and kisses and saying I love you. I have 6 bothers and sisters and we gave everyone hugs and kisses and I love yous before every night and whenever we were leaving. We still do and think it's nice. If it's been a few weeks or months since I've seen my little brothers (23 and 25) they give me the biggest tightest hugs and don't let go right away and kiss me on the forehead (we are Swedish so they are giant tall vikings lol). It's awesome, it reminds me how much they love me and miss me. My siblings and I are all the same way with our children, very affectionate. My kids are with each other as well, they give one another hugs and kisses before bed, when my son goes to school, anytime they're parting, it's very sweet. And i often catch them cuddling in one of their beds reading together or something. They are 6 and 2 right now.
My husband's family isn't AS affectionate as mine but they do hug and kiss and say I love you often enough. And they're sooooo affectionate with my children, always hugging and kissing and I love yous.

My family is very affectionate. We always hug and kiss each other and all of our conversations end with "I love you." And not just my immediate family either, I still hug and kiss my aunts and uncles when I see them. That's normal for us. I'm very affectionate with my kids and SO too. I always saw my mom and dad hugging and kissing growing up, that always felt comforting to me somehow and I want my kids to have that too. I couldn't imagine having an unaffectionate family.