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A child claiming opposite gender

posted 21st Feb
Regardless of physical appearance? 3, 5, 7, 9, 11, 13, adult? If they knew the difference between a boy and a girl and they said, they were the opposite gender- would you dismiss it? Ignore it? Encourage it? What would you do as a young child vs a teenager? Would you allow them to paint their nails, wear dresses etc without a second thought or would readily correct them?
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I have 3 kids & live in Washington
posted 21st Feb
If just ignore it until they developed more as a person.
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posted 21st Feb
I wouldn't dismiss it but I also wouldn't encourage it until I was sure it wasn't just a phase. As for the painting nails etc kids play dress up all the time so it wouldn't bother me. Once it's clear it's not a phase then I would encourage it.
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I have 1 child & 3 angel babies & live in Vancouver, British Columbia
posted 21st Feb
get them in therapy and find out if they want/need to transition to the gender they identify with. They will be much happier later in life if they had parental support and didnt have to wait until they were an adult to be identified by the world how they feel internally.
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I have 2 kids & 2 angel babies & live in New York
posted 21st Feb
Let them dress/act and represent themselves however they're comfortable, as long as none of their changes are permanent or inappropriate to their age.
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I have 1 child & 1 angel baby & live in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania
posted 21st Feb
I wouldn't ignore it but I wouldn't encourage it. I would remain neutral mainly to not influence the child. I would ask him/her why s/he feels that way and listen. If they were young I would wait and see if it changed as they got older. If they were a teenager or adult I would start them in therapy, not because I see it as something being "wrong" with them but because that is the first step to gender reassignment.
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I'm due December 2nd (it's a surprise), have 1 angel baby & live in Ohio
posted 21st Feb
I would have them talk to a professional to determine if they could possibly be trans-gender. If they are then I would wait to take any action until they are old enough to decide what they want.
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I have 1 child & live in Fort McMurray, Alberta
posted 21st Feb
I don't think i would dismiss and ignore it, but i think i would let them do certain thing of the opposite gender, but not complete wear dresses or anything i mean if they want to play dress up and wear a dress around the house during that, but until it became a problem emotionally i wouldn't do much about it.
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I have 1 angel baby & live in Atlanta, Georgia
posted 21st Feb
I would never discourage my child from finding themselves. In younger years, I would figure it was just a phase. If my child was over the age of 5 (in school) and came to me and said he/she identified as the opposite gender, then we would have a further in depth conversation and take the steps needed to support my child fully in whatever he/she decided.
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I have 2 kids & live in Alpharetta, Georgia
posted 21st Feb
Quoting Cheeks mom:" Let them dress/act and represent themselves however they're comfortable, as long as none of their changes are permanent or inappropriate to their age."
 
If they got older (like over 1  and really felt that they needed to transition, I would support them but until then I would discourage permanent changes so they could have enough time to think, learn, grow etc... to make sure its what they want.
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I have 2 angel babies & live in California
posted 21st Feb
I would support them 100% no matter their age.

I wouldn't make a huge deal over it. If they wanted to wear their hair a certain way, dress a certain way, wear make-up or not, that is up to them and I would support them.
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I'm due December 28th, have 1 child & live in Ontario
posted 21st Feb
My 5 year old went through a period where she wanted to be a boy. Whatever.
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I have 4 kids & live in Wisconsin
posted 22nd Feb
Let them do it, if it lasts longer than a few years and/or they talk about hating their body and want to harm themselves then it's probably a gender identity problem. I'd look into help for their transition regardless of age if any of that went on.
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I'm due August 25th (a boy), have 4 kids & live in Illinois
posted 23rd Feb
Quoting ♫ boobook ♫:" Regardless of physical appearance? 3, 5, 7, 9, 11, 13, adult? If they knew the difference between a boy ... [snip!] ... a teenager? Would you allow them to paint their nails, wear dresses etc without a second thought or would readily correct them?"

Depends on the age. If it was 3 or 5, I'd probably thought he/she was being silly or going through some sort of phase. If it was 10 or older, I'd take it more seriously.
I'd let them express themselves however they wished.  
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posted 23rd Feb
I love BG. Seriously.  
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I have 3 kids & live in Washington
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