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i made my decision. thanks for the replies

No one can make you do anything you don't want to do.

However if you were in a relationship where he didn't respect your reproductive wishes, there's no way in hell I would stay with them.

I was pressured into it web I was ......VERY young. I regret it but I never told anyone other than him so I just block it out and never think about it. It makes me sick anytime it pops in my head so I just never think about it anymore.

It would make me leave

My bf begged me to get one. Said he'd do anything for me if I get it. He said he'd leave. So I'm like smurf you. And we are now getting ready to raise number two. No one can make you do smurf.

I can't speak from my own experience because DS's dad tried to pressure me and I told him to hit the road before I hit him. But my really good friend went through it.. She tried to make the relationship work afterwards but she couldn't even look at him the same because she didn't want to do it but chose to because she thought it was better for their relationship. Needless to say they broke up shortly after the abortion. It was hard seeing her go through all of it  

Forgot to add, we didn't last.. We were both soooo young. And he turned out to be a horrible person.

My friend was in that position. Promised her the world if she went through with the abortion. He took off just a couple of weeks after the procedure, and has treated her like total garbage since.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" No one can make you do anything you don't want to do. However if you were in a relationship where he didn't respect your reproductive wishes, there's no way in hell I would stay with them."</blockquote>



My partner wants me to have one. Well actually I can't ever call him my partner right now because I'm "ugly" and he "doesn't love me" ever since we found out I was pregnant. So right now he's just the angry ex who is supposed to take me to my scheduled abortion this Saturday. I told him I was scared to go through with the procedure and I have been having second thoughts and he flipped.

Hm, no, but I kind of pressured my s/o into believing that abortion was the right decision. He originally wanted to keep it.

Quoting Big K & Lil K + 1:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" No one can make you do anything you don't want ... [snip!] ... this Saturday. I told him I was scared to go through with the procedure and I have been having second thoughts and he flipped."

If he is verbally abusing you like that, he isn't someone you need to be taking advice from. Do YOU want the baby?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Silly Mily's Momma ♡:</b>" I was pressured into it web I was ......VERY young. I regret it but I never told anyone other than him ... [snip!] ... just block it out and never think about it. It makes me sick anytime it pops in my head so I just never think about it anymore."</blockquote>


I'm sorry to hear that. I don't want to go through that  

My SO wanted me to have an abortion with my daughter. She is two months now. Needless to say, I didn't go threw with it. It almost tore us apart. First off, we already had an 18 month old and NO money. We didn't know how we were going to do it. At first he was excited, only during the day I told him. The next morning, it was like a switch had flipped. I heard nothing but him talking down on me about how it would make me a bad mother for not having an abortion and how I didn't care about me son. I wanted to do it, but I was really scared. The whole process scared me. So I put it off more and more. Before I knew it, it was too late. Then I really freaked out. He finally came around to it... then I started freaking out thinking I had trapped myself with a man that really didn't care about me or his family... It was really really hard and I do resent him. We wouldn't have been able to make it, if it wasn't for the change I saw in him when our daughter was born. He's much more involved with our second child, then with our first. He helps out, less fighting... Now he's glad I didn't do it. I still resent him though. I get mad at him still because I feel like when I was suppose to be in aw of the magic of carrying another life inside of me... he was casting this really REALLY dark cloud over me. I got so depressed that I even thought about killing myself. I wouldn't have followed through with anything but I wished it. Getting up every morning was hard. It wasn't the baby that made me feel this way, or being trap... it was him. It was a really low period in my life. So I know it's hard. But you do what YOU have to do... If you don't want to. Don't do it. Because you will regret it for the rest of your life. But if you want to, there isn't anything wrong with that either. It's your choice.

I have a beautiful daughter. My angel, exactly what I needed God to send me. She's calm and perfect. Me and her are so intune that it's insane. She came out crying and as soon as I held her up to my face and whispered in her ear, it's momma... she stopped. It was like the whole world went quiet and she looked me straight in the eyes like she knew exactly who I was.   I'm glad she is mine. I love her so much.

Quoting Big K & Lil K + 1:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" No one can make you do anything you don't want ... [snip!] ... this Saturday. I told him I was scared to go through with the procedure and I have been having second thoughts and he flipped."

If you are having any second thoughts at all, don't get an abortion. You do what you want to do and what you feel is right. Don't try to please anyone else, especially a jerk of a man who calls you ugly! You deserve better!

Quoting Big K & Lil K + 1:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" No one can make you do anything you don't want ... [snip!] ... this Saturday. I told him I was scared to go through with the procedure and I have been having second thoughts and he flipped."

If you are having second thoughts then do not get the abortion. You will only end up resenting yourself! You need to sit down and think about this. Do YOU want the baby. Do not do it just to please him. You deserve better then how he's treating you.