People have no manners!

So, LO's big birthday party is coming up soon, and I invited at least 15 people besides the confirmed family members, and ALL of the guests with kids, once again, have canceled on me, or not RSVPd at all. This is the second year in a row that DD will not have any kids at her party, all because people can't keep their commitments. Last year, no one even told me they weren't showing up- we waited all day at her party last year and only family came...I had to contact everyone MYSELF to ask them if they were coming or not, it was awful. This year, it's the same situation. I feel so bad, DD once again will not have any kids to play with....I hate it. And besides the disappointment LO will most likely face, a LOT of money was spent on this party...and with no kids there....it feels like the money was just flushed down the damn toilet.


Do you think it's rude when people SAY they will be coming, then give an excuse why they can't RIGHT before the party? WHY can't people just make a commitment and stick to it? I don't remember people being nearly as rude when I was a child, yet today, it's perfectly acceptable to blow off a little girls bday party, with no explanation or warning beforehand. Ugh.   I'm so frustrated and disappointed....

I think it's rude to say you're coming and then don't unless something important did come up. I mean you bought for these people, but if they never RSVP'd I would just assume they aren't coming and not waste money on them.

If 15 plus people are invited, I expect 3 tops to cancel on the day because stuff does come up (illness, a friend needing help immediately, etc) but no more than that. If you make a commitment to be somewhere, you better have a damn good reason not to be there. You don't back out. I'm sorry, I would check into better friends  

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~*~Modern*Day*Delilah~*~:</b>" So, LO's big birthday party is coming up soon, and I invited at least 15 people besides the confirmed ... [snip!] ... blow off a little girls bday party, with no explanation or warning beforehand. Ugh.   I'm so frustrated and disappointed.... "</blockquote>




Nobody showed up to my sons party last year either. It pissed me off because they all said they would be there. So, I ordered everything like they would, spent a fortune on his damn party and the day of, I started getting calls that they weren't coming.

It is just rude. Thankfully he only turned 2 and didn't really get it.

This year, we aren't doing big parties. We are doing a trip and that will thwart disappointment and wasted money.

Quoting Mandy and her girls!~:" I think it's rude to say you're coming and then don't unless something important did come up. I mean ... [snip!] ... mean you bought for these people, but if they never RSVP'd I would just assume they aren't coming and not waste money on them."

Exactly. NOTHING important came up for any of them, they just blew the party off or forgot about it, or just didn't bother to show up. I asked, nothing important came up,as usual.

sounds like they are not very good friends if they do that kind of stuff to you

I know we don't know each other, but if I lived closer I would bring my daughter to your awesome little one's party!


I do think it is rude if someone says they are coming and don't show. Unless something extreme happens.

I'm sorry that people are idiots sometimes.

Quoting Miss Molly!:" If 15 plus people are invited, I expect 3 tops to cancel on the day because stuff does come up (illness, ... [snip!] ... you better have a damn good reason not to be there. You don't back out. I'm sorry, I would check into better friends  "

Totally agree. I wish I had good friends, but with a social anxiety disorder, and no car, I can't exactly meet anyone new...I only know the people I know...and they do nothing but disappoint me every year.   I can't wait til she's in school, at least ONE kid from her class will show up hopefully.

Quoting Not tellin:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ~*~Modern*Day*Delilah~*~:</b>" So, LO's big birthday party is ... [snip!] ... get it. This year, we aren't doing big parties. We are doing a trip and that will thwart disappointment and wasted money."

I'm so sorry that happened to your little one   Thankfully at 2, they don't notice much...but DD is 4 now, and she's very observant....Oh well, 3 Disney characters will be at her party, so if people want to blow her off, fine, at least she'll have fun with that!

Next year, I think we're going to do the same....I'm tired of spending insane amounts of money, and putting in time and effort, only to have people blow her off. People are rude and don't realize how much money a party costs apparently.

Quoting Zoe&Harper's Mom (Em):" sounds like they are not very good friends if they do that kind of stuff to you

They suck to be quite honest hahaha

SIL has never come to either of my kids birthday parties. She is always "sick" hell one year she played sick but was miraculously better two hours later when someone called her wanting to go out. I just dont expect her to ever show up.

Quoting ~*~Modern*Day*Delilah~*~:" Totally agree. I wish I had good friends, but with a social anxiety disorder, and no car, I can't exactly ... [snip!] ... but disappoint me every year.   I can't wait til she's in school, at least ONE kid from her class will show up hopefully. "

Yeah, I totally get it ;(
I have a ton of friends with kids who LOVE getting their kids out and about, but I still worry about people not showing up. That's why I don't go all out on birthday parties. I go to a park, or the beach (or river, or some water haha whatever you're close to) so it doesn't cost money except for decorations (which is mainly for the parents and pictures anyway) and get a basic idea of how many and order pizza! You can never have too much pizza :p

Quoting BeginTheRomance:" I know we don't know each other, but if I lived closer I would bring my daughter to your awesome little ... [snip!] ... someone says they are coming and don't show. Unless something extreme happens. I'm sorry that people are idiots sometimes. "

Aw thank you. Yeah, I agree. If something important comes up, I totally understand...but something important did NOT happen to 15 confirmed guests. I could understand 2 or 3 tops, not 15....they're just rude *sigh*

Quoting redneck mamma:" SIL has never come to either of my kids birthday parties. She is always "sick" hell one year she played ... [snip!] ... but was miraculously better two hours later when someone called her wanting to go out. I just dont expect her to ever show up. "

  That's obnoxious. People like that infuriate me.

Quoting Miss Molly!:" Yeah, I totally get it ;( I have a ton of friends with kids who LOVE getting their kids out and about, ... [snip!] ... for the parents and pictures anyway) and get a basic idea of how many and order pizza! You can never have too much pizza :p"

Very true. Hell, even decorations cost a ton, you can spend 200 bux easily just on those alone! Insane.