re: what would you do?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" I don't think she was trying to be mean. She was venting. Mentally disabled or not, I'd be pissed if I had to put up with the banging and him breaking my stuff and just coming into my house."</blockquote>




I don't care. There's no call to talk about a child that way at all, much less a mentally disabled one.

Quoting 8 til Gwen:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" I don't think she was trying to be mean. She was ... [snip!] ... I don't care. There's no call to talk about a child that way at all, much less a mentally disabled one."

So she's supposed to just let the boy do whatever he wants and be happy about it, because "Hey he's got a disability!" ?

Quoting 8 til Gwen:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" I don't think she was trying to be mean. She was ... [snip!] ... I don't care. There's no call to talk about a child that way at all, much less a mentally disabled one."

I've never really dealt with anyone mentally disabled before SO's uncle started living with us and I apologize if I didn't use the "politically correct" term, hell I didn't even know the "term" was changed.

Unless you live next to this family, do not call me a bitch. On numerous counts has this child walked into our home, pissed on our lawn and porch chairs, broke 2 porch swings, curses like a sailor, humps the tree, yells obscene things through the walls, bangs the walls like he's wrestling a man in there, started a verbal fight with me, as well as my SO, and so has his mother, cursed me out, antagonized me, my SO and even had the nerve to say my DS was "ugly" when we first brought him home, cursed my SO out, cursed my mother out, and instigates fights. And he's only what, 12/13? maybe younger. I'm not too sure.

Like I said I have no no more remorse for this child anymore. I wasn't ignorant in the beginning when we first lived here, I was nice and understanding, now - I'm smurfing mad and annoyed. I'm sorry if that makes me seem like a bitch, but I'm not going to let some kid walk into my home, get a mouth with me for no reason, curse me out, antagonize me, and be obscene when I have family parties outside all because he is mentally handicapped. There IS a limit with how far the excuse "oh, he's mentally handicapped," can go.

I'm sorry, but his mother should STOP smoking her crack, and be a mother and discipline her child as best as she can in her situation. Just because someone has a handicap, be it physical or mental, it doesn't give them a "free ride" to say, do and act as they please. Or at least to the extent I am explaining here.

I understand living with and having someone like that in your family. SO's uncle is like that and lives with us. But he does have self control, to a point (and that point is hard to reach).

Quoting 8 til Gwen:" Firstly, mentally retarded isn't a very PC term anymore. Secondly, I work with people with special needs, ... [snip!] ... because he doesn't have the mental capacity to control himself? Ugh reading this thread just reaffirmed why I do what I do."

and furthermore, I never said I hated him. I DID say "I don't want to say i hate the kid, because he's a kid. He's only 13, but he's so horrible."

No, don't tie him up, lock him in a cage. Stop smoking your crack and be a parent and TRY to control your child to the best of your ability. SO's uncle can get out of hand as well. But we do our best to calm him down. He doesn't go pissing on other people's lawns, walking into other random people's homes, breaking other people things in purpose, running around yelling "smurf me smurf me" when our neighbor's have 4th of july parties with family and young children.

and even if he did that, I would damn well make sure I try my best to talk to him about what he did was wrong, do my damn well best to make sure it doesn't happen again, and apologize to whoever he offended. Not act like whatever he does is okay and perfectly fine because he has the disability and continue to allow him to do it....because he has the disability.

I get it, this thread is a touchy subject for you, as it may be for certain others if they read it. But does that mean we give mentally disabled people free run to do whatever they want? ex: walking into a random home and taking something, but it's okay because they are mentally disabled and cannot control it? There IS a line. and this kid has crossed it, and so have his parents, many, many times.