re: How important is marriage?

Quoting Mrs. God of Thunder:" Eh, it's not that important. I just wanted his cool ass last name. "

Sure it didn't have anything to do with how he handles that hammer?

It varies from person to person. I don't think every single person feels the same way about marriage. I'm engaged, and I am honestly thinking of just changing my last name to his. I know we're going to stay together. DD is only 5 months old. A wedding is out of the question anytime soon. I don't need a piece of paper uniting us.

Seeing a lot of divorce/separation in my family has freaked me out a bit. Come ten years from now, and he wants to make it official, I might be into it. But at this moment in time, I don't need a paper telling me i'm his wifey.  

Quoting Crystal Marie S.:" Sure it didn't have anything to do with how he handles that hammer?"

Hmm..now that you mention it....

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" You should be flattered that he will do it just to make you happy. It doesn't need to be important to ... [snip!] ... same family. What's important is that he recognizes that it's important to you and because of that, he's willing to do it. "</blockquote>




You're right, he explained it to me and now I understand.

Quoting Rydicule91:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" You should be flattered that he will do it ... [snip!] ... and because of that, he's willing to do it. "</blockquote> You're right, he explained it to me and now I understand."

Congrats on finding a man who values your feelings. That's a rare find and you should be very thankful.

SO wants to get married but I really don't care if we do. I don't see it as important. We've been together 7+ years.

I wouldn't stay with a man who never wanted to get married. To me marriage is important. I understand you can get divorced and some people rush into marriage and end up divorced. To me marriage (not even a big fairy tale wedding or anything) is a sign you truly are committed to your partner. I think my time limit would be 3-4 years (meaning if by 3-4 years together he didn't know if he loved me enough to marry me then I would question if he even could love me that much). If we had been together over 5 without a solid wedding date it would be over.

But I do know a lot of people who are happily together and intend to be forever without ever getting married.

Marriage is important, and if I could just go down to the courthouse and buy a $50 marriage certificate it would have happened years ago. Unfortunately it doesnt work that way here.

Similar to majority of replies, legal reasons. I view Marriage as nothing more than a legal document and it is the actual relationship that is important. I don't think Marriage shows the commitment, it is what is in the heart that shows it. Had we not needed that legal document for legal reasons then no we wouodnt have got Married.

Quoting Red Bottom:" Congrats on finding a man who values your feelings. That's a rare find and you should be very thankful. "

I try really hard to be! Sometimes I slip up but he's such a great guy. I'm just a brat sometimes

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rydicule91:</b>" I try really hard to be! Sometimes I slip up but he's such a great guy. I'm just a brat sometimes"</blockquote>




We all are.