Pre-Partum Depression?

Lately, I've just been on the low end of the spectrum. I've been terrified about this baby. I know it's hard for Pat to deal with-every time he turns around, I'm talking about how this baby was a mistake, and how we're not ready, and how we should consider adoption. But then, sometimes, I'm alright. I can see it in his face that he's just so tired, and I feel awful. Lately I've been trying to keep it to myself, but it's tough. I'm just floundering. It's funny, because I'm only a few short months away from 24. That's a whole 6 years older than I was when my son was born, but I've never felt younger. Anyone else struggled with this?

Have you talked to your doctor? I would if I were you. I hope you start feeling better soon. I know I suffered from depression before I was pregnant however thankfully it wasn't that bad during my pregnancy even without medicines.

Quoting Maria + Cory = Alexis:" Have you talked to your doctor? I would if I were you. I hope you start feeling better soon. I know I ... [snip!] ... from depression before I was pregnant however thankfully it wasn't that bad during my pregnancy even without medicines. "

I have been trying to do some journaling...I would be too afraid to take any medication during pregnancy. I've never been diagnosed with clinical depression...I do have ADD, and that has some erratic emotions somtimes..but this is just a whole new level.

And I remember in the past reading that higher levels of stress can lead to fussier, stressed babies, and I'm afraid that I'm ruining this kid before it even gets a chance to get started.

was like that u need to speek to someone u can trust because it dose help just having someone to talk to and i promise it will go away it just takes time x

My OB suggested taking coded fish oil vitamins during my pregnancy to help with depression. Have you ever consider counselling? Is that an option for you?

I refuse depression meds but I do go to counselling once a well and that is what helps me. And as for the ADD, I was diagnosed with that when I was a child and was heavily medicated until I turn 18 and refused to take the meds anymore. I still don't take meds for it but I have learned to adapt my life around it.

Quoting a s h l e y.:" Lately, I've just been on the low end of the spectrum. I've been terrified about this baby. I know it's ... [snip!] ... 24. That's a whole 6 years older than I was when my son was born, but I've never felt younger. Anyone else struggled with this?"

Yeah, I struggle with it too. We tried for this baby and sometimes I feel like I don't even want her. I felt like that with my son too, but he was unplanned. I just don't handle pregnancy very well I think. But after the baby comes I know everything will be fine like it was the first time. Some people just don't connect to their babies before they're born. But I would definitely bring it up to your doctor and see what they have to say.  

I think you are having these thoughts because you are scared. Scared of the unknown.

Right now life is comfortable with you and pat and the pregnancy.

When you put a baby that is physically there in the mix it will change things. It may change things between you and Pat.

I think you really need to talk to him about your feelings and have him talk to you about his!

That way you guys can reassure eachother

Quoting Mama Melis:" I think you are having these thoughts because you are scared. Scared of the unknown. Right now life ... [snip!] ... really need to talk to him about your feelings and have him talk to you about his! That way you guys can reassure eachother"

Melissa...<3<3

I hope you're right. And that really is what it is...I have my routine. I have my independence. I'm afraid I'm going to lose all that. And I'm the only one that cleans the house around here. I told Pat I feel like this baby is going to be one more thing I have to do, and to clean. I'm afraid I'm going to resent both of them.

Talk to Pat! Men never see things the way we do and sometimes bringing it up and making him actually TALK about it will open his eyes.

I don't think you're going to lose anything with this baby, but you know that I support whatever you & Pat decide <3

Quoting a s h l e y.:" Lately, I've just been on the low end of the spectrum. I've been terrified about this baby. I know it's ... [snip!] ... 24. That's a whole 6 years older than I was when my son was born, but I've never felt younger. Anyone else struggled with this?"

I was put on anxiety meds for pre partum depression. I can't say I've gone through exactly what you are, but I have been pretty depressed some days and some days I am great. My doctor was legitimately concerned and told me that if the meds didn't work to let him know. So far everything is going good with them though. I would just talk to your doctor, and try talk to Pat, and maybe he can understand and be there for you. If you want feel free to PM hope things get better mama  !

I don't have any advice but just know that I'm thinking about you. <3