I don't want her in the delivery room

This, is going to sound crazy; so please try your best to keep up. I've been in a relationship for 4 years, I have a child with another guy though. He's been a pain in my ass and my partner raises her, but we give the ither guy the luxury or parenting time and no child support. (long story) - The other guy has a G/F that his family doesn't like, they love me however. (I think it's because of my child but whatever) His mother has this strange bond with me, she's really nice but... She's had a lot of pregnancy losses and now has invaded on my current pregnancy. I tried to hide my pregnancy from her because I knew she'd stir-up some weird pot but ... At about 12 weeks she put it together. My child (her grandchild) spends time with her and that's all fine and dandy, but she decided to try and break up her son and his G/F by telling her the child I was carrying was his. (Ummm, no) She announced this to his whole family and current G/F to try and break them up (I assured them it wasn't true but she won't stop it! It's starting to become annoying to SO - He knows her mental state after her losses and so do I because I've also had angel babies) I made the mistake of telling her what clinic I go to and she started popping up on the days I have appointments (no appointment time, just the day... She'll wait for me to arrive and say she was just in the neighborhood) I talk to her everyday and try and be sweet; but she's getting possessive! I warned her to stop telling people it was her son's child but she won't stop! I'm due soon and she has informed me that she has her "doula" bags packed and can't wait to meet her new grandchild. NO!! I don't wanna be mean but she cannot come to the birth and I seriously don't even want her around the baby because she's going to swear he / she resembles her family somehow and cause a bunch of crap! I tried saying it nicely that I wanted no one but SO and I there but she won't take the hint! She then became angry and claimed she'd sue my for a DNA test or have her son do so ... WHY?! Please help me, she's nuts ...

Restraining order haha. Just tell the nurses not to let her in. That's weird  

  
Don't tell anyone when you go into labor?

Make sure that wherever you are delivering your child knows that she is NOT to be there. She is seriously harassing you, and you might need to get the police involved, despite how nice she is.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Preggo Bear Claw:</b>" This, is going to sound crazy; so please try your best to keep up. I've been in a relationship for 4 ... [snip!] ... She then became angry and claimed she'd sue my for a DNA test or have her son do so ... WHY?! Please help me, she's nuts ..."</blockquote>




Tell the nurses to keep her out. Don't let her know when you are in labor. As for the rest, let it all happen if it has to. She can waste her $$$ if she wants. You all know who the baby's dad is.

At this point I would be done 'trying to be nice'.

Quoting lolajessup:" Restraining order haha. Just tell the nurses not to let her in. That's weird  "

Agreed. I wouldn't say anything to her until you go into labor and just let the nurses handle it then blame them. Screw that. lol

I am sorry but I would have filed harassment charges loooong ago!! I mean c'mon, she is showing up at your appointments?? that is too much!

That's beyond weird. I'd let your nurses know she's not allowed in. As for the DNA test, if she wants to pay for one, I'd let her. You know what the results will be so I don't think there's any harm and then you have the proof to wave in her face.

I say cut her out then get a DNA test to prove it to her once and for all... I hate to say you should do that since I'm sure you know it's not necessary but at least that way it'll be there in black and white so she can't stir up all that BS

Quoting Kay Peezy:" Agreed. I wouldn't say anything to her until you go into labor and just let the nurses handle it then blame them. Screw that. lol"

In cases such as this, most nurses would be glad to take the "blame" if it keeps mom as stress-free as possible during labor and delivery.

Just tell her. "I have been trying to be nice to you but you're going overboard. With the delivery of the baby, it will only be SO and I in there and you can come in when we're ready for visitors." If she starts anything or does those crazy things that you mentioned, just ignore her.. I mean that's all you really can do with obsessive people or they won't get the point.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ivana, expecting #3!:</b>" I am sorry but I would have filed harassment charges loooong ago!! I mean c'mon, she is showing up at your appointments?? that is too much!"</blockquote>


!!!!!

Quoting Ivana, expecting #3!:" I am sorry but I would have filed harassment charges loooong ago!! I mean c'mon, she is showing up at your appointments?? that is too much!"

agreed! that's so creepy...