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Quoting Crazyhazel89:" I Have to agree with this too...I'm sorry I don't understand why you wouldn't get him lunch first and ... [snip!] ... wanted to do so you didn't have to feel rushed...and honestly it doesn't seem like much happened to warrant a "smurf today"...."

I'm sorry I didn't feel like going into more detail about why my day has sucked. And if you don't understand, then maybe you didn't see where I asked him if he wanted his lunch and was told he wasn't hungry.

I mean, I thought that having my SO go off when he told me to do something then randomly changed his mind without telling me, and having to fight with my electric company, made it a 'smurf today' kind of day.

Quoting ღFrodoliciousღ:" I'm sorry I didn't feel like going into more detail about why my day has sucked. And if you don't understand, ... [snip!] ... changed his mind without telling me, and having to fight with my electric company, made it a 'smurf today' kind of day. "

at least you didn't have to pay it...

i didn't miss any part..i read it all....still doesn't seem like a bad day.

Quoting Crazyhazel89:" at least you didn't have to pay it... i didn't miss any part..i read it all....still doesn't seem like a bad day."

Yeah, sorry, blowing about an hour at the electric company is a bad day in my book. Those people are outright dicks half the time. Having to pay it would have been one more notch on this totem pole of crap.

Like I said, I'm not going into detail because it was a vent about one thing. It just so happens that my whole day has been pretty smurffy. My kid has been a butthead today, my house's breakers kept flipping off all through the night and this morning, the smurf with SO and the electric company, and just feeling like crap since we drove 10 hours to see my brother graduate and then come home? Yeah, it's sucked.

Quoting Red Bottom:" Who do y'all know that works at sears? Sounds like that's some kind of trigger. It's y'all's bank account. ... [snip!] ... the friend meeting, fawning, and cell phone fixing. I'm sure there was a Wendy's close by. I get grumpy when I'm hungry too."

I agree. It doesn't sound like he got mad at you OP, he was just hungry. I'd ask where DH was too if it took him 2 hours to go by the bank and get lunch. That's just me though.

<blockquote><b>Quoting *** Jenni ****:</b>" I agree. It doesn't sound like he got mad at you OP, he was just hungry. I'd ask where DH was too if it took him 2 hours to go by the bank and get lunch. That's just me though."</blockquote>




She wasn't just getting lunch though, she told him she had errands to run and HE told her to basically take her time with getting his food.
How the hell is everyone skipping that part? He never asked her to get the food first because he was hungry now, he didn't mind that she was taking care of other things first!

Quoting J+K=Bri+?  :" <blockquote><b>Quoting *** Jenni ****:</b>" I agree. It doesn't sound like he got ... [snip!] ... never asked her to get the food first because he was hungry now, he didn't mind that she was taking care of other things first!"

I just think that if you expect your errands to take a certain amount of time (like 2, 2.5+ hours), that you should tell the person the things that you're doing or go get the food first. That's just my opinion. He probably didn't understand how long it was going to take, or he would have said "please get the food first". I understand OP had a bad day, but it sounds like most of the bad day came from things that weren't her DH's fault, and he was just wondering where she was (a question that seems reasonable considering). I'm not attacking her or saying she was purposely trying to start an argument or something, it was clearly a miscommunication. I was just saying that personally, I would get SO/DH food first, and take care of the errands later. That's just MY opinion.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Crazyhazel89:</b>" I Have to agree with this too...I'm sorry I don't understand why you wouldn't get him lunch first and ... [snip!] ... wanted to do so you didn't have to feel rushed...and honestly it doesn't seem like much happened to warrant a "smurf today"...."</blockquote>




Yuuuuup

<blockquote><b>Quoting ღFrodoliciousღ:</b>" I'm sorry I didn't feel like going into more detail about why my day has sucked. And if you don't understand, ... [snip!] ... changed his mind without telling me, and having to fight with my electric company, made it a 'smurf today' kind of day. "</blockquote>




Dude. He asked for lunch. Generally he doesn't mean a few hours from now and 8 errands later.

Quoting Red Bottom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ღFrodoliciousღ:</b>" I'm sorry I didn't feel like ... [snip!] ... of day. "</blockquote> Dude. He asked for lunch. Generally he doesn't mean a few hours from now and 8 errands later."

Actually, he apologized and said that someone else had pissed him off and he took it out on me because I was the easy target at the time. He even admitted that he wasn't hungry when he called, he was just pissed because he was stuck at work and I was out with DD doing other things. He said he was sorry he had a lapse of trust today, and that it was because he had spoken to his ex this afternoon.

He even told me that he knew I had a lot to do, he honestly thought it had been like 4 hours and didn't realize it had only been 2 hours since I had left.

So, yeah. He was fine when I left, it was his work pissing him off and the fact that he wanted out of there. I apologized for being late and he brushed it off and said it wasn't my fault, I had even told him I had things to do, half of those he himself had told me to do.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ღFrodoliciousღ:</b>" Actually, he apologized and said that someone else had pissed him off and he took it out on me because ... [snip!] ... it off and said it wasn't my fault, I had even told him I had things to do, half of those he himself had told me to do. "</blockquote>




Him apologizing doesn't make how you handled it any more validated.

And why is he still talking to his ex?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ღFrodoliciousღ:</b>" Actually, he apologized and ... [snip!] ... Him apologizing doesn't make how you handled it any more validated. And why is he still talking to his ex?"</blockquote>


Why is his reason for talking to his ex any of your business? And considering he told me that he knew it would take a couple of hours, yeah I don't feel bad for running the errands he asked me to run. May not validate it to you but it was fine for us. That's what matters.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ღFrodoliciousღ:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ღ ... [snip!] ... feel bad for running the errands he asked me to run. May not validate it to you but it was fine for us. That's what matters."</blockquote>




Because you told me?

Might want to figure out why you've gotten so defensive and address those problems.

Quoting Red Bottom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ღFrodoliciousღ:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... Because you told me? Might want to figure out why you've gotten so defensive and address those problems."

Because it's none of your business WHY he spoke to his ex. He spoke to her because he needed to speak to her.   That's not defensive, that's stating that it's none of your business.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ღFrodoliciousღ:</b>" Because it's none of your business WHY he spoke to his ex. He spoke to her because he needed to speak to her.   That's not defensive, that's stating that it's none of your business. "</blockquote>




Then don't tell people things that are "none of their business".

Quoting Red Bottom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ღFrodoliciousღ:</b>" Because it's none of your business ... [snip!] ... that it's none of your business. "</blockquote> Then don't tell people things that are "none of their business"."

Why not? Especially when it's the truth?