How to leave

Ok so I'm in a bit if an abusive relationship. I want out but everytime I try to leave he won't let me. So how would you leave. I love him and don't want to hurt him but I need out of this relationship. Any advice is appreciated.

Quoting Isaac's mommy  :" Ok so I'm in a bit if an abusive relationship. I want out but everytime I try to leave he won't let me. ... [snip!] ... So how would you leave. I love him and don't want to hurt him but I need out of this relationship. Any advice is appreciated."

When he leaves for work (or anywhere else) pack your bags and leave!

<blockquote><b>Quoting amor♥:</b>" When he leaves for work (or anywhere else) pack your bags and leave!"</blockquote>




That's what I thought about, but he's made so many threats towards me. And I guess I just feel bad for possibly hurting him.

Quoting Isaac's mommy  :" <blockquote><b>Quoting amor♥:</b>" When he leaves for work (or anywhere else) ... [snip!] ... That's what I thought about, but he's made so many threats towards me. And I guess I just feel bad for possibly hurting him."

Call the police and tell them he is threatening you. Don't feel bad for hurting him. If he treated you the right way, you wouldn't be leaving. You deserve to be treated well and loved not abused.

Quoting Isaac's mommy  :" <blockquote><b>Quoting amor♥:</b>" When he leaves for work (or anywhere else) ... [snip!] ... That's what I thought about, but he's made so many threats towards me. And I guess I just feel bad for possibly hurting him."

If he doesnt know where you are, he would have to find you to follow through with threats. Call the police and get a restraining order once you leave. Then contact them if he makes contact with you

As for hurting him, smurf him. He is abusing you, he doesnt care about you.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Juggernog-aholic:</b>" Call the police and tell them he is threatening you. Don't feel bad for hurting him. If he treated you the right way, you wouldn't be leaving. You deserve to be treated well and loved not abused."</blockquote>




This. The time has passed for his feelings.

When it comes to a relationship that is bad or abusive. Having support from a friend would be great. Back you things when he is gone and just leave. If you feel that it would turn into something worst. Call the police. I am sure they will be able to help you through the process and protect you if needed.

I'm sorry you're going through that OP   Before DH, I was in an abusive relationship for 6+ years. After trying everything and always being forced to come back due to multiple suicide attempts by him overdosing on pills, and numerous threats of more suicide attempts, I was forced to leave with all my things and not tell him where I was. Once I was gone, I let him know it was over for good. I was prepared to call the cops and have him hospitalized if necessary. I know you said he made threats, and I wasn't sure if you were referring to threats against you or against himself (both of which can be abusive), so if he's making threats against himself, be prepared to call the police and have him hospitalized so he can get help and move on.
I know how hard it can be to leave an abusive relationship. One of my good friends had to move out of state to escape her abusive ex. Good luck hun. It may not be easy but you will feel much better when it's over. No one deserves to be abused.