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My mom had one forced by an abusive ex, who use to be a drunk. He threatened her life and so she did it. The relationship ended after that. She regrets it every day and it happened 20 years ago. She says it wouldn't have been so bad had it been her decision, but she was scared and did it.
Don't do something because someone tells you to. If you want the baby, keep it. If you don't, then don't. But this is your decision.

Yes i been pressured and then he left me right after i had it. I took the pill and all kinds problems. I landed in the hospital and he didnt come with or nothing. He wouldnt let me do adoption. Theres more to the story but i just cant talk about ut right now. He angers me so much. I learned to do what i wanted and not what he wanted. He was a selfish smurf and i just wanted to keep him around and now im glad hes out of my life!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Brandi Milam:</b>" It would make me leave"</blockquote>


I know that's the smart thing to do. Get out of the relationship for good. but then he tells me he wants to make it work..only if i get the abortion.im confused on what's the right decision to make here. Financially we can support another baby. He just doesn't want another one now he said he would in the future. We already have two daughters together and have been together on and off five yrs. we both are irresponsible for getting caught up in the moment and having unprotected sex last month. he says I'm just trying to tie him down and he only had unprotected sex with me because he thought I would abort if I had to. His exact words

I don't want another baby. I suggested adoption and he laughed in my face and said that's worse

Sorry for the,slow responses I am answering through my phone and the keyboard is horrible

Quoting Big K & Lil K + 1:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Brandi Milam:</b>" It would make me leave"</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... in my face and said that's worse Sorry for the,slow responses I am answering through my phone and the keyboard is horrible"

Please do not listen to him when he says he wants to make it work. My baby's father tried that on me. He only said that so I would do what he wanted (he wanted sex). It was his way of controlling me. Your man is controlling you like this too! Get away from him quick! I know it's not easy, but it's so worth it in the end!

Now I have a nearly 4 year old beautiful girl, a great man who my daughter calls Daddy, and a great step-son.

Quoting Big K & Lil K + 1:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Brandi Milam:</b>" It would make me leave"</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... in my face and said that's worse Sorry for the,slow responses I am answering through my phone and the keyboard is horrible"

And if you want to do adoption, then you do adoption. Tell him to play in traffic if he give you crap about it.

<blockquote><b>Quoting jen black:</b>" My bf begged me to get one. Said he'd do anything for me if I get it. He said he'd leave. So I'm like smurf you. And we are now getting ready to raise number two. No one can make you do smurf."</blockquote>



This happened with our second daughter. He also wanted me to abort but at this time things were a little different. We were going through tough times. His family hated me and told him I didn't abort they would disown him. I didn't have an abortion and that caused hell to break loose. That was one of our off periods. We didn't talk for months. He would see our first daughter but wouldn't acknowledge our second until after she was born.

Quoting Big K & Lil K + 1:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Brandi Milam:</b>" It would make me leave"</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... in my face and said that's worse Sorry for the,slow responses I am answering through my phone and the keyboard is horrible"

He sounds manipulative. If you were going to tie him down, I'm sure you would do it with your other 2 children you share. If these 2 don't tie him down, no amount of children will. I feel so sorry for you dear.   I know its easier said than done, but leave. You may have spent alot of time with each other, but forcing you to do something you are uncomfortable with is wrong and who knows where it will stop.

Everyday i regret it and he left me and my son in the end. i suffer from my stupid decision every day

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥MamaToSilas♥:</b>" I can't speak from my own experience because DS's dad tried to pressure me and I told him to hit the ... [snip!] ... their relationship. Needless to say they broke up shortly after the abortion. It was hard seeing her go through all of it  "</blockquote>


The only reason I even scheduled the abortion was because of him. To please him. when I found out I thought ok we both know what happened the other two times we didn't use protection. Now I will be responsible for my actions and either keep the baby or put it up for adoption. I even was looking at several adoption agencies websites and started an email to an adoption counselor at the cradle. It's now saved in my drafts because my,partner or whatever he is said hell no to adoption. So I scheduled the abortion but like I said I'm scared and having second thoughts. I feel like I will regret it for the rest of my life. I am pro choice but I always said I personally cannot go through with it.

Quoting jen black:" My bf begged me to get one. Said he'd do anything for me if I get it. He said he'd leave. So I'm like smurf you. And we are now getting ready to raise number two. No one can make you do smurf."

Something similar happened to me. My fiance begged me to abort, and also threatened to leave. Said it would kill our relationship. and now he kisses/talks to my belly. He couldn't be happier.
OP if someone forces you to abort whether its a parent or partner, resentment after is pretty common.
If you abort, it should be your choice. No one should force your hand IMO.
Best of luck.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Momma Rawks:</b>" My friend was in that position. Promised her the world if she went through with the abortion. He took off just a couple of weeks after the procedure, and has treated her like total garbage since."</blockquote>

That's horrible.   that can easily be me in a couple of days. He's,treating me like smurf now I'm pretty sure things will not work out like he says if I abort.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Big K & Lil K + 1:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ♥MamaToSilas♥:</b>" I can't speak from my own experience ... [snip!] ... I feel like I will regret it for the rest of my life. I am pro choice but I always said I personally cannot go through with it."</blockquote>




If you feel like you will regret it and you don't want to do it then please don't.... My abortion was my choice so I don't regret it but it sounds like you will.

<blockquote><b>Quoting bbbt:</b>" If he is verbally abusing you like that, he isn't someone you need to be taking advice from. Do YOU want the baby? "</blockquote>



No, I don't want another kid. idk if I can handle it ESP because he told,me I'm going to raise it by myself if I keep it.

I did suggest adoption but that was laughed at.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Silly Mily's Momma ♡:</b>" I was pressured into it web I was ......VERY young. I regret it but I never told anyone other than him ... [snip!] ... just block it out and never think about it. It makes me sick anytime it pops in my head so I just never think about it anymore."</blockquote>




That's not healthy at all. You need to learn to cope and not shame yourself for your decisions. You're going to have trouble with relationships and self worth in general until you do.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Big K & Lil K + 1:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" No one can make you do anything you don't want ... [snip!] ... this Saturday. I told him I was scared to go through with the procedure and I have been having second thoughts and he flipped."</blockquote>




Anyone who calls you ugly and says they don't love you, does not love you and never will. Love is not capable of that. So if you think getting an abortion to change him into who you think he's capable if being, it won't.