Living with the inlaws.

Well, come mid April, we'll be living with DH's family.
I've got no problems with his family, we get along well, and I consider them more of a family than my own blood.
But I know when people move in, things tend to change   They've never been very intrusive of us or our parenting or anything like that, but I'm worried something might change when we move in.
It will be temporary, but we have no idea for how long.
The good thing is, we'll have our own room, the kids will share a room, and DHs parents room is on the other side of the house. We'll have our own bathroom too.
I don't think it will be TOO bad.

But just curious, does anyone, for any reason it might be, live with their inlaws, PEACEFULLY? Any tips to keep us all sane?  

I personally, think it will be a good thing. They love the kids and the kids love them. The kids haven't seen them in almost 2 years. They have 2 younger sons that are moved out and gone to college, so they're pretty much empty nesters. So I think it'll be good for them too, to have the grandkids around  

Quoting l☮j:" Well, come mid April, we'll be living with DH's family. I've got no problems with his family, we get ... [snip!] ... gone to college, so they're pretty much empty nesters. So I think it'll be good for them too, to have the grandkids around  "

Make sure you have an actual discussion about who is in charge of which types of housework, buying food, cooking, who decides what to eat and when, Tv time, etc.

You're going to get advice no matter what, unfortunately it's their house and their rules...I lucked out that my MIL is way awesome and my FIL doesn't ever offer advice about kids unless it's religion (which is a whole different level of irritating). Otherwise, I just kind of thanked them for the advice and still did my own thing. Things can get...um...tense, we'll say, if the in laws start treating your husband like he's still a kid. Only ran into that once lol

We live with my parents right now, and they love having Dh around. I think the main key to keeping the peace is to respect the rules of their home, and because you're in their home (regardless of paying rent) try to adapt to their routines.

Dh helps out a lot around the house as far mowing and taking out the garbage.

Quoting Chim Richalds:" Make sure you have an actual discussion about who is in charge of which types of housework, buying food, cooking, who decides what to eat and when, Tv time, etc."

Oh good idea. We'll definitely get that figured out.
DH's mom loves to cook, and so do I, so I definitely see us pairing up and just making big family meals for everyone.
We also will have our own TV in our room, computer, etc, so that shouldn't be too much of an issue.

Quoting Bogey Woman:" You're going to get advice no matter what, unfortunately it's their house and their rules...I lucked ... [snip!] ... can get...um...tense, we'll say, if the in laws start treating your husband like he's still a kid. Only ran into that once lol"

Honestly, religion is one of the main things I'm kinda worried about. They don't go to church, but they are Christians, and FIL loves to use proverbs and stuff as "life lessions". I pretty much just decided I'm going to adopt a "smile and nod" mentality, because DH and I both don't follow any sort of religion.

We've been together 4 years and they haven't really pushed their views on ANYTHING on us, so I'm hoping it will all work out  

We moved in with my inlaws "temporarily" when my son was 6months old, we ended up staying for three years while we saved to buy our house. it was a wonderful experience.
All I can say about keeping it peaceful is make sure you keep your spaces clean and neat and help with housework as much as possible. Buy groceries as often as you can and always include the stuff they like ven if you guys don't like it. And make sure the kids understand the house rules from the get go.
I loved living with my inlaws. They were only ever helpful and unloved being able to have a glass of wine and making dinner with my mil at the end of the day.

Quoting SavageDarling🌙:" We moved in with my inlaws "temporarily" when my son was 6months old, we ended up staying for three years ... [snip!] ... They were only ever helpful and unloved being able to have a glass of wine and making dinner with my mil at the end of the day."

Our kids are 2.5 yrs and 16 months, so they're definitely in that stage where they can start learning how to help out (well, DD already does) around the house and learning rules and stuff.
The house is on a farm, with cows and chickens and such, so I'm hoping we can include the kids in the daily tasks out on the farm, I think they'll enjoy that  

Knowing his family, I really can't see the situation going sour, but I just always have to be prepared.

Saving for a house is actually what we'll be doing!

I lived with my inlaws while my husband was deployed, but I didnt have children so its definitely different than your situation, but I loved it! I just helped out with the chores, shopping, and I gave them a little money every month for "rent" and kinda did my own thing. They are really laid back though. They want us to move in with them for a while if my hubby gets out of the military till we save up money for a new place, and honestly Im excited, I love being around them

Quoting K65:" I lived with my inlaws while my husband was deployed, but I didnt have children so its definitely different ... [snip!] ... if my hubby gets out of the military till we save up money for a new place, and honestly Im excited, I love being around them"

I'm really excited about not having rent, lol. We already made an agreement that we wouldn't have to pay rent, but we're definitely going to throw them something to help out, besides getting groceries and stuff  

I honestly can't wait. We're living in our own house here, but the kids, and us, we'll have such a better life where we're going.

We lived with DH's mom for over a year while we saved for our first house. I think you're going to get advice no matter what. My relationship with MIL was great before we moved in. It kind of got strained a little bit. I saw her everyday and started getting annoyed with some of the things she did/said. "Shouldn't you do it this way?" I would suggest not hanging around the house ALL of the time, making sure you all get out and have separated activities.

Quoting l☮j:" I'm really excited about not having rent, lol. We already made an agreement that we wouldn't have to ... [snip!] ... honestly can't wait. We're living in our own house here, but the kids, and us, we'll have such a better life where we're going."

Yeah I didnt have to pay rent but I gave them about $100 a month just to help out because I knew the struggled with bills occasionally. Its nice being around family, I miss it   we live about 16 hours away from the closest relatives now. And now we are having a baby and they wont get to see her too often. Good luck, I hope everything works out great for you!

Quoting ♥ Mrs. S ♥:" We lived with DH's mom for over a year while we saved for our first house. I think you're going to get ... [snip!] ... way?" I would suggest not hanging around the house ALL of the time, making sure you all get out and have separated activities. "

Good advice.
DH is extremely hardheaded and has always gone his own way, so I think they've kinda adapted a sort of step back and let them do it type attitude, so I'm *hoping* nothing like that would happen.

But that's also the good thing about living there, is we finally WILL be able to get out and do things. It's been forever since we've had time just to ourself, and his parents said they'd love to watch the kids like once a week to let us get some free time  

Quoting K65:" Yeah I didnt have to pay rent but I gave them about $100 a month just to help out because I knew the ... [snip!] ... now. And now we are having a baby and they wont get to see her too often. Good luck, I hope everything works out great for you!"

Where we are now, we are 19 hours away from his family, and it's killing him and the kids.
My family here isn't really involved with my family, so I can't wait for the kids to be in a more loving setting  

I live with my inlaws and I love them. But they are the least judgmental people I know.