breech and feeling rail roaded

hi, I'm just 31 weeks and found out last week that my little man is breech, I didnt think anything of it when they told me because my mum had breech with my little brother and he turned at last minute, only thing I was thinking of was how painful it was for her, she ended up with a broken pelvis because of it.
I am now panicking because I have had letters from the hospital telling me I have to go for pre-op assesments and to talk to all these different people about c-sections when I havent even discussed what I would like to do yet, which is try and go for natural all the way unless there is a problem with little man. I feel that because this is my first that they think I dont know anything and that they can tell me what I do and dont want and I'm scared and upset by it all.

Can't they try to turn him?

You're only 31 weeks, it's normal for baby to not have flipped yet. Baby can flip at any time!

Quoting Sam Galbraith:" hi, I'm just 31 weeks and found out last week that my little man is breech, I didnt think anything of ... [snip!] ... that they think I dont know anything and that they can tell me what I do and dont want and I'm scared and upset by it all."

That's ridiculous. Don't let them convince you a c-section is the only way. My girl was breech at 31 weeks and she has since turned. The baby can take the full 9 weeks to flip but more than likely will do it on their own. Plus there are very effective yoga moves and stretches you can do to make the baby move. Google it, can't hurt to try, right?

You have lots of time but they aren't even considering delivering breech? I had this discussion with my doctor at one point and he has delivered 50+ breech babies all successfully and said he'd try absolutely to deliver breech unless other complications arose. Maybe see if its an option to ease your mind.

What's more important? Going all Natural and your damn pride or the health of your baby? Really? What does going in and discussing the possibility of a C-section so you are prepared for IF he doesn't turn. DO you really want to break your pelvis just so you can say you went all natural "all the way"? Why not think logically and not about yourself...
If your baby doesn't turn his shoulders can become lodged in your birth canal and you can both die. Is that what you'd prefer? You're not being railroaded! you're being looked after and thought of. Discussing a c-section is NOT the same as getting one. You have time for him to turn, but you need to be thinking of the big picture in the off chance he doesn't.

you're being really selfish.

Quoting Devil Duckie:" What's more important? Going all Natural and your damn pride or the health of your baby? Really? What ... [snip!] ... for him to turn, but you need to be thinking of the big picture in the off chance he doesn't. you're being really selfish.

I would like to point out that I did say IF everything was ok I'd prefer natural, but IF there was a problem then I would do whatever I was told was best, the only reason I feel rail-roaded is because after we had a scan and found he was breech was saw a consultant and they never said a thing about any of it, almost as if they hadnt even looked at my notes. If they had discussed it with me before sending the letters I think I'd probably be feeling a lot calmer about having to see all these people, but the fact that nothing was said is the reason I feel like this, so please, if you dont have anything nice to say, or anything that can put a first time scared witless mums mind at rest, please dont say anything at all
because selfish is one thing I am not, not after trying for 3 years and being told I couldnt have kids, there is NO way in hell I would put my own needs before my childs.

And thank you Ladies, its nice to know there are nice people out there that do want to help lol I guess I should have just listened to my mum, she said there was plenty of time for little man to move, which I'm hoping he does because my pelvis is killing me lol
Thanx Kay, I have googled a few ways to help turn him so will try those, if not could always ask my midwife lol
Lauralie, I dont think the hospital where I will be having to deliver him would have ever performed a delivery like that lol not saying they havent but if you were ever to see the hospital and their dippy staff you would understand lol it is a route I would like to take if everything is ok with little man though.
So again, thank you ladies for calming my mind and giving me some one to talk to about it xx

My lb wasnt head down until 36 weeks! Its very normal at this point! Id ask to hold off those appointments until later on x

hi ladies, went to the appointments, turns out one of them was because i have GD, but was told i should have been phoned to tell me that, not just had a letter, also went to the pre-op one and the bloke went mad saying they should have explained thats its just a normal appointment so i know all my options, rather than waiting untill the day it all starts to tell me, so in all i did have a panic over nothing and the ball is back in my court so to speak, so am feeling more in control again lol thank you again ladies, will let you know if and when he turns, if he does it himself lol xx