What would you think????

Say you have been cloth diapering for a long time and you are in a relationship with someone new that you have a baby with. You buy a ton of expensive cloth diapers and tell him that its important not to put them in the dryer (because you have had the dryer ruin an entire stash before). He says ok but you catch him putting them in the dryer.

You try to talk about it and he says "oh i looked on the tag and it says tumble dry low"

So you exlain that no matter what it says you have had this kind before and it gets ruined. And start to feel that he just thinks you are ridiculous and won't even say it but first chance he gets he does something different. So you push the issue and ask if he doesn't believe you. He says that he believes the company BUT

He believes that YOU believe that they will run the diapers.

Would you assume that he is telling you that you are delusional, or something to the sort? That you obviously don't know what will actually happen, but you obviously think that is what will happen.

I guess I'd feel like he A) thought I was being paranoid/overly cautious and making things harder than they needed to be. B)I'd also feel like he was making it known in a passive aggressive way that he didn't want to have to bother with washing cloth diapers.

Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:" I guess I'd feel like he A) thought I was being paranoid/overly cautious and making things harder than ... [snip!] ... feel like he was making it known in a passive aggressive way that he didn't want to have to bother with washing cloth diapers."

See that is what I thought too >.< but apparently I am a horrible person for reading between the lines. I twist everything he says. Smurf relationships.

No, I would think he is trying to justify what he did, because, you know, men can NEVER be wrong or do the wrong thing.

Also, I would not have my new boyfriend doing my laundry but that' a total "to each her own" type thing.

I would be offended and maybe even a little hurt that he believed the tag over my actual experience.

Quoting Supafly★:" No, I would think he is trying to justify what he did, because, you know, men can NEVER be wrong or do ... [snip!] ... do the wrong thing. Also, I would not have my new boyfriend doing my laundry but that' a total "to each her own" type thing. "

Yeah, its HIS kids laundry so I think every once in a while he can wash his daughters diapers.

Quoting JessCleavage:" I would be offended and maybe even a little hurt that he believed the tag over my actual experience."

He did this with heating breastmilk the other day. I left very careful instructions and believed he had been following them. Then came home to find a bottle in actively boiling water.

Quoting Supafly★:" No, I would think he is trying to justify what he did, because, you know, men can NEVER be wrong or do ... [snip!] ... do the wrong thing. Also, I would not have my new boyfriend doing my laundry but that' a total "to each her own" type thing. "

 

If my new boyfriend volunteered to wash my laundry I'd be all over that....and that was totally irrelevant to the question at hand...wasn't it?

Quoting TantricLemons:" Yeah, its HIS kids laundry so I think every once in a while he can wash his daughters diapers."

Like the other poster said, he just might be trying to get out of it - you'll worry he won't do it correctly, so you'll just do it yourself. That's how my DH is anyway lol.

He is not my new boyfriend I was just trying to clarify that my experience cloth diapering in the past has not been with him.

Quoting TantricLemons:" See that is what I thought too >.< but apparently I am a horrible person for reading between the lines. I twist everything he says. Smurf relationships."

No way, he pretty much did say that the diapers would be fine in the dryer since the company said they would be, and that you were either remembering wrong, misinformed, paranoid, whatever with the whole "i believe that you believe they'll be ruined" thing.

Like this is your first rodeo using cloth diapers.

Quoting TantricLemons:" He did this with heating breastmilk the other day. I left very careful instructions and believed he had been following them. Then came home to find a bottle in actively boiling water."

 

Maybe he's just trying to assert his say so in how things are handled with the little chunk of woman? (she's sooo stinking cute btw   I love her face when she frets her eyebrows in concentration  )

Quoting Supafly★:" Like the other poster said, he just might be trying to get out of it - you'll worry he won't do it correctly, so you'll just do it yourself. That's how my DH is anyway lol. "

He does this with other things too. If it comes out of my mouth its likely to be wrong. He doesnt say so but when i am gone does it the way he wants.

Quoting TantricLemons:" He is not my new boyfriend I was just trying to clarify that my experience cloth diapering in the past has not been with him."

I misunderstood. It doesn't matter either way - I was just saying what I would do/think.

Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:" No way, he pretty much did say that the diapers would be fine in the dryer since the company said they ... [snip!] ... with the whole "i believe that you believe they'll be ruined" thing. Like this is your first rodeo using cloth diapers."

THAT pissed me off. That sentence made me want to punch him in the face.