Argh help!!!

My 8yr old DD is turning into a full on lil cow. Her attitude seriously amazes me. I know if I ever spoke to my parents the way she does to us....I probably wouldn't be here today.
Anyways she is going through this phase of thinking that she can get whatever she wants, without having to do anything for it. First we would, seeing as though she is the only girl and the oldest. But she doesn't look after anything she gets, lives like an animal in her room, and just has this "I don't give a smurf" attitude.
So we have decided that its time for her to start to earn her own money so she can buy the things she wants, then she might start to look after things since she had to work for them.
SO has came up with the idea that every Sunday she starts off with $25 on the board. And to keep that $25, she has to do things like:
Clean her room (and keep it tidy for the week)
Make her bed
Pack up toys, books etc after she is done with them
Clean her teeth morning and night (this is a fight everyday)
And do her homework every night (reading, spelling and mathletics)

If she does all these things, at the end of the week on Saturday, she will get the $25. But for everything she doesn't/refuses to do, she will lose 50c to a $1 depending on what it is.

What are your thoughts on this? Do you think it will work?
Any imput or other methods welcome  

$25 is a LOT per week.

Quoting P Pickle Pants:" $25 is a LOT per week."

i think those are good ideas! but i have to agree, 25 is a little much for a 8 year old, then she might expect to get 25 dollars every week lol. i'd make the price lower, but that's just me! goodluck(:

Those are ideas but I wouldn't be giving $25 a week to an 8 year old. $10 sure but $25 is a lot.

I think 25 is a ridiculous amount for an 8 yr old. 10 would be reasonable I would think. If you give her 25 she may have motivation to do everything for a week but she will have enough money to buy a new toy or a few new toys to last a while. And losing 50 cents or a dollar isn't a big effect from 25 dollars.

If you are going to stick with 25 I would increase the amount lost for not doing something. I wouldn't even consider 25 though. Typically you increase allowances as kids get older, and starting out with 25, she will be getting 100 before you know it. Even if you are financially well off, I don't think giving her that much will really teach her a good lesson.

<blockquote><b>Quoting P Pickle Pants:</b>" $25 is a LOT per week."</blockquote>

Well that was my first thought. But SO said he started it off with that amount, to give her the chance of getting some at the end of the week.
With the way she acts, and I know half of the chores won't get done, she will lose a lot during the week

25 is a lot my son is 7 and only gets 10 every two weeks. She needs to learn how to act not be bribed. I tell my son that I will not talk to him until he can stop smarting off. I also tell him that having things are a privilige. He is to take care of his stuff or I will take it from him and he has to earn it back. I know how you feel though it seems like this year is when he has started smarting back ugh. Good luck.

Quoting J&T+3:" <blockquote><b>Quoting P Pickle Pants:</b>" $25 is a LOT per week."</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... the end of the week. With the way she acts, and I know half of the chores won't get done, she will lose a lot during the week"

But when she catches on and realizes she can get all of it, then you are expected to follow through. If she starts off with 10 and loses 50c or 1 dollar per chore and she ends up with 2 bucks, guess what? She has 2 bucks, and she will learn she has to follow the rules and do what is expected of her to get the rest of the money she wants.

Quoting J&T+3:" <blockquote><b>Quoting P Pickle Pants:</b>" $25 is a LOT per week."</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... the end of the week. With the way she acts, and I know half of the chores won't get done, she will lose a lot during the week"

that defeats the purpose haha
I'd give her ten dollars, and if she acts up and doesn't earn her ten dollars that is her problem and teaches her something. not don't do what you're told but still get a decent amount of money anyway.

We do something very similar but we start of at $5 then they work the way up to $20 which is our max per week with pocket money.
We don't give the boys pocket money for homework and brushing there teeth as that is just part of their daily routine.
They get it more for feeding the dog, taking the bins out setting and packing up the table, vacuming their bedrooms, helping with the gardening etc.

I would maybe take away more money maybe $5 at a time, my DS will be 9 and he now knows the value of money and gets upset when he misses out on his full amount.
There have been a few times that because of his attitude we have taken all of his pocket money away plus his laptop, DS, Tv time, etc and I think that affected him more than his pocket money.

i would start out with 5-10 dollars on a 8 year old. 25 is a little much! lol. she will start expecting 25 every week, and like one lady said on here eventually will lead up to 100! lol.

<blockquote><b>Quoting J&T+3:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting P Pickle Pants:</b>" $25 is a LOT per week."</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... the end of the week. With the way she acts, and I know half of the chores won't get done, she will lose a lot during the week"</blockquote>




Well if the point is to show her that she has to work to get the money than if she doesn't do the work she shouldn't get the money. Doing a large amount so she gets some anyways doesn't sound right to me.

<blockquote><b>Quoting jo-jo:</b>" We do something very similar but we start of at $5 then they work the way up to $20 which is our max ... [snip!] ... taken all of his pocket money away plus his laptop, DS, Tv time, etc and I think that affected him more than his pocket money."</blockquote>

I do this with my son.

If he doesn't follow basic rules and do his standard chores (laundry in bin, trash in trash, room clean, toys cleared, dishes in sink, teeth brushed, dinner eaten fully, no sassing, help put away dishes, etc), he has privileges removed---toys taken, no dessert, tv time taken, bedtime early, etc.

If he doesn't treat his things well, they are taken and he won't get them back for a whole day. If it happens again, a week. Again and it's mine. Period.

In order to earn extras (a treat, the change from my pocket for his bank, more outside time, visiting friends, etc), he has to do more: load the washer or dishwasher, feed the dog, transfer clothes to dryer, carry in groceries, etc.

We don't do allowance yet as he only uses money for his piggy bank. WE buy extra toys sometimes, but mostly his extras aren't THINGS. I feel like things make it easy to spoil a child.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Boobie On Demand:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting J&T+3:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting P Pickle Pants:</b>" ... [snip!] ... she doesn't do the work she shouldn't get the money. Doing a large amount so she gets some anyways doesn't sound right to me."</blockquote>




Agreed. Giving her something for behaving a small percentage of the time is not useful. If she misbehaves and still gets $5 at the end of the week, what has she learned?

Quoting P Pickle Pants:" <blockquote><b>Quoting jo-jo:</b>" We do something very similar but we start of at ... [snip!] ... piggy bank. WE buy extra toys sometimes, but mostly his extras aren't THINGS. I feel like things make it easy to spoil a child."

I guess everyone has there own way of doing it.
We also use play dates, outings etc as incentives, the pocket money we brought in to start teaching them about saving, respect, and responsibility.
Our eldest saves up quite a bit and will not spend it just for the sake of spending it.