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<blockquote><b>Quoting Big K & Lil K + 1:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Brandi Milam:</b>" It would make me leave"</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... in my face and said that's worse Sorry for the,slow responses I am answering through my phone and the keyboard is horrible"</blockquote>




He called you ugly and said he didn't love you. Yet you trust him to be a great boyfriend?

You've been with him 5 years, have two kids, and are on your third pregnancy. What makes you think he has any plans of marrying you or creating the future you want?

That is not love. That is a terrible person to be with. Love isn't verbal abuse and ultimatums. Love is 24/7 365 through thick and thin.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Big K & Lil K + 1:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting jen black:</b>" My bf begged me to get one. Said he'd do anything ... [snip!] ... We didn't talk for months. He would see our first daughter but wouldn't acknowledge our second until after she was born."</blockquote>




Sounds like a great guy. You should stay with him forever.




-see how miserable that sounds?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Big K & Lil K + 1:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ♥MamaToSilas♥:</b>" I can't speak from my own experience ... [snip!] ... I feel like I will regret it for the rest of my life. I am pro choice but I always said I personally cannot go through with it."</blockquote>




Your uterus. Your rules. And someone needs to remind you that it's your life as well and it's time you got yourself back.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Big K & Lil K + 1:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting bbbt:</b>" If he is verbally abusing you like that, he isn't ... [snip!] ... handle it ESP because he told,me I'm going to raise it by myself if I keep it. I did suggest adoption but that was laughed at."</blockquote>




Do you honestly think you can't raise another baby, or is your boyfriend so mentally abusive that he has convinced you that you're incapable of doing anything without him?

I was pressured into it by my partner and parents. We split up not long afterwards.

I was pressured by my ex to get an abortion. At the time I regretted it. But I dont now.

You know what its like after having babies... Just imgaine going 9 months pregnant and giving birth, then going home empty handed. I am not for adoption. I do think that the abortion should be your choice. My stories are here.

Quoting Big K & Lil K + 1:" Has anybody been pressued/forced into abortion by their partner? if so how did it affect your relationship ... [snip!] ... your relationship with him? Were you able stay with him after the abortion or did you resent him and eventually broke up?"

My sons dad pressured me but I didnt do it, we ended up breaking up for the best. and I have a beautiful little boy who I adore, it was a great trade if you ask me.

Quoting ♥GarciaMommy:" My SO wanted me to have an abortion with my daughter. She is two months now. Needless to say, I didn't ... [snip!] ... went quiet and she looked me straight in the eyes like she knew exactly who I was.   I'm glad she is mine. I love her so much."

That's basically what I went through with my second. When she came out I started crying and saying "i'm sorry" to her because I was almost going to abort because of her dad. I'm so happy I have her and couldn't imagine life without my two girls.
I'm glad everything worked out for you.

Quoting Minion:" If you are having any second thoughts at all, don't get an abortion. You do what you want to do and ... [snip!] ... and what you feel is right. Don't try to please anyone else, especially a jerk of a man who calls you ugly! You deserve better!"

Thank you. I know I don't deserve that. The few family members I have confided in lately have told me that either choice I make, to abort or keep the baby, I need to leave the relationship. It's just such a hard choice to make....he told me "have fun raising that thing by yourself" when I told him I didn't want to go Saturday.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Big K & Lil K + 1:</b>" Has anybody been pressued/forced into abortion by their partner? if so how did it affect your relationship ... [snip!] ... your relationship with him? Were you able stay with him after the abortion or did you resent him and eventually broke up?"</blockquote>




I was pressured by my bf to have an abortion. for a while I did resent him a lot. until one day I finally had enough with holding in my feelings and I came unglued on him. I told him exactly how I felt about him and the abortion and how he made me feel. I made it clear that should I ever get pregnant again it will be my choice not his. ever since then I was able to let go of all my resentments, but I still wish I had never had the abortion.

I recommend if you don't want the abortion go with your gut. if you want to keep the baby and abort because of someone else you will resent yourself..I live with guilt every day because of my choice.

do what YOU feel is right.

Quoting ♥MamaToSilas♥:" If you are having second thoughts then do not get the abortion. You will only end up resenting yourself! ... [snip!] ... and think about this. Do YOU want the baby. Do not do it just to please him. You deserve better then how he's treating you."

I've been lurking in this forum for a few weeks now and I keep seeing other moms who have gone through it say don't do it if you're not 100% sure of it. I can't even say I'm 10% sure because I really don't want an abortion. But I don't want another baby either...does that make sense? IDK i'm so confused. If my partner would have from the moment we found out supported me and said we would make things work regardless (not only if I got the abortion) I probably would say ok we will have the baby and make the best we can out of the situation. He;s put all sorts of things in my head I keep questioning myself and my decisions and what I really want.

Quoting Big K & Lil K + 1:" That's basically what I went through with my second. When she came out I started crying and saying ... [snip!] ... of her dad. I'm so happy I have her and couldn't imagine life without my two girls. I'm glad everything worked out for you."

I know its hard, my little boy was obviously unplanned but in no way was he a mistake. I cant imagine looking at any child and thinking, "that baby should had been aborted." I know that you can do it because everything works out for good. I also believe that adoption is a beautiful thing, If i could adopt or give a family a baby I would in a heart beat. and at the end of the day, he really is no man to be putting you in this place. I have been in your shoes so if you want to talk message me.

Quoting Gizmo ♥ Bry:" My mom had one forced by an abusive ex, who use to be a drunk. He threatened her life and so she did ... [snip!] ... do something because someone tells you to. If you want the baby, keep it. If you don't, then don't. But this is your decision. "

Thanks for sharing. My mother also had an abortion 20+ yrs ago and she says she still thinks of it often. I can't imagine going through that....

Quoting Amydb:" Yes i been pressured and then he left me right after i had it. I took the pill and all kinds problems. ... [snip!] ... and not what he wanted. He was a selfish smurf and i just wanted to keep him around and now im glad hes out of my life!"

I'm sorry you had to go through that. Did you have any other kids with him?

Quoting Minion:" Please do not listen to him when he says he wants to make it work. My baby's father tried that on ... [snip!] ... it in the end! Now I have a nearly 4 year old beautiful girl, a great man who my daughter calls Daddy, and a great step-son."

Good for you you got out of that relationship. How long did it take you to get over him?