Passionless

Is it possible to develop passion in a relationship where there never was any?

Lately I've been dreaming about certain things..being held a certain way or kissed a certain way that I miss so so much and now it's bleeding into my waking hours and I'll sit there crying because I miss that feeling so smurfing much and it is starting to drive me crazy... I just feel so hopeless and empty about it

Quoting SaucyPoppet:" Is it possible to develop passion in a relationship where there never was any? Lately I've been dreaming ... [snip!] ... because I miss that feeling so smurfing much and it is starting to drive me crazy... I just feel so hopeless and empty about it"

idk.. but remember there are more important things too.

my ex SO and I have a smurf ton of passion.. but he can't get his life together, and is going to jail next week. makes smurffy decision, and just plain won't grow up.

I'd rather have a man to depend on than passion.

Yeh that's why i ended up marrying him. I didn't think it was a big deal. But now I am craving it and it's all I can think about   I use to be a sex fiend but now I have no interest in it at all because there's just no passion between us  

I don't know honestly, my husband and I have a lot of passion and we always have. I was with one guys before where I tried to hard to ignite some passion but it just wasn't there for us, couldn't be helped. But it was a new relationship and not super serious.
It wouldn't hurt to talk to your partner about needing more romance and spontaneity. That's what keeps it alive for us is the spontaneity. My husband will wake me up in the middle of the night for a kiss, to dance, build a fire and read together, etc. Or he'll jur grab me in the middle of making dinner while our wedding song is on and make me dance through the whole thing while he sings it. it's silly things like that that keep us feeling passionate.

I definitely think you can. My husband is FAR from romantic and he told me that in the beginning and I accepted it. As a woman, we just get these cravings where we want passion and romance and to just be wooed. I think its normal. Try talking about it, it honestly helps.