Quoting Tiger Lily ♥:" I'm not going to go into too much detail. But has made stupid decisions in the past that cost me a lot ... [snip!] ... a goal or going out an buying myself a new nail polish, he feels like HE has to get something to..so we're even. :/"
Please don't think I'm trying to pry, I'm just trying to get a better understanding of what you're going through, since it's obvious you're in a point where you're ready to make some decisions about your future.
It sounds like you resent him a bit. Do you think that's something you can let go?
Do you think he'll be able to sustain a job without ruining it?
Are his bad decisions constant?
How is your communication?
Does he validate your feelings?
How often do you argue?
Do you yell when you argue?
How much does he help with your child?
How often does he help around the house?
Does he appreciate what you contribute?
What does your family think?