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I'm new as of today. This is the first topic I responded. I'm going through the exact same thing! I'm 17 will be 18 in May. I'm very mature with a lot of wisdom. The guy I'm pregnant by is in the military. We were never a couple. He asked me out a couple of times. I didn't wanna rush into a rs. Neither did I want to be pregnant my last yr in hs. I'm only 4-5 weeks right now. I told him the first day when I took the test. He begged me to get one. Because he already have a child. He's not ready for another one. & so on. I was not a sexual active teen. I lost my virginity over a year ago my Jr year with my first love. We only did it once. Now over a yr later. This guy gets me pregnant and wants to be a dead beat. I told him he needs to step up and take responsibility for his actions. its easy to make em. But you can't take care of what comes afterwards. He told me he wanna be with me maybe we can get married and start a family in the future. Just please dont have this child. He gets angry when I say NO! God has blessed me with this child .it is very emotional for me right now. I'm going through so much & on top of that my family doesn't even know. He told me he's not going to tell his mama because she don't need to know. It's none of her business. Smh its so un fair if you ask me because its her grandchild. He say I'm making things hard by keeping it. But I mean Its hard for me because I'm supposed to be signing up into the navy or airforce. Going to college andajor in psychology. Smh Im still going to follow my dreams. I say if YOU WANT YOUR BABY! KEEP IT. BECAUSE ONCE IT'S GONE! IT'SE IN THEY EYES. WE ARE THE ONES DEALING WITH THE MENTAL DAMAGE & WHAT IT DOES TO YOUR BODY ON THE INSIDE! & WHO'S TO SAY THAT YOU WILL BE ABLE TO GET PREGNANT AGAIN!? I wish the best for you my love. Sorry its long. Hope you ladies read it.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Aaliyah Des'rae:</b>" I'm new as of today. This is the first topic I responded. I'm going through the exact same thing! I'm ... [snip!] ... TO SAY THAT YOU WILL BE ABLE TO GET PREGNANT AGAIN!? I wish the best for you my love. Sorry its long. Hope you ladies read it."</blockquote>




Im sorry but that line about not being able to get pregnant afterwards is a bunch of bull. You can go through childbirth and have worse things to happen and not being able to get pregnant again. There is no need for you to yell. You can be on birth control before having kids and that can mess you up worse than getting an abortion.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Aaliyah Des'rae:</b>" I'm new as of today. This is the first topic I responded. I'm going through the exact same thing! I'm ... [snip!] ... TO SAY THAT YOU WILL BE ABLE TO GET PREGNANT AGAIN!? I wish the best for you my love. Sorry its long. Hope you ladies read it."</blockquote>




People have 20 kids. Having a baby doesn't render you infertile.

And mental damage depends on how you handle the situation.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Aaliyah Des'rae:</b>" I'm new as of today. This is the first ... [snip!] ... People have 20 kids. Having a baby doesn't render you infertile. And mental damage? Wtf are you talking about?"</blockquote>




Her intro of herself already made me not give a smurf. the whole I am very grown and mature .....
If she feels she has to explain that because shes a teen shows she thinks she isnt and it just peeves me the teens on this site always start off with that lol

<blockquote><b>Quoting Britny™:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Aaliyah ... [snip!] ... that because shes a teen shows she thinks she isnt and it just peeves me the teens on this site always start off with that lol"</blockquote>




Every teen thinks they're "mature for their age".

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Britny™:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" ... [snip!] ... the teens on this site always start off with that lol"</blockquote> Every teen thinks they're "mature for their age"."</blockquote>




Very true.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Britny™:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Britny™:</b>" ... [snip!] ... off with that lol"</blockquote> Every teen thinks they're "mature for their age"."</blockquote> Very true."</blockquote>




I thought this was another thread I was in. Lord. Lol. Very similar posts at the same time.

As far as her story goes, she needs to figure out what she wants, and not what her relationship wants, the grandparents want, etc. if she doesn't want to get an abortion, she shouldn't get one. Period.

Not every abortion renders people mentally scarred, but getting one you don't want certainly can.

Quoting kiwi & gorda's mom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" No one can make you do anything you don't want ... [snip!] ... this Saturday. I told him I was scared to go through with the procedure and I have been having second thoughts and he flipped."

I would never judge you for your choice or your decision if you should choose to abort but I will say this... Don't do something just because he is giving you a ultimatum! If you choose to go through with it go through with it because it's what you want... I'm so sorry he is saying those things about you.

Just realized that in responding to this... it may come off as being rude since her "appointment" was for yesterday... I apologize and a admin can delete if they would like... I don't know how or I would do it myself.

<blockquote><b>Quoting kiwi & gorda's mom:</b>" Has anybody been pressued/forced into abortion by their partner? if so how did it affect your relationship ... [snip!] ... your relationship with him? Were you able stay with him after the abortion or did you resent him and eventually broke up?"</blockquote>




We've been on and off. It's not like the four stable years before where I knew he was the one now I'm just torn. I never thought anything could maker feel that way.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Aaliyah Des'rae:</b>" I'm new as of today. This is the first topic I responded. I'm going through the exact same thing! I'm ... [snip!] ... TO SAY THAT YOU WILL BE ABLE TO GET PREGNANT AGAIN!? I wish the best for you my love. Sorry its long. Hope you ladies read it."</blockquote>




Didn't you post this exact same post the other day?

I was pressured in to abortipn at 17. We then went on and had a child the next year anyway ( we agreed and tried) but then broke up a few years later. He always hel it over me that I ruined his youth.

Don't let him pressure you in to anything you are not 100% sure of. Even though he is pressuring you it's your decision and you live with it.

I would just be prepared for him to be bitter about it. You can't force him to be a father to the child either.

Good luck

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Britny™:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" ... [snip!] ... shouldn't get one. Period. Not every abortion renders people mentally scarred, but getting one you don't want certainly can."</blockquote>




It was. It's in TDC from a few days ago

Thank you all for your replies/advice//support.

I did not go on Saturday.

He is very upset and we haven't spoken since and he hasn't came to see his daughters. it's only been 3 days.....I won't hold it against him and when he's calm and ready to come see his kids he can.

I am still looking into adoption or I I will keep the baby.

Quoting kiwi & gorda's mom:" Thank you all for your replies/advice//support. I did not go on Saturday. He is very upset and we haven't ... [snip!] ... him and when he's calm and ready to come see his kids he can. I am still looking into adoption or I I will keep the baby."

Know that with adoption he is going to have to sign his rights over and he is going to have to sign a piece of paper saying that he knows that he is the known father of this baby.

If you choose adoption, you can talk to me. I have hardened feelings about my adoption, but I dont let that stop me from helping others <3